Please, sir, I can count. Help me see if my boyfriend and I have a birthday match. We are both years old. I am on the sixth day of October, and he is on the third day of May. Thank you.

What age are you superstitious about me?

If you are a woman and can be so realistic, then you are not far from happiness.

I got married at the age of 3/kloc-0, and now I'm living well. I have been diving in Tianya for many years, read many sad stories of my sisters, and experienced several painful feelings myself. Now, I get along well with my lover and his family. I think I still have some experience to learn from my sisters who are still groping for feelings. I don't want to boast that my life is very good, but I think we need to learn to grow from our mistakes and never fall again and again in the pit where we have fallen. I hope these experiences can be used by sisters in love and marriage.

1. The most important thing is that girls should strive to make themselves better, from ability to appearance.

There is a famous advertisement in Taiwan Province Province: A serious woman is the most beautiful. Everyone has the right to choose their own lifestyle, but they must be serious. For herself, for work and for life, such a woman has a confident and calm beauty, even if she is not born with beauty. Only such beauty can compete with time, which is the type that a good man appreciates. People who play with life and men will eventually be played.

Perhaps many girls are not very good people at work, and it is also a big advantage to clean themselves up. In any case, it is easy for real men to judge people by their appearances first. Not all men only love the most beautiful women, but most men still have a good impression on clean and refreshing women.

2. Good men have demands on themselves, but not on women.

Men who fool around with their jobs but demand a lot from their girlfriends should stay away from them. Such a man has the highest probability of becoming a vicious man after marriage. When our sisters get married, the minimum requirement is to get the respect of their husbands. Men who think they have the right to boss their wives around are not good marriage partners.

The most important thing in marriage is character and character.

Similar personality, similar outlook on life and similar outlook on money are the best guarantee for married life. Different personalities, two people can't talk properly on weekdays. You can't get married even if the golden wedding is recognized as a natural couple. After all, you have to spend most of your life with him, and you know it.

The man who said from the beginning that he was not worthy of you will never be worthy of you in the future.

For some excellent girls, there will always be some men who look like potential stocks. You change yourself and give everything for him, but he says you are too kind to him, and you are too kind to him (education, money, ability, status, appearance and so on). ) Not good enough for you. Many examples of sisters around prove that a man who has no self-confidence and can only rely on your condescension to associate will not be good to you in the future, and your Excellence will only make him feel inferior.

Look at his family before you go into life.

Not to see how much money his family has, but to see whether his family is harmonious and courteous. In a family, a man hit a woman, and everyone ignored it, pretending not to see the family, and would not care about your life or death in the future. There is a skeleton in the cupboard. Ask your boyfriend about his attitude. Blind and loyal men have limited respect for their wives.

6. Men who are tight with themselves and are not interested in their girlfriends. A man who is loose to himself and tight to his girlfriend must be selfish and be the last to get married.

Money is the best thing to see a person's essence and feelings. Sisters don't fall in love for money, but if he makes you feel that money is wrong, it's time to think about whether he is right for you. When you are in love, normal consumption is appropriate. When we first met, it was obvious that men who wanted AA were too calculating and afraid of losing. In the future marriage, there are many places where people need to sacrifice, and such men will run away first.

7. A man who hits people can't have it. If he is beaten once, he must break up. A playboy, a man with his feet on several boats, can't get it. Once you find it, you must break up. As the old saying goes, once interrupted, it will be chaotic.

8. Girls in love should have their own bottom line.

Never give up your dignity, insult your parents or give up your job just because you love him. Good feelings and marriage must be win-win, not unilateral sacrifice and fulfillment.

9。 When you meet a man you like, you must be brave enough to chase him.

Secret love is the most hurtful and fruitless.

10。 Just to be clear.

Speak your mind, don't let men guess, you can communicate and your life will be happier. Failure in communication means that your happiness is not guaranteed. I don't think any man likes to guess what his girlfriend thinks. To this end, it is really a pity to lose a good man.

1 1. Don't be kind to men from the beginning.

