How to solve the problem of finding an object

Question 1: I have been unable to find a partner. How can I solve this problem? If I can't find it, I will either raise the basic conditions or lower the requirements.

Question 2: How to solve the problem of unsatisfactory marriage? Generally speaking, bad marriage refers to the difficulty in finding a partner, frustration in love, late marriage, unhappiness after marriage, and finally divorce. Divorce is the end of marriage, and their fate is over. Getting married is a big deal, not a joke. Since the two are engaged, it means that there must be fate, so don't divorce easily. Here, specifically, how to deal with the traditional problem of unsatisfactory marriage:

First, get married late.

In ancient times, people put forward the boundary of late marriage after the age of 28. At this age, my career is basically stable, my outlook on life and love is relatively mature, and I have experienced all setbacks. It is said that treating and choosing marriage wisely can avoid the formation of marriage disaster.

Second, find someone with a history of marriage to marry.

If there is obvious information in the eight characters that marriage is not smooth, you can find a divorced person to marry. This is a marriage for yourself, but it is a marriage for the other party. Generally speaking, this marriage can also be regarded as two marriages, so the second marriage is avoided. Objectively speaking, people who have experienced marriage setbacks will treat marriage correctly and calmly and accumulate some mature experience, thus cherishing the hard-won marriage.

Third, find a suitable person to marry.

People with disharmony have a high probability of divorce, but people with harmonious feelings often feel sorry for each other. Take Qi Mei as an example, the probability of divorce is very small, so it is also a good way to adjust the unhappy marriage, and it is more effective from the beginning of choosing love.

Fourth, find someone who has a sheep blade day in the eight characters to get married.

The reason is that the two sides are tied to each other, which may also avoid second marriage.

Fifth, adjust from the direction you like.

Every Chinese character is conducive to the preference of love and marriage. If you can find this position and "Taobao", maybe you can find a suitable marriage partner. Similarly, if the marriage is not smooth, you can also strengthen the feng shui in this direction.

Sixth, adjust the color.

Each constellation is also the favorite color of marriage and love. Color is the direct embodiment of the five elements, and color can affect people's mood and psychological state. If you can wear this favorite color when dating, you can adjust their sexy mood, enhance their feelings and increase the possibility of success. Similarly, if two people's feelings are cracked, they can also achieve pleasing effects by adjusting the space and color of clothes, which is also conducive to emotional marriage.

Seven, from the goods adjustment.

Including feng shui supplies, fun ornaments and five elements ornaments. Sometimes it is found that some couples often quarrel because an item in the bedroom belongs to the owner or likes to make mistakes with the five elements. If someone is a rabbit, but sleeps in a golden phoenix bed decorated with phoenix pictures, he is often annoyed and angry. Everyone and every couple have different preferences for the use of the five elements, so we should adjust these five elements according to different people. Therefore, it is best for couples to adjust some items that are suitable for both parties to like to use the five elements and are in harmony with their genus. Don't blindly follow other people's suggestions, listen to the "luck in a few months" of some masters, and put some items at will. If you put them wrong, wouldn't it be self-defeating and asking for trouble?

Eight, psychological adjustment

A bad marriage is essentially a disease. Where is this disease? We must find it and then prescribe the right medicine. First of all, we should start from ourselves, adjust our mentality, establish a correct view of love and marriage, and avoid falling in love, but we must know ourselves and ourselves in order to deal with it calmly. In love and marriage, giving and forbearing may be a virtue, but blindly giving and forbearing may encourage each other's laziness and domineering, lose the balance of marriage, form different emotional marriages, and be doomed to failure.

Question 3: How to resolve the unsatisfactory consequences of marriage in this world? The methods and principles are the same, whether seeking love and family happiness of husband and wife or seeking a happy marriage. There are many successful examples on the Internet. You can search for it yourself. Just search for keywords such as "reading classics to promote marriage", "reading Buddha to promote marriage", "releasing people to promote marriage" and "promoting marriage". It is true that a yogi does not tell lies. Here are a few examples for your reference. (In order to be able to publish, some content with links has been deleted. )

Personals together.

In the case of marriage induction (1), no wife can ask Guanyin.

Text: Miao Yin Lyman.

The biggest worry of contemporary young people is how to find a suitable partner. My master told me in 1997 that I should give the task of finding a wife to avalokitesvara. To tell the truth, I dare not ask Guanyin Bodhisattva for my own benefit, except when I am in dire straits. However, with the growth of age, the troubles of finding a partner also follow. My horoscope has a strong message that marriage is not going well, so I have been worried for many years.

After several emotional setbacks, I was originally poor and charitable. By 200 1, I am 27 years old, with only 8,000 yuan in my pocket (I need at least100000 to get a wife here), and I am often ill. My emotional torture, lack of money and incurable disease forced me to have the cheek to ask avalokitesvara and apply the principles and methods of transforming fate in Buddhism to change.

