Bao Li fortune-telling _ side bag fortune-telling

A visiting relatives is the central idea of visiting relatives (asking names) in the old society. Most of them are: go to the "foundation" to see if the other person's house has body odor. Visits between the two sides were very strict, and they had to visit relatives in addition to outdoors, which was also a simple concept of eugenics at that time. Second, visit "home", distinguish between soil, agriculture, industry and commerce, and seek to match the portal or "climb home". In particular, avoid marrying so-called "low-income" families with low social occupations. Third, when visiting "Dai", we should talk about class ranking, and we should not confuse the word "Zi" (most families have ancestral halls, and each generation has a unified name, such as "German articles are rich", sorted by word). When visiting the "home", the woman should know more about the man's fields, houses, furniture, grain, trees, livestock and tenancy relationship. It also depends on the number of brothers and sisters. This is because "small families move to poverty and everyone is poor" is directly related to the actual situation of family economy. However, the man has slightly lower requirements for the woman's economic conditions, and thinks that "buying pigs without buying pens" doesn't matter. The five interviews with the "target" are the most important and the most difficult. Due to the arranged marriage of parents in feudal times, men and women often could not meet, and the matchmaker played tricks on them, which often caused lifelong pain. There is also a condition when visiting relatives, that is, the age of both parties should be appropriate, the zodiac should match, and many proverbs should be handed down from generation to generation. Such as: "female freshman, there is nowhere to fold the grain", "male junior, Jinshan depends on Yinshan"; "A female junior must eat" and so on are all nonsense without any scientific basis. B. After the betrothal is approved, if both parties intend to get married, the woman will write the date and time of birth, that is, the eight-character handwriting, on grass paper, and wrap it in red paper, which will be given to the man by the matchmaker, which is called "hair-making post". Geng Tie is also called Cao Zhitie. The man was enshrined under the furnace of the ark of God, observing bad luck. No utensils or other ominous signs can appear within three days, otherwise they will be returned to the woman. If there is nothing to do for three days, the man will pay the fortune teller the "eight characters" and calculate whether the eight characters made by Gan Kun and Kun match. There are also a few people who "love being relatives" and don't ask God for advice. When the marriage is approved, the man asks the matchmaker to send debts, money and jewels to the woman's house as a bride price (bride price) on an auspicious day, which becomes a "token" or "bride price". Hai 'an Town must send longan and tea when posting. After being hired, women in Qutang area send candy to relatives and neighbors to show that they are hired. After the engagement, the unmarried son-in-law will send a "door-to-door gift" to the woman's home on holidays. The ceremony of "legislation" is grand and has certain specifications. Generally, pigs, carp, cakes and jiaozi are sent for reunion (homophonic "high school reunion"). The man and the woman also invited relatives and friends to announce their engagement. C. Before preparing for the man's wedding before marriage, you should first agree on the wedding date with the woman, write the formal wedding date on a red post, and send it to the woman by the matchmaker, commonly known as "calling". In addition, the man wants to send a "wedding ceremony", that is, through the matchmaker to talk about the conditions of gift money, clothing, jewelry, compensation, etc., on the grounds that the daughter is young and the dowry has not yet been done; If the negotiation is successful, the man will send a red invitation (commonly known as "day") to confirm the "auspicious day" of marriage. Three days before the wedding, the man gave the woman a "opening ceremony", including "all the clothes on her head" (rouge, pollen, red rope and golden flower), wedding dress (rented rockhopper, imperial robe, colored dress, embroidered skirt and hijab), parents' mat (this is a sign that her daughter keeps coming home), firecrackers for her family, and high (commonly known as the woman must give her son-in-law six kinds of clothes. The day before a woman gets married, there will be a "wine for women" at home, and her parents will teach her the rules of the bride. Those who abused her should pay homage to heaven, earth and ancestors. The day before the wedding, the man went to the woman's house to collect the dowry. Dowry is divided into hard bedding (wood) and soft bedding (new bedding should be sewn by those who have a good fortune to live longer). Among them, carpentry should have three circles (toilet, footbath and soup bucket) (this is not only necessary for women's life, but also means "ternary harmony". The toilet is also called "separate bucket" because people sit on the bucket just like riding a horse. There are red chopsticks (homophonic "chopsticks"), fried rice and toilet paper (sealed with red paper as clips), and red dates, peanuts, longan and chestnuts (homophonic "early birth", which are given to children in the morning and evening) on them. On that day, the man must invite his children and grandchildren to accompany him, warm his sedan chair, make his room and eat warm wine. D. On the wedding day, the man will send a sedan chair to the woman's house before dawn, with a famous lantern to guide the way and a drummer, and the groom will take the matchmaker to sit in the formal sedan chair in front; If the conditions are poor, Hebei will use a boat