Who can tell me the engagement custom of inaction? thank you

Excuse me, is this Wuwei County, Chaohu City, Anhui Province?

Before the engagement, the matchmaker will talk to both parents, and then the man will send firecrackers to the woman's house as a preliminary engagement. Those who don't send firecrackers can also send Geng Tie first. The so-called constellation is the year, month, day, hour and birthday of both men and women. Some people ask their husbands to tell their fortune first to see if the "eight characters" of both men and women can get along better.

In the case that there is no taboo in "eight characters", we will visit the woman another day, that is, we will pull some clothes for her, buy some headdresses, and match some (household) water gifts (that is, fish, meat, sugar, wine, pig's stomach, heart and lungs, among which uncles and uncles are four-color gifts, and ordinary relatives only send fish and meat). Carrying the burden to the door of the woman's house, after setting off firecrackers, the woman put on a banquet and called engagement wine. Known as the "door", it includes the "small door" in the south and the "delivery number" in the north to show that the girl has booked her husband's family. In the county town, there are few people engaged, few people engaged by fingers, and most of them are engaged by teenagers. One tenth of them adopt child brides first and then remarry, and few of them get married right away.

The woman took Geng Tie from the man, and then took Geng Tie from the woman and gave it to the man. And copy the upper part of the male post on the upper (right) side of the female post, and make the lower part according to the upper part below, commonly known as: send the post to the "eight characters" to make a pair. At this point the engagement is over. Since then, both parents have become children's in-laws.

Even if a man and a woman are engaged, they are unmarried couples. On holidays, the man should pay a New Year call and send a holiday to her parents and elders. For weddings and funerals, both families should be present as official relatives.

Some people are engaged for three or five years, while others have to wait for ten or eight years. Generally, the date of marriage is decided according to the age and family economic situation of both parties. When the man's age and economic conditions are ripe, if he wants to get married that year, he should send a door-to-door gift in the spring to receive guests (commonly known as "spring wine"), including the "big door" in the south, mainly for the relatives of the woman, but the father of the woman must be present to take the lead. The man's main relatives also came to accompany him. At this time, the man's relatives and friends should also give gifts until the second marriage. There is no such etiquette in cities and the north, and gifts are only given on the eve of the wedding.

Before the Spring Festival, please ask the fortune teller to choose a happy day. Generally, the wedding day is in the twelfth lunar month, and it is not until the twentieth of the twelfth lunar month, because the stove will be sent to prepare for the New Year on the 23rd of the twelfth lunar month. When choosing spring wine, you need to book a day of the year as the wedding day. Commonly known as "choosing a day."

On the Mid-Autumn Festival before marriage, the man should send holiday gifts to the relatives of the woman, and this holiday gift should be handled according to the rules. The woman's uncle, aunt, uncle, cousin, etc. Everyone should give a holiday gift. Folk call this festival "vegetarian". Anyone who receives this kind of "fragile" gift should be prepared to give the girl a dowry.

This crisp ceremony mainly includes: duck, pork, sugar, wine, moon cakes and fish. Father-in-law's family should also add longan and lychee (indicating a happy marriage and mutual friends) and other gifts. There is also "folding dry", that is, every gift is a gift with money. When giving gifts, the man will choose a date, write it in red paper, wrap it in red cloth, and send it to the woman's house with the matchmaker, so the wedding date has been set and cannot be changed at will.