Rugao marriage custom

In Rugao, there is a blind date called meeting people.

Watching others means that accompanied by the matchmaker, the woman's parents, aunts and others are watching at the man's house, and the woman likes to stay at the man's house for dinner.

Men and women will also visit each other through various channels. Now it mainly depends on each other's family character, whether parents get along well, each other's physical condition, whether the family has genetic diseases and so on. Of course, it is necessary for both parties to be of the right age and the zodiac to match.

Birthday, doing math, going through a process.

If both men and women are willing to get married, please ask the famous local blind fortune teller to calculate, report a new date of birth and choose an auspicious day. This is the first step to get married, and it is also an extremely important step.

The blind will also calculate whether the couple get along, whether the future is good, whether there is a "rush" and how to resolve it according to the date of birth of the couple.

After the engagement, the son-in-law will send a gift to the door.

Now the betrothal process in Rugao has become simple. Basically, relatives of both men and women have dinner together and announce their engagement. There are also bride price and gold wares, generally depending on the woman's requirements.

After the engagement, the unmarried son-in-law will send a "door-to-door gift" to the woman's home on holidays. Alcohol and tobacco are necessary, and the woman will of course reciprocate appropriately.

In Rugao, gifts should be given before marriage.

The delivery date means that the man's family asks the matchmaker to inform the woman's family of the chosen wedding date. On the delivery date, four seasons gifts and delivery day gifts will be prepared, and a dress fee will be added politely (the dress fee will be used to buy the bride's wedding dress). Now it's basically in the form of red envelopes, usually made into even numbers, such as 6 bags or 8 bags. Of course, in addition to red envelopes, the man will also bring some gifts.

The newly-married couple's bed is exquisite.

The arrangement of the wedding bed is a very important link. Nowadays, in some places in Rugao, getting married is still a tidbit of quilts, so it is necessary to invite the "Mrs. Fu" of relatives to sew quilts at home in advance.

On the wedding day, a blessed woman is usually asked to help make the bed. Chao Fanzi will also put peanuts, longan, red dates and cottonseed under the quilt, in the pillow and in every corner of the bed, and then find a smart and lovely child to touch these things out of the quilt, indicating early birth.