My wife and my ex-wife's four-year-old son are incompatible. What should I do as a husband and father?

It's all meat. You can always split your back, right?

From your description, I think your wife hates your son for three reasons. First, women are emotional animals. She must feel good about herself when she looks at her own children and other people's children. Second, children, it is certain that you are not sensible. It is normal for a 4-year-old child to bully his sister. But in her eyes, it's completely different. ) which adult is not angry with the child? But being angry with one's own children was immediately melted by blood relationship, while being angry with other people's children became more and more. Third and most important. Your son was born to your ex-wife. It would be better if we could find it. It happened that her enemy gave birth to her. If you are kind to your son, you will care less about her. She can easily feel that someone is fighting for her husband. She can't stand it.

The above three points are based on the premise that your wife is not too bad in nature. If your wife is that kind of sinister and cruel woman, it will be even worse for your son.

At present, your wife is not such a bad person. She is just an ordinary woman, dominated by instinct and emotion to do such a thing. You must understand her.

However, at the same time, you should be soberly aware that these contradictions cannot be eliminated casually. Instinct is irresistible and unchangeable. We can't just solve it by "we should communicate more and everything will pass". No matter what you do, the contradiction is there, and it is getting bigger and bigger.

So, you have to bear the responsibility of a man now. Make it clear to your wife: your son is your palm, and she is the back of your hand. If you can choose two, you must have her. The son is also her son. In your heart, your son can't replace you. You will not let your son be unfilial in the future. But you can only choose one. You must choose your son. My son has nothing to rely on except you. If she wants to be with you, she must be kind to her son. If you can't do it, then resolutely leave. However, I think it's better to get together before leaving. Let's not hurt our feelings too much. No one is a bad person, and you will all be single with children in the future. It's not easy.

I suggest you take good care of your wife and son. If both sides are controlled, this family will be saved. Can't control either side. You must live with your son.