Excuse me, friends near the Dragon Palace in Shuyang, do you have a daughter who got married because of her parents' age?

Marriage customs in rural areas of Shuyang

2007-03-03 12:37:57

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As the saying goes, "The older a man is, the older a woman is." In our rural area of Shuyang, girls are about 20 and boys are 22, so it is good to get married. There are often seven aunts and eight aunts who make plans, pay attention to where there is a suitable object, and when the time is ripe, propose to their favorite family. There are more professional matchmakers, all witty aunts. It is said that some uncles have been worried in recent years.

Hometown people believe in going door to door. The so-called suitable, Chai Men to Chai Men, such as the son of the village chief, you should choose a daughter of the township party secretary, and the lame will be dumb. If the family is poor or too modest, dig a "second marriage" (referring to remarried people); I also believe that a beautiful girl can often marry a man with a little job. Typically, those who are admitted to a university but have no future can often find a young woman as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade. So parents who didn't get corresponding rewards for supporting their children to study lamented: "After all, she is a good daughter-in-law, no loss!" The third part, a little outdated, is that girls jump into the bustling city. It is an honor for the daughter of a small village to marry into a big village, but it is an ability to jump into the town. If she enters the county seat, she will impress the villagers. Girls who often jump into the rice trough can always find men's defects after marriage: their ears are a little deaf, and they were hurt by something when they were young, so they couldn't have children ... that is, they went to the countryside in town. Men are generally handsome, or the conditions are really good. There are more college students now, and many of them get married privately in school. Some people go out to work to raise their children, and then make up the wedding, regardless for the time being!

Speaking of marriage, the two families are relatives and should take care of each other. In spring, they can't use up all the seedlings and give them to their in-laws. In summer, they can use walking tractors, and in autumn, they can collect melons and escape plums. That is, you come and go. When the man sews in August and a half, he will give the woman a gift for the New Year. These four gifts are essential: good wine and meat, fresh carp and refined sugar. Mid-autumn moon cakes and Spring Festival bunin cakes are all necessary. When I went to the market, I saw a big brother tie big fish and meat to the back of the car and sit on it. It's heavy and the road is a little bumpy. A small stone made a strange noise, and the tire was punctured with a bang, which was unbearable! Therefore, my hometown people say that my daughter opens a bank, has food, has peace, and raises her son to take the bank exam. It's just fame, but it's strange that people who avoid family planning want sons. Of course, this is not always the case. People who have broken up their marriage collect debts from each other, and when they can't explain clearly, they take lessons from their ancestors.

If it's not a big problem, we should be engaged in six months. Engagement ceremony is very important. It is a great event for both sides to confirm their relationship and invite relatives to celebrate. It will be held in the man's house, and the woman's sister-in-law or mother will come to attend. The number is about two tables. The boy presented three gold souvenirs: gold necklace, gold earrings and gold ring.

Marriage is the top priority in life, and you must not be careless. The boy asked the matchmaker to prepare snacks such as croissants, sesame cakes, big golden fruits, long shortcakes, etc., hoping that the old father-in-law's family would be "born". On this day, the new son-in-law came to the door and needed to invite his own man to accompany him, so he gave it to him when he was almost drunk. If he has any opinions, he will keep them for the time being. My brother said that he forgot to eat and drink that day, which was a loss. I invited a fortune teller to pinch it to see when it is a good day. As usual, I should give cigarettes and candy to some people who like money. So I talked about going to the wedding and summarizing. If I make a mistake, it will be a big test.

The man's parents should prepare a dowry for his daughter-in-law. A few years ago, it was 66,000 and 88,000. After 2004, it suddenly spent more than 18000 yuan. A daughter-in-law in Qiancun asked for 66 thousand. After setting the sky-high price, I sent an invitation and suddenly changed it to 88,000 yuan. The frightened man soon broke off his marriage, which has since become a sumptuous meal. At present, he is a strong man.

After decorating the house and adding furniture, it is necessary to kill pigs and sheep and put on a banquet. Animals in the circle can't escape this fate. There is ready-made sauerkraut in the crock, radish reappears in the cellar, and some fresh vegetables are added. Find out the gift book of the last banquet, and check the invitations one by one. The general idea is that a wedding will be held for someone at home on a certain day of a certain year, and someone will be invited to attend the ceremony and accept your blessing. The inviters of relatives and friends in the village are all parents' names. Is to "pinch the net."

