The origin and meaning of crying marriage: a traditional story

On the surface, crying marriage may generally refer to crying, but in the process of wedding, if there is crying, will the impact be negative? What is the morality of its existence? All this still needs to be understood from the historical origin of crying marriage in order to get a more accurate answer.

The historical origin of crying marriage

Getting married in tears is also called getting married in tears. This situation is the traditional wedding custom of Han, Tujia, Tibetan, Yi, Zhuang, Salar and other ethnic groups, that is, the crying and singing ceremony when the bride gets married. Crying marriage usually begins half a month or a month before the bride gets married, and some even start crying and singing in the first three months. However, it started off and on. You can cry as much as you want. Relatives and neighbors come to give gifts and visit, and whoever comes cries. As a bride, she will express her gratitude for her parents' upbringing and her inseparable feelings for her relatives and friends through crying, which has ethical values of filial piety and righteousness. When the bride is about to marry the other party, the first thing that comes to mind is to leave her relatives and feel reluctant to go. Because I am leaving, the affection that I didn't care too much about on weekdays is highlighted incisively and vividly at this moment. Looking back on the past, the bride's sadness came from this, and she expressed her disappointment with boudoir life and gratitude to her parents with weeping songs. The hardships of pregnancy maintenance in October, past events and small details are permeated with parents' affection, and a daughter's gratitude to her parents overflows from her heart. Because the mother loves her daughter the most, it is also the mother who thinks most about the bride at this time. From the night before the wedding to the next day, crying marriage reached its peak.

The traditional story of crying marriage

The custom of crying marriage first began in the Warring States period. This is because Zhao's princess married Yan as the queen, and her mother, Queen Zhao, "cried with her heels when she left, hoping that she would never come back". Since then, the custom of "crying and marrying" has been handed down. This custom still prevailed in rural Sichuan until the end of Qing Dynasty. In the late 1980s, there was still the custom of crying marriage in the mountainous areas of northern Sichuan. If a girl marries but doesn't cry, she will be regarded as an uneducated person by her neighbors and passed on as a laughing stock; Legend has it that the married girl was beaten by her mother because she didn't cry, which is also a very distinctive custom and culture.

Cultural implication of crying marriage

For the bride, it has the ethical value of filial piety and righteousness to express gratitude to her parents and inseparable relatives and friends by crying and marrying. When the bride is about to marry the other party, the first thing that comes to mind is to leave her relatives and feel reluctant to go. Because I am leaving, the affection that I didn't care too much about on weekdays is highlighted incisively and vividly at this moment. Looking back on the past, the bride's sadness came from this, and she expressed her disappointment with boudoir life and gratitude to her parents with weeping songs. The hardships of pregnancy maintenance in October, past events and small details are permeated with parents' affection, and a daughter's gratitude to her parents overflows from her heart. Because the mother loves her daughter the most, the bride thinks most of her mother at this time, and the mother and daughter have deep feelings.