[Psychoanalysis of Gambler (3)]

Psychological Analysis of "Gamblers" (3)

Gambling is an entertainment game called "zero-sum game" by mathematicians, because the sum of the final profits of all parties involved in the game is "zero".

With the expansion of desire and lack of self-control, "gamblers" came into being. They even regard gambling as their main means of profit and way of making a living. They are not mathematicians or game scientists, but they have their own theories and algorithms. We call it "gambler fallacy", which is characterized by always believing that one's expected goal will come. Just like in roulette, if red and black appear several times in a row, the chances of red appearing next time will increase. If it's not this time, it will be more certain next time. In fact, the probability of each game being red or black is 50%, but they always believe in the principle of "irrationality" and do not bow to fate. If the expected results don't appear, they will fight harder and harder, double their bets and constantly improve their chips, hoping to recover their losses and double their profits in one fell swoop. Supported by the spirit of "knowing what you can't do", they will have more illusions of winning until they completely collapse.

Gamblers have some common psychological characteristics:

(1) I just want to get rich by accident, and I don't want to work and start a business to get rich;

(2) Dare to put all your eggs in one basket and take risks, even at the cost of life;

(3) In order to achieve the goal, you can do whatever it takes.

Gambling is to gamble your luck and money and go to the blog. This is an uncertain process and a situation that no one can control. It is no exaggeration to say that it is entirely by luck. The gambler lost the bet and wanted to win it back, so he slowly got deeper and deeper. Actually, everyone who gambles is a loser in the end.

The most common gambling in life is playing mahjong and poker. We will see many people doing nothing and turning gambling into their jobs. They go to work on time every day, regardless of their relatives and family. This is a pathological gambling phenomenon and has nothing to do with entertainment.

It is understandable that gambling belongs to entertainment, and family members occasionally have small entertainment during the Chinese New Year holiday. They belong to a kind of entertainment psychology, which accounts for the majority and can be understood.

But for the morbid gambling psychology, we can actually be summarized into two parts as a whole, one is greed psychology, and the other is luck psychology. These two kinds of psychology often occur at the same time and induce you to act at the same time.

Greedy psychology

Gamblers are greedy people. Since gambling, everyone wants to win. What they won was money. The great desire for money can make a person's heart fall into darkness. They will make you sink deeper and deeper, completely forget whether your investment and return are in direct proportion, and also make you forget other beautiful things in life, only knowing that you blindly pursue the stink of copper, lose the belief of hard work, and rely on gambling to get satisfaction.

fluke mind

We can say that buying lottery tickets is also a kind of gambling, but this bet is made by ourselves and depends entirely on our luck. The reason why so many people buy lottery tickets is that many people dream of becoming rich with 2 yuan, and they are all lucky. In the same way, it is really good to win a bet once, and you can get benefits without working. But how long can this victory last? Next time you lose, you want to earn it back. You will think that you lost this time, but you may not lose next time, so you will invest more. Actually, it's all luck.

Even if you win the whole world, you can't win gambling!

Gambling, how many people leave each other, how many white-haired people send black-haired people, as the saying goes, gambling for a long time will lose, but many people are still stubborn and bent on making a fortune by gambling, but they don't know that they are going further and further on the wrong road until their families are ruined!

Let me tell you the real thing that happened around me. Lao Liu, 62, is from Nantong, Jiangsu. He was a legend all his life. At first, he made a fortune by lottery. I don't know how much money he has. According to my uncle, his family has never broken meat all year round, and he doesn't go out for less than 3000 yuan. I think people in that era had a deep understanding of the purchasing power of 1000 yuan in the 1980s. In the early 1990s, he went to Shenzhen to resell tapes and CDs. The last time I saw him was two years ago, because I pushed the row of wine. For five years, the family was surrounded, and my son left him and took grandma Liu. Lao Liu earns his living by doing odd jobs in Anda Street, and now he doesn't know where he has gone. I hope he is safe. After all, I treat me like a nephew. I hope reading this article can serve as a warning. Usually you can play cards with friends and family to relax. Really participate in gambling or think twice before doing it!

What kind of gambling is absolutely untouchable?

First, Pai Jiu, commonly known as dominoes, is easy to understand. However, a master can come up with the idea he wants even if your cards are bad, so be careful not to play with people you don't know.

Second, it is absolutely forbidden to fry golden flowers or tractors for people you don't know. Two people can play with each other!

Third, the new online gambling, commonly known as going through three levels, baccarat, online fishing machines and private lottery websites, can suck you dry unless your brain can beat the computer!

Stop gambling, brother! Basically, they are planted here, and borrowing money to turn over the capital leads to running away! There may be many unpopular ones. I hope everyone will stay away from gambling and cherish life!

Gambling is like a drug addiction. Once you get it, it's hard to give it up.

Generally, people who love gambling have the following psychology:

(1) Curiosity.

At first, they were all curious and "watching". If you watch too much, you will have the impulse to experience it yourself, and you will naturally join the "gambling group".

(2) Entertainment psychology.

Because there is nothing to do at ordinary times and there are not many hobbies and interests, I have to kill time in the casino.

(3) Entertainment psychology.

