The fortune teller said that the child will be defeated when he grows up _ Is it true that the fortune teller said that the child will be defeated when he grows up?

What is the root cause of the failure of the cold door?

It turned out that the giants were defeated and the poor were poor. What can you beat if you are poor and white? Everything has two sides: the rich and the poor can make a loser or a noble son, which is a natural thing to teach.

The main reason for the failure of the cold door is overindulgence and improper education.

As we all know, children of rich families are easily spoiled, which is easier to understand. Because rich families are rich and powerful, they give their children whatever they want, allowing them to do whatever they want and allowing their children to be willful. Don't want to study, be naughty, and try to cover him up and pamper him, and slowly spoil him into waste. The so-called jade is not cut, and it is not a tool.

Do children from poor families have this phenomenon? There are also. Parents, because of hard life, did not live a good life, did not give their children too much material satisfaction, and felt sorry for their children. I feel that I have suffered, and I must not let my children suffer. Therefore, in life, in study, and even in thought, children are tolerant, even conniving, unwilling to control, unwilling to scold, and unwilling to fight. If a child makes a small mistake and nobody cares, it will gradually turn into a big mistake and a big problem. In the end, he will become ignorant and even get into a bad habit, and he will become a waste.

I have come into contact with some of these children. They were born in the countryside, and their parents went out to work when they were young, leaving their children to their elderly parents. However, elderly parents often love their grandchildren and even spoil them. Give your grandson what he wants, try to be satisfied in life, have problems with his behavior and thoughts, and are unwilling to discipline him. Finally, the child developed to the point of playing truant, cheating, stealing and indulging in games. The teacher could not control it and was expelled from school. Parents worked hard to raise their children, and as a result, the children failed. This situation can be seen everywhere, especially in rural areas.

Poor families are sad, but the saddest thing is that their children have not received a good education. Spoiling will ruin a child's life. The future of the family lies in the children. If the children's education is not good, there is little hope for such a family to turn over.

Poor people are rich and easy to lose their children. This is because:

Many parents have poor families and lack of life, so when they get married, they should try their best to satisfy their children's material life and not let them suffer from the crimes they suffered as children; Some parents who have not received a good education hope to invest huge energy and financial resources in their children's studies, which are all manifestations of psychological compensation. They are obedient to their children's demands until one day they can no longer meet their demands.

In rural areas, there are more and more such families and more and more such children: parents abruptly raise their children into "giant babies". They have no job, no interpersonal skills, are married and childless, can't handle relationships well, and are addicted to computers and mobile phones every day.

There are many examples in this reality. Overindulgence of children will bring them up. There is also a loving mother who doesn't want to boss her children around, thinking that children just need to study hard and don't have to worry about other aspects, such as cleaning, housework and interpersonal communication, which makes children very selfish.

Professor Li Meijin from the People's Public Security University of China believes that if children are not selfish, they should take care of other people's children and their children, so as not to be selfish.

▲ Why is it difficult to get out of the cold?

As for the lack of expensive children in poor families, it has a lot to do with the increasingly popular "reading uselessness" in rural areas. In the past, the way rural children changed their fate was to go to college and become soldiers. The current situation is that many rural parents have become Buddhist, because even if they go to college, they may not be able to find a good job, and they have to "live on their laurels" when buying a house. Therefore, the education of children is not as strong as before, the gap between urban and rural educational resources is getting bigger and bigger, and fewer and fewer rural children are admitted to good universities.

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The meaning of this sentence is that children with poor family conditions can easily corrupt family style and develop bad living habits. This sentence is somewhat similar to the meaning of "loving mother bereavement". It is said that the family environment causes the development of children's growth character. Family is the first school for children to grow up, and it is also a critical moment for children to develop their early character. Family education has a far-reaching influence on children, and the reason why there are "poor children"

For children born in ordinary families, their parents are also miserable, and they have come step by step from bitter days. Because their parents have suffered, as parents, they don't want their children to suffer, and they don't want to see their children suffer from what they have suffered. So from the moment the children were born, they showed great love for themselves. Some of them buy clothes for their children while eating other people's children's meals, and some buy clothes for their children. In short, don't let children fall behind others in "food and clothing". They would rather suffer and give the best to their children. It is this bad family parenting concept that makes children lose the motivation to struggle, and always makes them feel that as long as they want, their parents will arrange everything without worrying about food and clothing and money. This bad atmosphere of children will develop in the long run. Under this concept of long-term family education, children will develop.