and Henan will use a bamboo sedan chair (or unicycle) carried by two people. Rich or poor, the bride will never leave. Before the sedan chair arrived at the woman's house, the matchmaker first asked her to pick it up and set off firecrackers. When the door of the woman's house is closed, the man must give her an "opening seal" (this money is reserved for her brother). Then open the door for tea and check whether the gifts meet the requirements (among them, there must be "evergreen", which is planted by both men and women in the courtyard). After drinking tea, the man fired a gun, played music, and "urged makeup" for the first time. After dinner, parents ordered their daughter to get on the sedan chair again and again. If it is a "full day", the bride price will be given after tea and before meals (Hebei will use a boat, Henan will use a car or rely on manpower to pick it up), and the "toilet" will be moved by Xi Niang with a reward. Otherwise, the groom needs to do it himself. Open the door and get off the sedan chair, and introduce makeup. The blessed person combs the bride's hair and dresses up, and the parents order her daughter to get on the sedan chair. When the bride leaves home, she asks her father and brother for old shoes to show that she can't move her land and wealth. When you get on the sedan chair, you should bring the "Three Words True Classics" (instead of the old imperial calendar sealed with red paper) to ward off evil spirits. On the sedan chair, the bride's mother will burst into tears to show her love for her daughter. There will be firecrackers and firelight when crossing the bridge along the road. In some places, the bride's brother holds a lamp to see her off. After the Hebei bride merchant ship, her brother brushed the three corners of the ship with a pan-washing broom, leaving one corner motionless, indicating that the woman's family shared the wealth of the man's family; When sailing, the boat circled the middle of the river three times to show the bride's reluctance to her family. The sedan chair went to the men's house, set off firecrackers and played drums together. When the bride enters the door, she steps on firewood (homophonic "wealth") and crosses the pot of flourishing fire (indicating flourishing sun). My idea: Hai 'an also has several bad habits of robbing relatives, because the man's family is poor or the woman extorts money and gifts indiscriminately, and people are not allowed to take with them in various difficulties. A man is helpless, and sometimes he makes such a decision. Before robbing the bride, her fiance made an appointment to help prepare for the wedding, and then went to the woman's house to try to lure her fiancee out. Everyone hugged her and forced her to go back and get married. This vulgar custom will often lead to long-term disagreement between parents, hurt the feelings of husband and wife, and even lead to adverse consequences. E. Candles and candles A few days ago, the man's relatives and friends came to eat "warm house wine" one after another. The newly-married bed is called a "warm bed". Please ask your long-lived and well-lived relatives to sleep for one night. On the wedding day, the layout of the man's home was completely new; Square red paper should be posted at the entrance of the bridal chamber, or double happiness paper-cut should be posted; Embroidered curtains with auspicious patterns such as "Carp yue longmen" or "Dragon and Phoenix Becoming Auspicious" should be hung at the door of the house; In front of the bride's parents' house, there is also a "filial piety curtain" presented by the bride. At the same time, a pair of red candles were lit in the hall and the bridal chamber, and incense was burning in the furnace, beaming. In addition to affixing couplets on the door of the new house, such as "Liang Jia case, the descendants of the Guo family are full of flowers" or "Haiyan leads a teenager to the Phoenix Que, and a river fish jumps over the Longmen", there are also two baskets hung on it (with red paper in the middle, it is said to ward off evil spirits and prevent some visitors from colliding with the bride and groom's zodiac. Paying tribute to the bride is a formal wedding ceremony. The order is to worship heaven, land, ancestors, parents, newlyweds, and then to the "house delivery" program. Most of these ceremonies are directed by Xi Niang and presided over by happy and long-lived old couples among relatives. The relatives and friends who came to congratulate began to enjoy the wedding banquet. The groom will propose a toast at the meeting, and the bride will propose a toast to the guests on behalf of the bride. Later, it gradually turned to the stage of "new house trouble". After the banquet, relatives, friends and guests laughed and laughed in the new house according to the local custom of "three days regardless of size", which amused the bride and groom. There are many tricks in the noisy room, and sometimes it is even uncivilized, but as long as the main family says hello more, it is generally enough. After the new house was noisy, the bridal chamber was closed, the bride took off her makeup, and a couple made a toast (called tolerance in ancient times). The fish they eat is cooked with fish scales (homophonic "sticky" and "redundant"), and its moral is: I wish the newlyweds mutual respect and love, intimacy as glue, and more auspicious. As a result, the couple formed a "hundred-year marriage". On the second day of the wedding, incense and candles were lit in the hall, and the bride paid homage to the family gods, ancestors and in-laws and elders, which was called "farewell to the DPRK". Inviting the bride's father, brother and elder as guests (female guests are not invited) on that day is called "inviting the DPRK". At the same time, the man's relatives and friends are invited to a grand banquet, which is called "meeting relatives". At