What love experiences have you had?

If the other person doesn't, I will repay you with the same degree of love. I should know how to test and force. Cold is cold, and bad is bad.

This is like: if you often chat with each other, but the other person's chat is not enthusiastic and often perfunctory.

You can just ask her, "Are you not in the mood to chat now?"

In this case, everyone will explain or continue to perfunctory: "No, I am just playing basketball."

No matter whether you explain in seconds or don't care about perfunctory, you don't need to reply to him again.

When he comes to you again to explain that there is no positive response,

"I will play ball after work, and my mobile phone is on the edge of the court." Before considering whether to reply.

The cold is to let the other party know that your enthusiasm depends on the positive response of the other party. Either you are cold or I am cold.

For example, Daisy works hard to create good content every day, and you just browse the collection every time, but never praise the feedback. Then Daisy's creative enthusiasm can gradually change from 100 to 0.

If you give this article a compliment, you will be encouraged and helped, you will feel indebted, and you will work harder to output good content to repay you.

2, nothing to quarrel with, no quarrel, no overnight feud between lovers.

"I don't want to argue with you about this now. Let's talk about it tomorrow. " There will be nothing tomorrow.

Some couples usually quarrel over some details, and they are all saving up, and one day they will break out and have a big fight. In this mode of getting along, a big fight is basically goodbye. If there is any contradiction, it's best to discuss it on the same day and then in a few days.

If you fight often, there will be a cold war. Or turn over old scores as soon as you quarrel, which proves that the previous contradictions have not been handled well.

If you look closely, you will find that those couples who quarrel often can't quarrel, while those couples who don't quarrel much will break up.

No matter how romantic love is, it will eventually return to the daily necessities.

If you date more, you will know that he doesn't know everything and can help you solve everything. She is not really gentle, sometimes fierce; When you are cheerful and love to laugh, you really love to laugh, but when you are negative and pessimistic, you will be world-weary, withdrawn and like a depressed person.

After being together for a long time, I found that when she went out to get the courier, she didn't wash her hair or wear a hat for several days. He doesn't wash his socks for days, like a sock storer.

So, don't think of each other too perfectly. No matter how awesome people are, they will also have the shortcomings of ordinary people. No matter how beautiful a fairy is, she will have her own flaws. Learn to tolerate each other and talk about love in the true sense, which is mature love.

If you can give the other person what he wants, he will love you, even more and more.

Boys: 1. Worship II. Become gentle. Be understood.

Girls: 1, sense of security 2, sense of ritual 3, being loved.

Everyone has different love needs. If you grasp each other's needs and do it, then the other person's dependence on you will make him inseparable from you.

Don't be stingy with praise, boys need a sense of worship. Praise is the lowest cost gift in a relationship, but it can get the purest happiness. When you see a good answer in Zhihu, a backhand compliment is the best gift for the answer. You can check the answer at any time in the future, which is very convenient ~

5. Don't love someone as hard as the last five minutes. When you love someone too much, you will have all kinds of perfect requirements for each other.

"He actually returned to WeChat a few minutes late." "He even forgot what festival it is today." -you will begin to doubt that he doesn't love you, and all kinds of brain-reinforcing plots will come out. Finally, you had a big fight and became more and more disappointed in him.

It's not that he doesn't love you, but that you push him too hard. No one can satisfy you with this kind of controlling love.

If you only have 60% love for a person, you will find that you get along well with him, and you will never quarrel over trivial matters again. You can also find someone you don't love so much, but why not restrain yourself and get the one you love wholeheartedly?

Love is not long-lasting, and it is hard to last too long if you are too addicted and too persistent.

6. Find someone who can face the storm together.

Nowadays, couples have such a state, that is, lovers of wine and meat. Play with me, eat with me and chat with me, but when I stop playing and want to solve the problems in my life, there will be a problem: disharmony.

Because they don't have enough tacit understanding and trust, when they encounter life problems, their contradictions will gradually emerge.