Due to the tendency of vanity, parents don't know how to urge their children. As long as all living things have vanity, this vanity is harmful, and it will be harmful if it is not grasped well. I always want to be higher than others, but I have no goal and motivation to struggle. I don't need my efforts to change my current life predicament. I'm afraid of suffering, and I'm always looking forward to living on my laurels. How can there be such a beautiful thing? Even if I give you a golden hill, I will eat it up easily. Under this influence, children in ordinary families, parents regard their children as the apple of their eyes, even if they see their shortcomings and shortcomings. I don't want to criticize and educate them and help them get rid of bad habits. Because of this irresponsible love, their children have developed a flawed character. For the sake of indifferent face and vanity, children have never had a correct orientation of their own life concepts and have not established correct life values since childhood.

Last but not least, children born in poverty have not resisted the temptation of external factors, lack cognitive ability, dreams, goals and enterprising spirit, so they have become spokesmen and interpreters of "failure".

Final summary:

There are many other sayings in ancient times, such as "a dutiful son comes from a cold door" and "a noble son comes from a cold door". Different people have different views and ideas about the same environment. The most important thing is what kind of life they want, have they worked hard, have they fought for it? Everything is beautiful in the imaginary space of dreams. Have they become "meditators" who just want not to do it?

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It is said that the children of poor families are in charge early, but the reality is that poor families often have black sheep. Why?

In fact, it is you who are used to it. It sounds a bit mean, but it's true.

Behind every child trapped in the money swamp, there is at least one, maybe more, parents who indulge their children unprincipled.

Although you know a lot of truth, neither you nor your children have learned to spend money correctly. It can also be said that Qian Shang is not enough.

As parents, we love our children unconditionally and are especially willing to spend money for them. If I have the conditions, I can't wait to buy all the interesting, delicious and useful things in the world for my children. This is the same for all parents, rich or poor, but they spare no effort to spend money for their children. Everyone wants children to "know manners in time". But the reality is: we are not that rich.

Ordinary people are mostly working-class people. Husband and wife work hard, but have little savings. If they encounter some natural and man-made disasters, they will have to tighten their belts to tide over the difficulties.

Limited resources, limited income, it is doomed that we must spend reasonably in life and calculate every penny spent. In this case, it is particularly important to teach children to spend money correctly. Children should be taught not to feel inferior because they are poor, and not to be arrogant because they are rich.

Parents' beloved son should be far-reaching.

Parents should understand that for children, an extravagant material life is not enjoyment, but depravity. Once children fall in love with comparison and show off, and don't try to enrich their inner world, the end of the black sheep can be imagined.

Regarding spending money, I hope to meet the basic needs of life, not to cater to my own desires, and everything else can be simple. But sometimes, it's really hard. After all, spending money is also a technical job.

In order to study, we must study hard. There are too many tragedies about money, so we should learn. Sometimes, simplicity is not saving, but returning to nature and simplifying the complex.

Therefore, as parents, if they want a good child, let them experience the ups and downs of life with us first, and let them realize the hardships of their parents, the difficulty of life and the correct values.

There is a saying in ancient China that a dutiful son comes from humble origins. There is also a saying that a poor family gives birth to a noble child and has no public office. All these mean that most of these promising children are born in poor families. These poor disciples have developed the excellent qualities of hard work, early maturity of poor children and early leadership. With the changes of the times, these poor children have become the treasures of the family, especially the emergence of only children. Poor families try to make them live well, eat well and use well. Parents are afraid of losing face in front of outsiders and raise their children as rich second generation, so the trend of wearing famous brands and using famous brands is becoming more and more serious. This phenomenon can be seen everywhere in China. Moreover, the children educated by this family are greedy, love money like life and selfish after entering the society. After many people hold important positions in social work, it is their nature to take bribes and ask for bribes.

Of course, I disagree. It used to be a poor family, but now it is hard to find a poor family! This is the most pertinent evaluation I think!

Losers in the cold? I don't know why you say that.

I don't agree, because this is nonsense! Although people are poor, it does not mean that there will be losers! On the contrary, most of these poor people are much more kind and strong, and have such a spirit: change their own destiny and dare to fight!

It's hard to have a son in a poor family!

Why do you say that? I have answered similar questions before! Poor because compared with richer children, especially children in cities, the resources they have are really different! No matter the teachers at school or eating and drinking are carefree, the poor are still worried about tuition and farm work!

Second, English! Because of the existence of English, children from poor families are really inferior to those from primary schools. It is particularly important to have a good atmosphere when cultivating language from an early age. How can I have such conditions? I can only listen to the teacher's pronunciation to learn to imitate! Maybe only junior high school can access it!