Playing cards and gambling is regarded as an entertainment activity, and the stimulation of gambling is beyond the reach of other entertainment activities.

(4) Decompression psychology.

With the increasingly fierce social competition, the pressure of work and life is also increasing, and the tired body and mind always want to be released, so they choose gambling to decompress.

(5) the psychology of getting rich.

Thinking that gambling can win money is a way to get rich. Gambling is the only way to survive. It's simple.

(6) fluky psychology.

This is the general psychology of gamblers. If they win a small one at first and want to win again, they will continue to gamble. If you lose the bet, you want your money back. If you lose the bet, you want your money back. It's bad luck to lose today If you continue to gamble tomorrow, you will lose your self-control and never regret it until you die.

Gambling is very addictive.

Skinner's "intermittent reinforcement": When an individual shows a certain behavior, the subsequent events or other stimuli can make the stimulation of behavior have a reinforcement effect. This event is called reinforcement. For example, if Xiao Ming is praised by Lao Wang next door for cleaning, Xiao Ming will show more love for cleaning, and Lao Wang's praise is to strengthen it. Gambling is a variable ratio reinforcement in reinforcement, which is to beat you once every once in a while. This kind of intermittent reinforcement behavior is difficult to fade away and has a great influence on people.

Nowadays, online gambling, including mobile games, has strengthened people's happiness. Sometimes I feel that I can control what I can't control in reality, and I have a beautiful illusion. When this illusion fades, all that remains is fatigue.

In addition, the atmosphere of the casino is also very important. Come to the magnificent hall, there are champagne beauties. Men naturally want to show themselves, attributing winning money to their own skills and losing money to bad luck. This is the psychology of using comparison. After all, men are competitive.

Many aspects of the casino are carefully designed to make your money. From the moment we stepped into this casino, the family wealth disappeared in the blink of an eye.

Your sense organs such as vision and hearing are used by casinos. If you want to live a good life, you must stay away from pornography and gambling.

In recent years, I have been exposed to many psychological problems and crisis events caused by gambling. Some stick to the principle that "small gambling is good for feelings and big gambling is bad for health" and occasionally try their hand. Some people think it's non-toxic. If they want to gamble, they will gamble heavily. In these cases, some just take part of their income to gamble, such as stock trading, foreign exchange speculation, gold speculation and so on. Others do not hesitate to borrow usury to "gamble", ranging from tens of thousands to millions or even millions, even losing their lives, and even ending up in debt, harming their families and friends.

From a certain point of view, society is like a huge casino. Everyone must live in this casino and enrich the hope of tomorrow with their own efforts. The object of gambling is not only money, but also location; There is the stability of political power and the victory or defeat of war; There are opportunities for work and happiness in marriage.

How is the gambler's psychology tempered?

I. Regional environmental factors

If a person's city or region belongs to the environment where there are many casinos, and the social "discourse" is all about gambling, then people who come out of this field are greatly influenced by the environment, and the "gambler" mentality is bound to be stronger than that of people in other regions. In this environment, it is relatively difficult for individuals to live a clean and honest life. In this environment, the "greed" in human nature is vividly manifested, and "grabbing the limelight"-everyone wants to get something for nothing and everyone wants to take advantage. Of course, it depends on the individual's own will and perseverance.

Second, the family atmosphere hypnosis

In a family, if parents like gambling, it must be a typical "gambler" mentality. Children who come out of this family are usually infected with the habit of "gamblers"-those who are close to ink are black. The child was exposed to the atmosphere of "gambler" and accepted the atmosphere of "gambler"-this is a kind of "hypnosis" in the real environment. If he wants to stay away from this atmosphere, I'm afraid he needs to work twice or even several times more than others. In this way, when he grew up, he couldn't help but accept the familiar situation and went to the casino.

Third, the mode of husband and wife getting along

Not long ago, I received a case: my husband lost more than 100 thousand gambling, and the couple finally paid it back after several years of hard work, hoping to live a happy life. Unexpectedly, my husband gambled even more this time, and even lost more than 3 million yuan by borrowing usury, and once again fell into infinite pain at the end of his tether.

After a detailed understanding, I learned that both husband and wife are working families. Although both of them have jobs, the husband has no position in the family and has not been recognized by his wife. The wife doesn't trust her husband everywhere, she has to take care of everything and make her own decisions.

Speaking of which, maybe you will know why! Husband and wife need mutual appreciation and recognition in their daily life. Because the husband has no position in the family, he has never been recognized by a strong wife. Therefore, gaining the recognition of self-worth has become his lifelong pursuit.

In the case that ordinary wages cannot be either rich or expensive, only gambling (stock trading) is the only way to take risks. Subconsciously, he needed to earn money to gain his wife's approval, so he embarked on the gambler's road of no return!

When a person grows up, he will encounter all kinds of temptations. This needs a family to face together, but both husband and wife need mutual recognition and support. This kind of marriage and family has the premise of happiness. If a family model is always criticized or even vilified, then the individuals in this family will inevitably be in a vicious circle in the unbalanced model of "criticizing-seeking approval-not getting approval"!

Ding guijun

2065438+May 24, 2008