There are always 30 tables. Several people in the family are too busy to seek foreign aid. The so-called "cleaning workers" are not paid, only three meals are free. Four people cook, one washes dishes, three or four people choose vegetables, five or six people run the table, two people count the tables, one person delivers sugar, and two people are in charge, that is, "accompanying guests".

From the day of "supporting the pot", the formal wedding ceremony saw the cook carrying a fork early, bringing his wife, apprentice, helper and the fire maker, using wheat pulp and mud as adhesive, laying bricks against the courtyard wall, and the cook and the supervisor checking the menu. The cleaners all came to dinner, and after finishing the arrangements made by the general manager, they sent invitations tonight.

Everyone in the village went to the hotel to hold a banquet when they got married.

On the day of makeup, men and women have different strategies. Men make preparations, set up tents, rent tables, stools and plates. Women are the most solemn day. Friends, relatives and neighbors all come to get together. First, they came to the table to pay their respects. Most of the estranged neighbors are in their twenties and thirties, and their cousins are all 50 yuan. Uncle and aunt range from 100 to 300, and there is a saying of "respect", which is not limited. It is rare now. Mr. Zhang Biao checked the registration one by one and distributed a pack of happy cigarettes and two packs of happy candy. Everyone found a stool to sit down and chat, and the manager counted the number of people. When there were enough banquets (about five tables), he ordered the chef to prepare food.

The banquet was dominated by ten bowls and ten dishes. Cold dishes are served first: peanuts, pork liver, tofu hooves, spiced beef, Flammulina velutipes, preserved eggs, salted duck, coriander, dog meat jelly, bamboo shoots, pork head and so on. They are all common side dishes. They are used for drinking, and seasonal fruits such as watermelon, grapes and oranges are used as cold dishes. Hot dishes are served on a big plate. It depends on the family's economic situation. Pig's trotters, old turtles, egg cakes, candied meat, whole duck and chicken, eight-treasure rice, hot pot with sauerkraut and mutton, beef, etc. , are given priority to with meat dishes. The younger generation toasts the elders, including offering wine, toasting and accompanying wine. Elders should do what they can. When you push me, they tend to straighten their eyes. Yes, man; Four or four wishes, six or six big shun, eight immortals crossing the sea, the most cattle is the top ten happiness! People who are not good at drinking will say: one cup is just right, two are loyal and three are poured. You can forgive yourself. It's not strange not to drink, it's a bit shallow. Eating, drinking and talking loudly will always be the main theme of the banquet. "Since ancient times, sages have been lonely, and only drinkers have left their names"! It's a happy event and a lively scene. But when a girl gets married, there are thousands of things to give up. A mother cries for her love, and a girl cries for her family. For the husband's family, it is unpredictable and can't let go of the boudoir life. It is necessary to be a wife and a mother. There is a saying in Shuyang folk songs:

Little white stick, little white man, dress up and go out;

Dad also cried, and mom also cried. I told my parents not to cry.

Dongzhuang has a cousin who is two years older than me;

Can cut pigs, sheep and stir-fry plum blossoms for girls. .....

At night, you should use less paper, wrap it in red paper, fold the shape of bicycle hip flask cover, and have at least four generations of immediate family members: great-grandfather, great-grandmother, grandfather and grandmother; When parents are away, someone has to comfort their ancestors and marry their children! A great event for both men and women!

The wedding day was really a wonderful moment. "The golden palace is double-walled, the jade is beautiful and the evening is glorious", which is a good match for a hundred years! Half a century ago, when my aunt got married, she wore a rosary and went to her husband's house in a sedan chair. In the late 1960s, my aunt came on foot in an apron. In the 1970s, a bicycle brought by an educated youth from the countryside became the bride's throne. My mother/kloc-got married in 0/980, and married a box, a cupboard and a table. It was very popular among the rich at that time. Radio (ringtone); Camera (click). Later, a 5-ton truck was used, with people sitting in the cab and dowry in the back compartment. This is a "nest end" style.

