Whose fault is it that 50 million rural bachelors find it hard to find wives? Who are the three people involved?

After three glasses of wine, he complained to me that he wanted to marry his girlfriend who had been talking for seven years, but the woman demanded that the bride price must be 6,543,800 yuan, not a penny less, which was the lowest bride price standard there. Now his deposit is only 30 thousand, with a gap of 70 thousand.

I know the family situation of the Faxiao family. My father Li Shu broke his leg in his early years and lost his ability to work. My mother works at home and lives in poverty. How could she get so much money at once? If it is 20,000-30,000, our brothers can make up the number for him, but there is nothing we can do about the gap of 70,000.

The atmosphere on the wine table suddenly became dull, and the wine became bitter and tasteless.

The distress from childhood to adulthood is a microcosm of rural people's difficulty in marrying and seeking wives. Nowadays, the countryside is full of sky-high bride price. From 20,000 to 30,000 years ago to 60,000 in recent years, the bride price has barely reached the threshold of 65,438+10,000.

Not only that, many women's parents also ask the man to have a car and a house, and a daughter can marry and often subsidize the family. Therefore, it is difficult for a man with a general family economy in rural areas to find a wife.

Then, since the rural economy is backward, why can't the woman's parents understand? Who gave the woman's parents a big appetite? ?

The influence of the older generation of parents' preference for sons over daughters

This is a very heavy object. In the traditional concept, we should respect the elderly and not criticize the elders. Then, if there is a surplus of older young people in rural areas and bachelors are in the majority, no matter how to avoid it, we can't avoid the "credit" of a generation of old people.

In that closed era, the concept of the older generation still remained in the concept that men are superior to women. A family must have men to inherit the family blood and continue the ancestral line. This has led to a very unequal birth rate between men and women. Especially in rural areas, the imbalance between men and women is serious, which leads to unequal combination between men and women.

I'm not saying that the older generation's parents are wrong. After all, as the younger generation, they are not qualified to judge them, but that's the truth.

The wind of comparison leads to the rule of "convention"

There is an old saying in the countryside: "If you have a daughter, you don't have to worry about getting married." If you have a daughter, you can cross the threshold of blind date without worrying about getting married. Even if your daughter is crooked, someone will love her. This phenomenon makes some mercenary parents sell their daughters as commodities.

Some parents even regard their daughter's marriage as a business, and it is not worthwhile to make a plan for everything. Therefore, the bride price money has become a standard for the woman's parents to measure their daughter's "goods".

However, friends who are familiar with rural areas should know that the wind of comparison in rural areas is very serious, and whose son-in-law gives more money means a good marriage. Therefore, under the prevalence of this wind of comparison, the bride price money naturally rises.

When you sell your daughter at home, you will compare the prices of daughters sold by neighboring families. In the end, everyone will agree on the standard of bride price money: the minimum can not be lower than how much. For example, when I married my wife, she told me that the custom in their hometown was that the minimum standard for marrying a wife should not be less than 88,000, so I could only give 65,438+10,000 yuan.

Rural girls earn their own living, and their eyes become higher.

With the development of society, women's role in society is becoming more and more important, and their social status is gradually improving. Women are no longer housewives who only know how to teach their husbands and children how to knit for women workers.

Especially in modern business society, women have made remarkable progress in many industries, such as WeChat business, e-commerce, and live broadcast among online celebrities. Women's economy has become an important part of the national economy. Therefore, women who earn their own living not only have bulging wallets, but also have a higher eye for choosing a spouse.

Rural girls go to big cities, and after experiencing the charm of the city, it is difficult to go back to rural development. Coupled with their economic independence, spiritual independence, and natural high vision, they simply despise ghosts and teenagers in rural areas.

To sum up, who boosted the appetite of the woman's parents? First of all, it is the result of the older generation's preference for sons, but now it is just eating fruit; Second, the established rules of the wind of comparison in rural areas; Then, the eyes of rural girls became higher and they were unwilling to commit themselves to poor rural boys.

This is a very serious phenomenon. However, if there are problems, there are ways to solve them. In fact, the problem of finding a wife has put forward higher requirements and standards for rural boys. Then rural boys should also work hard, learn more skills and master more profitable jobs before they have a chance to seek a more stable and decent job.

When your own hard power has improved and reached the standard of mate selection for girls, will you still be afraid of the sky-high bride price and the tall eyes of girls? No

So, fight, country boy!