Why did Zeng Guofan let his eldest daughter marry a loafer?

The premise of asking this question is that Zeng Guofan is good at reading fortune. There is a book circulating in the society called Bing Jian, which is said to have been written by Zeng Guofan. Then someone publicized Zeng Guofan's story of choosing a husband, so since he is looking for a husband for his daughter, the son-in-law will not be very bad. At this time, there are usually reversal articles. It is generally believed that Zeng Guofan's daughter and husband are not generally poor.

First of all, the eldest daughter had a bad relationship with her husband Yuan Yusheng. Over time, she got depressed and never gave birth to a child again. The scene at night is very bleak.

Followed by the second daughter Zeng, her husband's family is poor, and the family is still harmonious, which is reasonable among the five sisters.

The third daughter Zeng and her husband Luo are both generals. He is also very grumpy, slightly uncomfortable, or slightly influenced by emotions, and immediately goes on the rampage, while his mother-in-law has a worse temper, ranking first in the world and talking nonstop.

The fourth daughter Zeng, whose husband's name is Guo Yiyong, died after three years of marriage. Zeng Ji Chun raised her children by herself, and at the age of 35, she died herself.

From this point of view, Zeng Guofan's skill level and face level are indeed average, and even become a reduction. But is this really the case? Is it really good to put all the blame on Zeng Guofan and then create an image of a parent who killed all his daughters to vent their anger, as if he had understood the historical truth?

We abandon Zeng Guofan, a teacher of yin and yang who sees through everything, and only regard him as a parent, which is more conducive to discovering the truth. First of all, Yuan Yusheng, Zeng's husband and eldest daughter, had a good conduct before and after marriage for several years. The subsequent depravity is beyond anyone's imagination. Therefore, Zeng Guofan said: "I didn't expect him to be so bad at this point. The next day, it was a religious belief." It seems that Zeng Guofan didn't think that he would tell fortune and be familiar with things. Some people think so, others think so, but does this have anything to do with Zeng Guofan? Yuan Yusheng later became a bad student. Zeng Guofan's idea is that if he still does not repent, Ceng Jize (Zeng Guofan's eldest son, diplomat and politician) will immediately find someone to teach him a lesson in the camp. The son-in-law was ordered to do things and hone him. As a result, the son-in-law was so outrageous that he ate, drank and gambled, so he arrested the servant and entourage of the bad guy Yuan Yusheng and beat him half to death with a club. Yuan Yusheng tried to commit suicide by swallowing opium, and was later rescued. Later, his wife took it to apologize to her father-in-law. Since then, it has really improved a lot, and Zeng Guofan is also relieved. Later, he suffered from depression and died at the age of 29. Zeng Guofan was very sad. "The old environment is decadent and sad." The old environment here is decadent, and Zeng Guofan is talking about himself.

Look at the second daughter Zeng, who married Chen Songsheng. Attention! I once fell in love with Chen Songsheng. Chen Songsheng's father and Zeng Guofan were scholars in the same year. Chen Songsheng and Zeng were childhood friends and loved each other. Later, Chen Songsheng's parents died, and the couple got married and lived under the control of Zeng Guofan. I was infertile. Thanks to Chen Songsheng's efforts, the family was originally very rich, but Chen Songsheng's brother never came back. His sister-in-law was depressed, and they helped her treat her, so the family was very poor. My sister-in-law adopted her children to them before she died, so they also had their own daughters.

Next is the third daughter Zeng. Her husband is really grumpy and her mother-in-law is really busy. But Zeng Guofan didn't want to promise this marriage. Later, General Luo Zenan insisted on getting engaged to his family, and Luo Zenan died. Zeng Guofan tried his best to arrange the wedding of his daughter and Luo. And try to make Luo change, educate Luo more, write a word "forbearance" and hang it in the son-in-law's room. Zeng Guofan later took his son-in-law to his side to experience. Luo did a good job and insisted on reading and studying. Zeng Guofan was very satisfied with him. Note that when I was at home, only my mother-in-law was difficult to serve, and it was unusual, but it was not Zeng Guofan's fault.

The fourth daughter died early with her husband, so there is nothing to say.

Black Zeng Guofan's people tried to portray Zeng Guofan as a blind parent, but also deliberately ignored Zeng Guofan's fifth daughter. That is, the famous governor's wife, known as Chongde's old man and talented woman, everyone, Jutai. "Live eight, children and grandchildren, long life, both expensive and virtuous. Teenagers inherit family studies, work books, and good poems. The regular script they make is graceful and sincere, and people compete for treasures. " The picture below shows the family portrait of Chongde's 90th birthday:

Generally speaking, Zeng Guofan's eldest daughter married early and there is no way to change it. Yuan Yusheng later became a bad student. Unexpectedly, Zeng Guofan persuaded him to get rid of it, but the eldest daughter was hit too hard and died young because of depression. The second daughter is the love of childhood friends, and the relationship between husband and wife is very harmonious. After the third daughter married the general, the husband and wife were harmonious, the son-in-law was his admirer, and the daughter was angry with her mother-in-law. The fourth daughter's husband died young, and she was angry with her mother-in-law. The fifth daughter is a first-rate woman in the world. She is rich and virtuous.

On the whole, the daughter of the Zeng family can embody all kinds of human beings. The marriage of Zeng Guofan's family is more complicated. It is not that Zeng Guofan is completely free to choose, and sometimes it is quite helpless. But in desperation, he also wants to do everything possible to transform what can be transformed. An article accused Zeng Guofan of deliberately destroying his children. Do you think this is possible? Is Zeng Guofan idle? Just because you think your parents deliberately destroyed you, you can't frame Zeng Guofan with ancient satire and blame him for what didn't happen. Don't blame Zeng Guofan's most common evil mother-in-law for bullying her daughter-in-law, which is not good.