How about adopting a child?

To recognize relatives is to look for fortune-telling calculations, look at birthdays, look at the zodiac, and most importantly, look at personality! Generally speaking, a monk's relatives are not good to themselves, which is called "stumbling", which means that if he has a disaster, he wants you to go to the top. If you are tough enough, you can resist it. If you can't resist, you will suffer. Friar relatives can't blindly recognize!

Personal opinion, for reference only.