Hurry up! ! ! Widowed and forced to get married, ask for advice.

If you are not ready, don't say yes too hastily. Because some things will be regretted if they are not ready. You can euphemistically say that your mother saw a fortune teller and will get married the year after next. Because the other parents are superstitious (otherwise, they wouldn't ask the widow's year), and now you have put forward the advice of the fortune teller, they can't refute this unreasonable thing.