009: A 35-year-old man, with a monthly salary of 2463 yuan, how can he support his family and settle down?

Recently, a screenshot of a chat was circulated on the Internet, saying that an uncle in Chengdu, with a monthly salary of 2,400, was still renting a house and was very confused. He hired a career planner to help him figure out how to live this life well.

I don't know if this thing is true or not, or if it is a public service advertisement made by the planner for himself.

However, if a person, especially a man, gets such a salary at the age of 35, any reason can be used as an excuse.

We can try double quotation. How did this result come about?

Generally speaking, we are all around the age of 22 when we graduate from college. Most of them have no direction when they come out. Of course, if you are Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and others, you have already thought about what to do in life when you were in college. If you were awesome, you wouldn't go through this process.

Many people have been wandering around the society for about three years after graduation, unattainable and sighing at the ocean.

In an industry, it is not bad to be too talented. Feeling that this company is not as good as that one, I jumped to a rival company in the same industry. Generally, my salary will not decrease, but will increase because you have industry experience.

What I am most afraid of is to be an industry. I feel that another industry is so glamorous, and it seems to be very suitable for my personality. I began to jump from one industry to another.

Generally, such people will work in an industry for about 3 years. After truly understanding the situation of the industry, they will find that this industry is not the legendary stupidity. At this time, I began to look for other industries.

If you just use your mind to change three or four industries, you will be about 35 years old. This is fatal, because every time you change industries, you have to start from scratch and have a zero mentality. Before your working age of 35, you are nothing.

What's more, the personnel of many companies no longer look at resumes over 35 when recruiting people for the society. Unless you recruit executives through headhunters. In other words, if you are over 35 years old and still have your resume and PK of fresh graduates, you are basically not competitive.

Men do not consider their responsibilities at all, but follow their hearts and choose their positions and careers according to their temper. Instead of pursuing one's own heart, it is better to escape a man's due responsibility under the guise of pursuing one's own heart.

It can be seen from that article that this uncle worked as a director, editor, copywriter and security guard for more than ten years after graduation. .......

He has no plans or ideas at all, and he has no ideas about his life.

I remember reading an article not long ago about a girl who graduated from the National People's Congress in the 1980s and now teaches her children in the countryside. What a waste, helplessness, drifting with the flow.

In fact, there are many theories and famous sayings, all of which are right, but they are poison to individuals in different situations, because everyone is at different stages of life.

At each stage, we should analyze our current situation clearly and then combine some theories to arrange what we want to do. Don't let others arrange your life casually, especially some life planners. Don't trust them easily, it's not much different from fortune telling.

Your own life is only known to you. You should arrange your life plan according to your current situation and your own strengths.

Also, don't believe some bullshit that advises others not to worry.

What the ancients said about standing at thirty is reasonable. Especially a man, if he has no anxiety after thirty, you deserve to make a mess.

At the age of 0/7, Sun Quan/Kloc-had already led Jiangdong. At the age of 20, he led Chu to compete for hegemony in the Spring and Autumn Period.

There are also some theories that the embarrassing situation is that you seem to be working hard, but in fact you are not really working hard. This is nonsense!

What do you mean you look hard? What do you mean by real effort?

Is it wrong for a man to cut his hair in order to make himself and his family better, to find something that can make more money and suits him, and to change jobs frequently in anxiety? Do you want him to figure everything out and wait for a pie-level opportunity to try again?

Idiot's dream

If others don't seem to work hard, do you have to lie there and sleep every day, wake up and play games, and then suddenly one day cheat your body and find a good opportunity to attack others?

This uncle is 35 years old and earns more than 2000 yuan. The main reason is not that he did not work hard, which can be seen from his cross-border tourism, media, security and other fields. The real reason is that he didn't really think about his own life, didn't really think about others' "must follow his heart" and then went to find his own life instead of blindly following it.

If you are 35 years old, you should find a so-called life planner to make a life plan for you. Isn't this a slippery record?

So, if you are 35 years old and in a similar situation, what you need is not to give up on yourself, nor to find a planner to plan for yourself. What you need to do is to think deeply and seriously about what you have done in the past ten years, and those fatal mistakes have led to your embarrassing situation.

You have been confused for more than ten years without a goal, and you are destined to use the next ten years to correct yourself. In other words, if you want to shorten this journey, you have to work many times harder than others, that is, you have to work hard, so that you can hope to get something that normal people work hard for.

At this time, what you need is not to follow one's inclinations. You have passed this stage.

You should find what you are really good at from these ten years' experience and settle down, not for fun, nor to try it just because I can't change careers. In order to find a skill or a job, work hard until you surpass everyone around you. This is the only way out, there is no other way.

If you are not cruel to yourself at this time, then go to a planner and plan a career for you that you don't even know how to operate.

If at this time, you continue to try various industries under the guise of obeying your heart, don't say that you have no chance to support your family. Now the average salary of fresh graduates in China has reached 4563 yuan.

35 years old is not the end of life, nor the age to make excuses for yourself, nor the age to dream at will.

There is no need to give up on yourself, because there is no conclusion yet; I don't feel like there are many days. After listening to the success of the master, you will definitely find your own way, and then it will be completely ruined.

When you are really willing to face the reality and precipitate your own mentality, life will begin to truly accept and forgive you.

At this time, there is no choice. Grasp a career, a skill, a job, and do it according to your own height. One day, you will think according to what you have done, not think.

If you continue to be hot, confused and impetuous for three minutes, I can guarantee that your life is like this!