the wedding, the woman's guests are distinguished guests (called "guests in court"). They should sit in the main seat, and those with higher qualifications should be regarded as the chief. Except for the new relatives, all the old relatives sat in the seats next to them. If the host family is not properly arranged, it will often cause disputes between new and old relatives. In the morning, the bride opened the box for her in-laws to check their clothes, and presented towels, handkerchiefs and other small gifts to her in-laws and elders. The recipients presented "red envelopes". Wrap the money in red paper, and the bride should also give the younger generation a "small red envelope". Sister-in-law holds a banquet for the bride as the host and invites several unmarried girls to accompany her, which is called "waiting for the bride" or "sitting on the flower stand". G. After three days of marriage, the groom must accompany the bride back to her parents' home as a guest and must return on the same day. Some traveled far and near, and then returned to the door the day after the wedding, while others returned to the door in the Six Dynasties or Nine Dynasties. The woman's elder gave the groom a paper seal, commonly known as "calling money". In the area around Bao Li, you don't go back to get married until the full moon. When I went, the female sedan chair was in front, and when I returned, the male sedan chair was behind. H. After marriage (or before marriage), the man invites both men and women to have a big banquet, which is called "marriage". When the woman's parents go to the party, they should bring some clothes that their daughters usually wear to show that their daughters take root and blossom in her husband's family. At the wedding, the female guests sit in the main seat, and the elders should be honored to sit in the chief. First, rushing to Xi Some fiancé s have long been ill, so they should bring a child bride (small belt) or get married immediately (big belt) to carry out the so-called "rushing to Xi". In this regard, the woman's family is very reluctant and the woman's spirit is also very painful. This kind of situation mostly happens in the rich and powerful family of the man. J. avoid getting married for a month, and the bride can't go to the neighbor's house, otherwise it will be called "hairy chicken" unlucky; Even give people "red" gifts. K. if you are infertile for a long time after marriage, it will cause dissatisfaction among the man's parents. The young couple had a heavy psychological burden and went to the doctor for help. Due to lack of scientific knowledge, brides are often accused and even lead to the tragedy of divorce. Some infertile women go to the temple to pray for God, take off the embroidered shoes of the goddess and come back to offer sacrifices (if they give birth to a son, they take "Xie Xiao" as posthumous title), and some steal the statue of "Prince" in the temple (if they give birth to a son, they are called "too small"). Some are dedicated to Guanyin statues; Some organizers "send autumn", with different customs and strong superstition. When the husband dies, the son is young, and the son-in-law comes to the door, it is called "recruiting a husband to adopt a son". If he remarries to another family, it is called "jumping the threshold". Those who have mistresses are called "two mountains and one water" and those who have mistresses are called "one mountain and two small ones", and the general public has no objection to this. L. Special Marriage Customs In the old society, how old were you when you got married in the countryside? If the man's family fell into a trough, the woman would break her word or ask for a bride price, and the man would immediately "grab the bride". The little daughter of a poor family can't afford it, so she often gives her daughter to others as a child bride, and then consummates her marriage when she is an adult. Men can continue to get married after losing their wives, just like the first marriage, while women rarely remarry. Wealthy families who have no children after marriage often marry other concubines. If the woman has no children and no son to inherit, there will be a "husband-in-law". The son-in-law does not change his surname when he comes to the door, and the child takes the female surname after marriage. Some unmarried men and women die young, and nosy people choose the right place to get married. Marriage is like life. At the wedding, the woman's memorial tablet was married in a sedan chair, and two coffins were buried in the same cave. These are all abnormal marriage customs in the old society, and now they have disappeared. M. After the marriage customs changed in the Republic of China, the marriage customs changed slightly. Some intellectuals in towns advocate "civilized marriage". Men's suits and ties, women's cheongsam and red flowers, see their elders bow and salute. Married people are mainly men and women, the matchmaker is called an introducer, local celebrities are witnesses, relatives and friends give speeches, witnesses issue marriage certificates, and guests are entertained after the ceremony, which is generally "one round a day". After the founding of New China, feudal arranged marriages were abolished and child brides were prohibited. Young men and women are generally introduced by others or fall in love freely. If they think that their feelings are harmonious, they will choose two days or festivals to get engaged and take engagement photos. After reaching the legal age of marriage, take the letter of introduction from the unit to the relevant departments to get a marriage certificate and get married on another day. When you get married, you will send candy cigarettes and entertain friends and relatives. Don't greet the wedding with a sedan chair. Some young men and women use wedding leave to travel; Some hold group weddings.