For example, long-distance relationships, isolation period can not meet. At this time, this kind of fair-weather couple can easily break up. There are deeper problems, such as showing the worst side because of the pressure of work, how do two people run in? I can invite you or AA to have a small meal, but when it comes to large amounts, such as bride price and RV, who will give in? Two people live together, who wants to take on more housework?

In this case, disharmony will lead to contradictions. From blaming each other to drifting away, falling in love is a kind of pleasure and comfort, and it is also possible to become a collection of negative energy.

7. What kind of person you are will attract people.

If you often feel that the people you attract are not good enough and motivated enough, then you should see if you are also an excellent and motivated person. If you want to improve the quality of pursuers, you must first improve your "quality" and turn yourself into an ideal and beautiful self, so that you can meet a better partner.

8. Give up self-touching and over-paying, and the other person can fall in love with you again.

"Why do I pay so much, but he still doesn't love me ..."

Self-touched dedication is actually a kind of "something for nothing" dedication. Then when is it worthwhile to work hard? Pay when the other party needs it. This kind of effort is what the other party needs and can impress the other party.

9. Every experience will have an impact on your next one.

Everyone will have their own understanding in a relationship, especially those failed experiences.

How to sum up this experience is up to you. Some people blame others for the failure of love, and others don't like themselves enough. Some people blame themselves for their emotional failure. The other person is so beautiful/handsome that I can't hold it.

Every time you pass by, it paves the way for your next mate choice. No matter whether you attribute the reason to yourself or others, you should change your concept of mate selection or business philosophy, so as to ensure that your next relationship is the most perfect and appropriate.

10, don't fall in love with your uncle at the age of college.

If you are looking for:

1, unless your financial ability (whether from family or work) can crush uncle's financial strength.

Unless you are a girl with a royal heart, you have enough reasons and routines to deal with your uncle.

Otherwise, in this relationship, you want to find an uncle to shelter from the wind and rain. As a result, uncle brought all the rain. While you were still thinking, that uncle had left in his pants.

This one is worthy of your praise.

1 1, the boy who planned to take the kidney at the beginning would not be tempted later.

If a boy starts dating you, it's for the kidney. Then don't think that you can make this boy fall in love with you with your charm.

Boys can clearly distinguish whether a girl is just playing or having a long-term relationship.

12, getting married is not "you should" but "you will".

13, don't plan your own and each other's future before meeting your parents.

Don't give up your studies or job opportunities for each other. Such excessive pay will turn into excessive dependence, which will double the pressure on the other party. It is a natural process to talk about marriage. Don't do this until you reach this point.

14, learn to properly manage their own image in each other's hearts.

External image, speech content, eloquence expression and circle of friends can all be managed properly. The better your emotional intelligence, the more your partner will like you.

15, people who are tempted first don't love first, and those who promise later can't let go.

Just like long-distance running, you work too hard at first, but you can't run far at last; If you can advance slowly at first, you can finally sprint to the championship.

If you start chasing ta, you will pour all your enthusiasm, and finally you will definitely stop loving first; If the other person is immersed in this relationship because of your enthusiasm, then you will definitely not let go in the end. Because there's no way to find someone who loves her as much as you do, someone who got 100% love, and even someone who later gave 99% love.

16, you should marry the boy who is full of you, not the boy who is full of him.

"A thousand boys will like 1000 different types of girls, and someone will definitely find your beauty, your shining point and your uniqueness."

I remember there is a very popular video on Tik Tok, which says that boys will dislike each other less and less in the process of communication. Girls will love more and more in the process of communication.

Then from the beginning, you should find a boy who loves you more than you love him, so that he will still love you even if he loves less than at the beginning.

If you find that a boy loves you more than him, then the love behind you will be unbalanced, you will love him very much, and he will only love you a little or even love you.

If boys don't love each other, basically couples will separate, because the cost of cheating or breaking up with boys is lower. And whether we break up or not, we must be separated.

Boys and girls should understand that emotional relationships are always two-way. One-way flow will not last long. Find someone who loves you and manage it well, so that this relationship will not be unbalanced.