If he feels at ease with your efforts, but doesn't know how to repay them, he is suspected of male chauvinism. If you relax for a long time and don't do as well as before, he will be hurt and think you lied to him, or you don't love him anymore. Why don't you express your love in a measured way from the beginning, give him a chance to express it and let him do something for you? To tell the truth, men value what they pay more. The more he does for you, the more he pays, the more he yearns for you, and the more he can't get away from it. On the contrary, he can't feel what you give and what he gets. In marriage, a man who often does housework and often takes care of children is much less likely to give up marriage. It is precisely because he created this home that he is even more reluctant to give up. Many playboys and cruel men have a most virtuous and selfless woman who is silently paying. I finally made up my mind to marry my boyfriend because he said to me, I'm worried about you. I'm always afraid that something will happen to you. As long as I can't see you, I'm worried about you. His dedication and my gratitude are the best way for us to get along.

12. If it breaks, it will break.

Everyone has the possibility of making mistakes, but if you make mistakes again and again, it is a problem. Many sisters put up with living with a man who is not nice to them because they have been together for n years, because he is my first man, because I gave birth to n children for him, because I gave, because I was … old, and finally I got hurt myself. A friend of mine told me that nothing in this world is static, either good or bad. In short, nothing is static. This sentence directly prompted me to get out of a bad relationship. Because, I know that if I want to change, that relationship will only get worse, and I will be hurt more in the future. My courage is the most solid foundation for me to live well now.

13. Love for love, not for the dream of a beautiful wedding or luxurious life.

All happiness needs a price, but don't let some costs ruin your life. Young girls are easily blinded by vanity, but in real marriage, the man who can cover you with the quilt that has been kicked off at night is the man who deserves to be entrusted for life.

14. Cherish the man who really loves you and treats you well.

A good man will treat you well in a way that is really beneficial to you, and will not indulge you or bind you in the name of loving you. Such a man is rare. If you meet them, you must cherish them. Young men often love their girlfriends in a pure way. He may be immature, but his love is true. Don't give up easily. After more experience in society, you will know how precious a true heart is.

15. Everything is in time.

There are many good men looking for the other half in this world. Not all men like virgins, not all men care about your previous marriage, and not all men care about your age and education. In many beautiful marriages, a man loves his woman's silly, naive, round figure, or a mole on his mouth. He will cherish your injury, and your bravery will make him more respectful. Therefore, even if you are hurt, you should love bravely like Saint Jin Shun, as if you have never been hurt. Only by opening yourself first will the world let you go.

16. Don't give your heart to a man's initial pursuit.

Good men and bad men will care about you at the beginning of their pursuit, pick you up, send you away, send you text messages, and take care of you when you are sick. Don't fall into it as soon as someone is nice to you. Think more, look more, and then make a decision. Usually four months, enough contact, enough for you to know him. Online communication doesn't count. No matter how long online contact is, real life is meaningful. You have to eat with him, go shopping and do something to get to know him. You know whether you are happy or not. Many times, it is not men who deceive us, but ourselves who deceive ourselves.

17. If you love him, accept him now and don't fantasize about his change.

If he can change, of course, it is the best, otherwise, think about whether you can accept it. Every shortcoming before marriage will be magnified after marriage. He smokes. If you love him, just try to accept it. Too few men quit smoking after marriage. The same is true of other shortcomings.

/kloc-men over 0/8.30 often have fixed habits and lifestyles, and are unlikely to completely change for a woman. He needs you to get used to him more. On the contrary, young men are more willing to change for their beloved women.

This article is entirely my personal feeling, which may be wrong. Please forgive me.

Looking back, I made all the above mistakes. Fortunately, I was born a "willful woman". I dare to love and leave. I have a satisfactory marriage now. Love and marriage are the biggest tests in a girl's life, and most of our growth comes from this. Some of what I wrote are platitudes, but each one is a real lesson that I can't bear to look back. I will tell this to my daughter in the future as a mother's blessing to her children.