Time flies. 1995, I rented a Santana Li Xia. Now I'm thinking about finding an Austrian scenery! At eight or nine o'clock in the big moon, the wedding car is about to start with firecrackers. Roses are bright and flowers are bright. Most handsome young men, classmates, partners and children with relatives are the best candidates. Go to the woman's house and use firecrackers. The bride will take it to the city to make up and wear a wedding dress. However, firecrackers should still be set off: as soon as the car rings, the bride combs her hair and washes her face, dresses and pays her dowry. It's still hanging on the float. The bride puts Bunin cake under her feet on the float, which means "step by step", held by her sister-in-law, and there are prizes to be taken. Everyone can rush in and grab it. This is a happy event and a jubilant mascot! After the wedding car leaves, the bride's brothers will ride bicycles and follow the car. When they pass by every bridge, they will set off some firecrackers, which is a sacrifice to the bridge god!

Coming, coming, the bride is coming! Hurry up and light the longest string of firecrackers to welcome the bride. When the bride got off the sedan chair, she also had a "cake", which was also held by her sister-in-law. Stopping the door is the most dramatic scene. There are always many men sitting in front of the door with benches, ordering the bride to stand and ask for cigarettes and sugar. "Look at the bride." Let's put down what we are doing and have a quick look! Grandma and aunt evaluated whether the couple were dignified and symmetrical. The children grabbed the bottom of the box for candy, and my sister-in-law came forward to bargain with the young man who stopped the door, whether to give one-third or one-half. "I don't like it enough, I don't like it enough. Just say so! " A playful guy said, "Forget it! I will hold the bride in the door! " So I took the opportunity to touch the bride's waist, and the bridesmaid wanted to protect her good partner. "Married for three days, big or small" often sweeps my eyes to the bridesmaids again. At the age of eighteen, I accompanied my cousin and sent the young man away with one foot, so I let my brother-in-law accompany others. However, the bride must not be angry and can only make everyone make trouble. The oldest meaning of blocking the door is that it is not easy to get in, so cherish the new life in the future! Lift the bottom of the box and hand it to the young man's head: a pair of tea cups, a pair of rice bowls, a pair of cover lamps, a pair of pillows, and two porcelain pots, which contain rice and chaff, meaning "the chaff basket jumps into the rice basket!" " "If happy talkers are here, it will be more lively.

The banquet is made up of all the girls, wishing the bride and groom happiness. Girls should have both parents and brothers, and be healthy and lovely. The banquet is held in the new house, and the dishes are the same as those for friends and relatives, especially on the handle of the couple's car. Before eating, please ask the couple to "divide the dishes", that is, every dish is put in a prepared small bowl for everyone to eat. Say your best wishes. When I ate two-thirds of the food, I didn't see the serving. The waiter brought a square pear "tray", which was the chef's "disappointing". 88 yuan, 88 cigarettes and 88 packets of sugar, he is very happy. The hostess came out to mediate and said, "If the business in Shuyang is halved, give it to him." The cook glared at each other. Running all the way, reporting the situation to the newcomers requires careful action! The bride was distressed and dissatisfied, but she didn't want to open the box. She added two cigarettes and eight packets of candy. The waiter went to report that she added it, which should be acceptable.

Tea party is a party attended by all men, and the bride puts candied fruit on a celadon plate.

After the activity, people who want to "poke the window" throw chopsticks on the a4 red paper and say happy words at the same time. Finally, my mother-in-law's "house porridge" was cooked, just some rice. On the wedding night, it was sunny outside the window, and there were people whispering under the window, all elderly aunts. Talk about flying all over the sky when you are free!

On the day of leaving the mountain, the bride's family will send her brothers to visit, which is called "seeing the guests". When the husband's family banquets for relatives, they will still enjoy the cooking ceremony. The quality of food is determined according to the number of tables at the banquet. General 13 table sea cucumber mat with four buttons, 450 yuan. The water bottle contains sugar water, which means "sweet honey". The bride took the groom to the "double door", and the situation on both sides was similar. "In the evening, the bride brought a few jins of sugar and dusted her mother-in-law's bed. Her mother-in-law stopped it in time and said it was a good idea. Give her a red envelope quickly! From then on, the happy life of the young couple began. ......