Growth is constantly dealing with defects.

Romain rolland said, "Most people die in their twenties and thirties, because after this age, they are just their own shadows. They will imitate themselves for the rest of their lives, and repeat what they have done, thought, loved and hated in their lives more mechanically and affectedly day after day."

Yes, quite a few people, after experiencing some things, like Ah Q, no longer have pain, introspection and struggle, but are satisfied with the present with the method of spiritual victory, day after day, no longer pursuing and tossing.

Suffering never makes a man, otherwise those who grew up in poverty and hardship will become geniuses. Most people are suffering and will not change anything with actions.

It is Lu Xun's lament and anger at his misfortune.

But I still prefer to believe that most people in this world have pursuits. As always, keep suffering and introspection. We are restless in many lazy days, facing numerous blows and angry introspection, and then struggle silently, waiting for rebirth.

We are very strict with what we value, care about all the details and pursue perfection. And we are finally hindered and limited by these perfections.

The last time I brushed my circle of friends, I brushed the sadness of a girl. She said that she is an extremely perfect person, and she is often torn to pieces by her pursuit of perfection. As small as doing things, if a detail is not done well, it is necessary to reinvent the wheel, and as big as the college entrance examination, it is necessary to give up the whole college entrance examination.

But the more I grow up, the more I feel that many of these pursuits for perfection are due to laziness and inner weakness. Many people don't do what they do at all because they are afraid that what they do will not meet expectations, or they will give up and never do it again when they find that it is not what they imagined.

In fact, if you think about it, these are just escapes. Because this is the road to growth, and growth means constantly dealing with defects.

You have perfect plans and dreams. If you don't do it and make a mistake, then you can only give yourself a so-called pressure and keep procrastinating until you no longer believe in yourself.

If you do it, but you can't stand the challenges and setbacks on the way, it can only show that you are too idealistic, only thinking about perfection, and never think about how to deal with and solve difficulties.

Looking at Tiny Times, Gong Ming impressed me the most. Even with more resources and abilities and a perfect plan, he will always have a plan B.

Therefore, no matter how many difficulties and irresistible factors he encounters in the implementation of the plan, he can always solve them calmly, because he has made the worst plan and figured out what plan to use if the plan is destroyed without affecting the implementation of things.

Maybe you will say, in reality, how can you foresee so far? Many things can't be analyzed at first. This is not the point, the point is that your ability and resources can't reach this vision.

When you don't have this ability and resources, you should at least be prepared for obstacles and setbacks, and have the consciousness of solving problems on the spot when there are defects, rather than being too optimistic.

I am also a person who is deeply poisoned by perfection. Once there is something wrong with the new purchase, I want to throw it away and buy it again. When I was a child, I was very angry with some toy stationery. I want to throw them all away and buy a new one.

When I grew up, I bought a computer, and a film stuck on it affected the beauty of the logo, so I tried various methods to repair it. Finally, I destroyed the logo and wanted to throw away the computer. I don't want to do anything until I find out that this is not what I want at all. I don't want to talk to a person after he has done something I can't stand.

To tell the truth, I have almost reached the point of abnormal condition for some requirements, and I will go crazy if I can't meet them. I get irritable after a long time. I am the legendary Virgo, although I never believe in this ghost.

Most smart people and I think that horoscopes are no different from fortune telling and superstition. If the constellation can determine a person's personality, then your parents can completely decide when to come to the world. You control your personality, right?

This pursuit of perfection, everyone will have. Although many people are careless in some ways, don't care and don't pursue the same thing, there must be something he wants. After all, one can't live without what one cares about.

I prefer to believe that our pursuit is different from others, and I prefer to make the pain better and better. Just as I never refuse criticism, I can never accept all criticism. I want to keep getting better. People who don't know how to introspect are finished.

Some people who pursue perfection are over-introspective, take all their mistakes and shortcomings on themselves, and accept all criticism without judgment. This situation will be particularly prominent at the beginning of the work.

Because as a novice in the workplace, you have neither experience nor ability, and you will be rejected at first. The fact is that even if you do a good job, others may not praise you, because that's how they came before. When they praise you, they are afraid that you will be impetuous and want to save face. More importantly, they think this is what you should do.

For me, criticism from others is unlikely to affect me, because I can judge whether what he said is reasonable or not. There are so many things that affect me that I can't do everything as I please.

I always feel that one thing is not satisfied with my work, and others are even more dissatisfied. So every time there are too many things, I feel a lot of pressure and always want to make everything perfect. At a certain point, I will simply give up and do nothing at all.

Later, I also constantly compromised with myself and let myself do it first. Even if others and myself feel perfunctory, it is better to change and make progress than to do nothing. Since you have given me so many things and want to give me a probation period, you must tolerate all my mistakes.

You have to give me time to make progress and make me better, until I don't feel so much pressure in the face of all the tasks you give me. This is what I said to myself, and this is what I said to you who want to work. Be strict with yourself and give yourself time.

When I wrote the official WeChat account, I found that many people really worked hard and updated it every day, rain or shine. At the beginning, I wrote my own official WeChat account, and I worked late every day until midnight, insisting on updating. At that time, I still felt that my efforts were far from enough, because many people did, and some people didn't even sleep, so they couldn't compare.

But then I thought, let myself go. Why do we have to be like everyone else? Some people update every day, some people update three articles a week, and some people update one article a week. Some do well, and the most important thing is to find their own frequency.

Admittedly, there is no one in this world whose aura is not shed tears or shed a layer of skin, but I really don't want some success, because I clearly realize that I can't do that. For example, Lang Lang has no childhood, CoCo Lee has no rest, and Dong Mingzhu has almost no emotional world. Do you dare to take the success these people have given you?

The so-called growth means that I finally don't want to be someone else and want to be a better self. I just want the success I can give. I accept all my flaws and try to be reborn within my own power.

Even if I idle away my life now, as long as I can pay for my actions, I won't panic again. The world is not so thrilling at all. Do whatever you want. Try and experience while you are young, and don't be bound by those rules.

There is only one success in the world, and that is to live your life in the way you like.

When we were young, we all wanted to have perfect toys, perfect grades, meet perfect partners and have a perfect future life. And growth means that you have to accept all the imperfections and have the ability to deal with all the flaws.

I accept all the flaws of myself and the world, and shake hands with myself and the world with my ability.