I hate my son. What should I do?

Hello, friend. T-friend, the creator of emotional field, is happy to discuss life problems with you.

After reading your question and thinking about it repeatedly, T friends think that this is a serious topic about how to correctly handle the relationship between children and parents. Judging from the content of the article alone, with all due respect, it is really inappropriate for you to treat your children like this.

First, the care of children must be done from an early age, and in a subtle way, deep feelings can be formed between mother and child. Children are the heart of a mother. Who doesn't love it and don't want to succeed? How much do you hate your son from the heart? This is just your irony. Even if you hate iron and blame your son for being upset, have you ever asked yourself? How much have you paid for your children? People's feelings are not formed in childhood, so you can't cultivate children's sincere feelings for you at any time, because many people's feelings are gradually formed by childhood contact and feelings. I don't understand why you entrust all the children's discipline to his grandmother. This does not mean that children and grandmothers do not get along well, nor does it mean that grandmothers have a low level of education. It means that you have left your son's intimate contact early, and you are indifferent to him, feeling strange and completely heartless. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should keep your son with you, discipline him personally in his childhood, and deepen the feelings between mother and son in frequent daily contact.

Second, children are lively and naughty by nature. You should try your best to persuade, be gentle and let them grow up healthily. But we must treat him with gentle breeze and drizzle. Who didn't grow up? When you come to the park and admire the blooming trees and flowers, have you ever thought that the reason why saplings and flowers can decorate today's beautiful scenery is really the hard work of garden workers in watering, weeding, pruning and controlling pests and diseases when they were young? Now the child is very young and has many physical problems. Aren't you in a hurry to educate, love and love? Moreover, a naughty child as a child is, on the one hand, his nature, on the other hand, his talent and cleverness. You should avoid killing him, be good at finding him, cultivating him and persuading him. After many years, if he can achieve something, then you will really contribute. American inventor Edison was deaf and dropped out of school at an early age. Thanks to the education of his virtuous mother, he was able to make later inventions. Otherwise, mankind will face more and longer nights.

Third, you have to pay ten times the price to correct every bad detail of your child. Once you miss the opportunity, you will regret the infinitely clever children, who always make the family full of joy, while the dull children always worry the mother. The article also talked about many problems of his son, such as cowardice and introversion, poor initiative, incorrect learning attitude and strong dependence. Parents must attach great importance to it and carefully observe and understand that some of them are also caused by parents. Your son grew up with his grandmother, who was too fond of him, too dependent on his parents and far away from his playmates. Therefore, he is introverted and withdrawn. You have to let him have more contact with people, especially his playmates around him, and take part in group activities such as games. If it really doesn't work, he will ask a psychiatrist for help. His study is not good. You should go to school to understand, interact with the teacher, strictly supervise and correct his learning posture. Grandma is old, and many educational concepts are very old. She has no choice but to teach her grandson in her studies. Suggest that she ask for tutor or self-study. Childhood is a critical period for growing up, learning knowledge and spreading etiquette. You can't ignore it at all, otherwise it will delay your child's life and make you regret it later.

To sum up, parents should do everything possible to deal with the relationship with their children, especially the emotional cultivation of children, and the management of learning should be put in the first place. Don't take it lightly, even fantasize, sow the fire of hatred between you and your child early. Look around, where are the adults and children in the world? Isn't this even more ridiculous?

Friends, let's call it a day. Thank you for reading and correcting me.

After reading your question, I think you have a problem. I am telling the truth. Why do you hate your son? Mother and child are connected to each other, which proves that you care too little about your children. Grandma takes care of too many children. How many mothers hate their children? What did you ask? Now you have time to spend with your children, know what they want, communicate with them more, buy them something useful to study and cook their favorite meals. In two months, your children will love you and you will love them. You must be patient, praise them more and criticize them less. You can try what I say.

The subject is a loving mother, angry because she cares and wants to be better because she cherishes it!

Children have been brought up by their elders since childhood, and they are not close to their parents and have alienated feelings. First of all, as a mother, if you don't always look at your children with critical and complaining eyes, but learn to appreciate and accept them, there will be many problems.

But what about this kind of question? Parents have responsibilities. You can't put all the responsibilities that children should bear in the process of growing up on the elderly. Moreover, as soon as they see their children's shortcomings and mistakes, they accuse the elderly of having problems in education. Then why don't parents do their duty to educate their children? Why are children absent when they are growing up?

Parents should be the guiding lights in the process of children's growth, but you are not there. Shouldn't you blame yourself and feel guilty? Because children don't obey their parents' wishes and grow up according to their parents' requirements, you must hate him, despise him and laugh at him. ...