So, I changed Master Yin Guang's requirement for my son to marry, vowed to do a thousand good deeds, read popular books three times a day, and worship Bodhisattva forty-nine times, and always kept the immoral precept of not doing it, urging my mother to read Buddha and survive in the West. I ask the Bodhisattva to give my wife the standard of 1, to honor my mother, to support me to learn Buddhism, to make up for my economy, and to help my future.

After half a year, the induction came. My mother went to draw lots at the beginning of the fifth lunar month, and the result was that she could get married after the fall. But I wasn't dating anyone then. My mother was very surprised. She went to draw another constellation in late May of the lunar calendar. This sign is even more terrible. It is said that June 19 of the lunar calendar is a lucky day for avalokitesvara to get married. Because this marriage was arranged by Guanyin Bodhisattva, I don't believe it at all. I still don't have a date. There are only 20 days before June 19, and even then, it took about a year to fall in love. How can I possibly hear that I can get married in more than ten days, let alone an intellectual? But how did this person know that I was asking for Guanyin? I wonder in my heart!

A few days later, a friend introduced me, but I couldn't say it. I didn't want to see it at first, but my friend was so enthusiastic that I had to see it. When we met, my wife looked a little dark because of the dark light in the coffee shop. On the whole, I feel sick and don't want to continue. At that time, I really couldn't see what my wife looked like. First of all, the light is very dark. Second, I only looked at it once or twice. But at noon the next day, I had a dream when I was sleeping. I dreamed that my wife smiled at me and woke me up. I complained to myself, "That's it." Because in my dream, she was clearer than I saw in reality, that is, the day before yesterday, the clothes I wore were exactly the same as a dress in her closet (I didn't know what she looked like before, let alone what the clothes were like).

Later, when we met again, I realized that my wife was beautiful, but I couldn't see it clearly that day. On June 18, I met my wife's parents (according to the custom, when I met her parents, my marriage was half done), and the timing was so accurate that I was really shocked. After marriage, all five criteria for seeking bodhisattva have been met. My wife is virtuous and filial to my mother, not only supporting me to learn Buddhism, but also following me. She has helped me a lot financially and given me a lot of support in my future.

Suggestion: Your wife is your lifelong companion, which directly affects your life trajectory. It is still very important to find a like-minded wife, so please ask the Bodhisattva to bless you. Looking for a wife based on the Indian owner's search for a child seems to have a good effect. You might as well give it a try, because everyone says it's inspiring to find children.

Marriage induction case (2) I don't want to be born on the same day in the same year, but I hope to be born on the same day in the same year.

Zhijing's brother's successful husband-seeking experiment

I very much agree with your brothers' views and successfully conducted an experiment eight years ago:

At the beginning of 1996, I figured out the truth of asking Buddha and Bodhisattva to find a spouse for myself, and then I figured out that I should find someone who suits me instead of the public standard. So I thoroughly analyzed my own situation and set such criteria for choosing a spouse: kindness, integrity, good at housework, humor, and natural happiness ...

Question 4: It is particularly difficult to get along with someone in the future. What did you say?/Sorry? Don't think too much. Your love is the most important.

Question 5: Everything is not going well now, and neither are the people I deal with. What should I do? Should I call a fortune teller? 30 points fortune-telling has wool. Use yourself to reflect on what you have done badly. It's no use telling fortune with this book in the future.

Question 6: I want to know whether my marriage with my favorite object is smooth or not. How to calculate it? Don't pay attention to such illusory things. Building feelings depends on security, mystery and sustainability, while protecting feelings depends on the management of both parties.

Question 7: Why is the boy's marriage not smooth? I'm 30 years old, and it's hard to find a partner. I am sad. . I am 28 years old and single. Now I don't insist either. Let it be.

I did have problems with my parents because of some things before. Buddha said: people who contradict their parents, if any, will inevitably have bad jobs, marriages and jobs. I think it may be that my conflict with my parents caused widespread indignation and resentment, which is why everything is so bad.

I confess to my parents and heaven.

Therefore, I no longer insist on my marriage. I would rather stay and take good care of my parents for the rest of my life to make up for my sins.

This is my sincere answer.

Question 8: Q: I feel so sad. Is it difficult for girls to find a partner after the age of 25 and find that their relationship has been very smooth? What should I do? Am I destined to be so beautiful in the future? Don't be sad and don't worry. You just haven't met the man who excites you. I think the man who can excite you must be different from ordinary people.

Question 9: What should I do if I can't find someone to talk to because I have a lot of pressure to solve? Do your own thing, don't tell anyone, the road will continue.