What do you mean, I'm in charge and you're in charge?

I am the head of the family, but you have the final say.

This refers to being in charge of housework and having the right to decide on family affairs. Judging from the storm, Mrs. Shen can be said to be the real master of the whole family, and her eldest brother Shen always listens to her arrangement.

Now it mainly refers to the status of both sides in the relationship between the sexes.