Have you considered the feelings of children?

I was not accompanied by my parents since I was a child. In his young mind, I decided that I was not liked, accepted and loved by my parents.

Feelings need ties and connections, giving and love. You should cultivate feelings with your children first. Use your love, tolerance and understanding to correct children's bad living habits and teach them to live a correct lifestyle.

"Women are weak, mothers are strong", which is vast and vast. Only maternal love is the greatest!

My son was brought up by my grandmother, and I hate children very much. What should I do? In fact, this reason may be that the child is so big that you rarely communicate with each other! Not to interact together, or do some parent-child activities together!

His grandmother took care of you since childhood, because there is a gap between you and you, and there is also a gap between you. Children will feel strange when they see you, but you see children everywhere. How to solve such a problem? In fact, it is not complicated, the main reason is that you have to take the initiative to solve it!

Did you take the children out to play? Enhance feelings while playing! Have you communicated with your children? Talk? If you do nothing but look at him, you want to talk about him when you see him, and you want to criticize and educate him, he will only become more and more alienated and unfamiliar to you!

The best way is that you pay more attention to your children, because children have reached a certain level and you can't manage them in a tough way. In this case, it will arouse his resistance.

Make friends with him slowly, have a heart-to-heart talk and ask her what she likes and what she likes to eat. Take him to eat alone, travel to scenic spots, play and communicate slowly in life. You look at him with a nasty look, and nothing is pleasing to the eye, and then you want to say something wrong with him as soon as you meet him. In this case, his distance will be farther and farther for you.

Children are the meat of their parents, especially as mothers, they must love their children very much. Children grow up to be people they don't like, and all the reasons are related to themselves. Parents are the original sin, because a child's character cultivation, moral habits and so on are influenced and educated by family, especially parents. Letting his son become a person he hates is actually a denial of his own education and a consequence of his own education. Man is a career in itself. Parents have the responsibility to educate their children as soon as they are born. It is their own problem that they have not fulfilled this responsibility. There must be many problems for the elderly to take care of their children. I can only blame myself for not handling this relationship well when my child was young. Now I can only accept tolerance. If there is still time, bring the child to our side. Even if you rent a house, you should separate him from the old man, pay more patience and slowly reverse his bad habits, instead of blindly looking at the children with hatred and blame. But you can't criticize the old man or deny his contribution in front of the child, which will make the child very disgusted, and you can't show your boredom and disgust with the child from your eyes. Let the children feel the love of their parents from the heart. This mentality of the questioner is very unhealthy and violates the ethics of parents. First of all, we must correct this mentality, secondly, we must find more ways to communicate with our children, and finally, we must get the support of our families and find reasons to keep our children close to their parents and separate from the elderly. This may be a difficult and long process, but it must be endured, because the practice of leaving children with parents will pay a price, no matter what the reason.

If I hadn't witnessed it, I couldn't believe that some people would not love their children and even reject them.

I went on a business trip some time ago and stayed at my cousin's house for a while. I witnessed my cousin and his son getting along, only to know that even if the other person is his own child, he may not like it.

My cousin has two children, a boy and a girl. Women are big and men are small. Now girls 15 years old and boys are 8 years old. Because of busy work and frequent business trips, both children were brought up by their grandmothers. Generally, girls are more obedient and boys are more naughty. In addition, the old man has the idea of son preference and dotes on his grandson.

Therefore, my cousin's son has a particularly bad temper. He often bullies other children at school, and parents are often complained. My academic performance is not good, and I have always been the last. Not obedient at school, not obedient at home, except for not daring to bully dad, almost everyone has been bullied by him. Strive for the best in everything and don't show respect to adults. You are always throwing things, yelling and killing people.

Cousin is very kind to her daughter. She has never beaten or scolded her. But I really can't like this son. Forget bad grades. You are not obedient. Just play every day, just want to play. Teachers and parents don't listen to anything. Cousin told him slowly that the child has not changed, neither soft nor hard.

My cousin was in a bad mood when he saw this son. In the end, he was so serious that he didn't like it. He is in a good mood. Sometimes, just because of his appearance, his inexplicable mood becomes bad and angry. He said more than once that he regretted giving birth to this son.

When the old man saw that his son had no love for his grandson, he was very sad, and even felt that the child was pitiful and indulgent. In this way, the more grandma dotes, the more dad hates it. In order not to let himself go home to see his son, my cousin went back to his room as soon as he got off work. He said that only in this way, if you don't watch, can you make yourself not hate your son so much and not always want to hit him. The child was beaten and scolded a lot and hated getting along with his father. That's it. Neither of them likes each other.

Some people are born with no fate, even father, son and mother. It is true that we are destined to be relatives and have no feelings. And some people don't like their children because of the influence of the acquired environment, which determines the development of children's personality and behavior habits. There is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason. If you really can't change yourself and each other, you can only keep your distance. It doesn't hurt to have a distance. But for underage children, even if they don't like it anymore, they should be brought up. They can't teach themselves, so they can only find other suitable relatives to teach them. There is no best method, only the most suitable method.

When the child became an adult, he said to his parents: I am not a blank sheet of paper, I am a painting of myself. You must come and add a few strokes casually. This is your achievement.

But you are lazy and lack talent. If the painting is destroyed, you will lose patience and throw me into the wastebasket, leaving me to fend for myself.

But you will let outsiders see that when you lose me, you cry hysterically-how much you love me and how much I have no dispute.

So, I hate you.

Every child is attached to his mother when he is young. Your child was not accompanied by his parents when he was a child. Instead of feeling guilty, you hate him. It's unfair to him.

Children are the most sensitive. You take it for granted that you hide your dislike of him very well, and this truth is felt by children. So he hates you, too.

To change this situation, you must accompany him first. Love your son from the bottom of your heart Spend more time with him. Study and play with him. Accompany him to do what he likes. Instead of reaching out and hitting him if you are not satisfied.

The most important thing is to learn to look at problems from the perspective of children.

My cousin's daughter is five years old. One day she put a big bath towel on the sofa and went to the toilet. By the time she came out, her daughter had spread a clean bath towel on the ground and jumped on it.

Cousin was about to lose her temper with her daughter when she heard her say, Mom, this cloth is so soft, like a cloud in the sky. I am flying in the clouds now!

With that, he stretched out his arms and danced and laughed on the bath towel.

My angry cousin looked at the girl's smiling face and smiled.

This is the difference between adults and children: what adults see in their eyes is just a dirty bath towel, while what children see in their eyes is cloud color and happiness.

Raising a child well is a huge project, which requires a lot of time and blood. As a qualified mother, we must first give our children enough love. Loved children will never grow up well, but they will never grow crooked.

I can't believe some people hate their children. From the tone of your writing, I can't feel that you once loved your children a little, but only hated them. You want your child to live the way you want, but you never try to set a good example for him, like him, care for him, love him, educate him, and let him get the warmth of the family! But just want to enjoy the results easily. There is no such thing in the world! You can put yourself in others' shoes. Your parents hate you very much. Are you willing to listen to them?

No one can be a parent easily, and even if there are, they are unqualified parents. How can unqualified parents cultivate excellent children? I hope you can ask yourself, why did the child become like this? In fact, children grow up like a little snail. No matter how fast you whip, it's no use. You should guide carefully and wait patiently. Your child grew up with his grandmother, somewhat lacking in love. With the love of the older generation, he will be more rebellious in character. Finally, I wish your family harmony, unity and friendship.

[People who like the new life are watching, click on the top right to pay attention] The topic says, I hate my son very much. What should I do? I really have such a real case here to share with you. She is my neighbor. She lost her husband at the age of 29, when she had a three-year-old son. Her son has been active, naughty and disobedient since childhood. My female neighbor was young at that time. Shortly after her husband's death, she talked about a person who had no time to take care of her son, so she gave her son to her grandparents. Children should be brought up by grandparents, and mothers don't spend too much energy and time on their sons. From elementary school to junior high school, this child has never been close to his mother, refused to listen to her mother, and even talked back to her mother, so her mother was very upset about it. She hated her son very much.

Anyway, how can mothers in the world not like their sons? My female neighbor has put a lot of brains into this. She heard that there may be something wrong with her son's name, and the name has an influence on his character, so she asked a fortune teller to rename her son and went through the formalities of renaming at the police station and school.

However, after a while, my son is still the same, and there is no change. At that time, my son was graduating from junior high school, and my female neighbor divorced because of marital and emotional problems. Later, my son went to high school, and he has been living on campus. My mother can only take her children home every weekend, and her feelings with her son have not changed much. Later, my son went to college in our city for the college entrance examination.

Someone advised me, a female neighbor, to be closer to her son for her own future. How to approach? Need to live, need time. My female neighbor really works hard. She applied to be an aunt in the boarding house of her son's university, so that she could be closer to her son, take care of him at ordinary times and make up for the lack of her son in the past.

It's not your son you hate, it's your grandmother who raised the child. Because your mother-in-law brought up her children, many habits are similar to grandma's. So, let's look at the essence!