Finally, the imbalance of education policy! The same student burden reduction policy, because of the implementation of the burden reduction policy in Hanmen area, they either do farm work or play after school, and there is not much time or review their lessons! While urban students transfer to cram schools, although the pressure on schools is reduced, it leads to a completely different situation. On the one hand, they play, on the other hand, they study hard. In the long run, natural poverty is not as good as urban students!

To sum up, today's poor families are not losers, but the needy!

I hope that the state and the government will make overall plans and pay attention to this aspect, so that more rural poor children and left-behind children can enjoy the same educational resources as cities! Fully tap the potential of rural students and lay a solid talent foundation for local poverty alleviation!

The root cause of the failure of the cold door lies in parents to a great extent, and the reasons are as follows:

China people attach great importance to their children, which is unique in the world. Many parents sacrifice their own future for their children's future. Most poor parents need to make a living, and they often don't care enough for their children. Many times, he will compensate him materially and respond to the material requirements of his children. Over time, children will develop the habit of keeping up with their neighbors in material matters. Because of poor family background, they will be rebellious and unwilling to study. When they come into contact with some undesirable elements in society, they can easily become black sheep.

In addition, the root cause of the failure of the cold door is a small part of society. Poor families can provide few resources for their children. Many children from poor families have to rely on themselves for everything. Ambitious children can work hard and start a family from scratch. However, many children from poor families often give up on themselves after they can't find a suitable job, and become the black sheep of the neet family after lacking social care.

In fact, the root of this problem lies in two aspects. On the one hand, parents can't give correct guidance and form correct values. On the other hand, parents who can't be with their children often choose to make up for it financially. However, children have formed a consumption concept that is inconsistent with their own economic conditions. They get something for nothing, squander it, and finally go to the abyss.

I think this problem may be a special problem of our time. Children from poor families are often left behind.

Children from poor rural families often go to school alone in their hometown. At most, my grandparents are with me. In the worst case, they can only stay at relatives' homes. Some even go to school alone in their hometown.

It's not that their parents don't want to accompany them, but they have to go out to work to support their families. Sometimes I dare not go back to my hometown for many years, just to save money on that train ticket.

Such children will become sensitive and inferior when they grow up without the love of their parents. When I grow up, I am very confused. Without the help of my parents, I don't know where the right direction is. Their hearts are also living in a painful struggle.

At this time, once something that can quickly bring pleasure and make them forget their unfortunate life appears, they will easily indulge in it and even go astray.

The lack of parental education leads to problems in the formation of their outlook on life and values, so they can easily become problem of juvenile under bad temptation.

These poor parents often feel guilty because they can't accompany their children, so they choose to make up for their children as much as possible in money, which is what people often say.

But Xiaoping doesn't have enough judgment. Only after giving him money did he know that it took hard work to get it. No one taught them how to be frugal. Their expenses are beyond the family's affordability. Lack of parents' love makes them vain and likes to compare with others, which intensifies this trend.

Incorrect consumption view is difficult to correct after it is formed. And when they get used to getting something for nothing, they don't want to work hard to make money.

When parents' hard-earned money can't meet their consumption, contradictions arise.

Children's first teachers are parents. In a family in it runs in the family, how parents filial to grandparents is the most direct filial piety cultivation for their children. Migrant workers run away from home, which makes these children lose the object to learn from. Filial piety is just empty talk in their hearts, which cannot be transformed into actual cognition and concept.

This lack of filial piety mode and consciousness makes the children of poor families often become the black sheep who ignore their parents.

This is the misfortune of our parents, and it is also a problem that the children of this generation of migrant workers must face.

Fortunately, with the development of economy, we see that more and more new generation of migrant workers are not only aware of this problem, but also have the ability and financial strength to keep their children in the cities where they work hard and study hard, so that they can feel the love of their parents.

The country has also opened the policy of settling in many cities, clearing the way for migrant workers to settle in cities and let their children enjoy equal education in cities.

I believe that with the development of the country, no matter how poor the parents are, they can accompany their children's growth process, so that their hearts are no longer missing. Once the parents' company is in place, I think the fighting spirit of the Chinese nation will help poor children shine again and get a better life!

I hope we can live a different life for left-behind children!

May the children of migrant workers no longer face the confused life alone!

In the past, poor families gave birth to expensive children, but now poor families give birth to black sheep, which is destroying our descendants! This is not an alarmist, but a common social problem. The only child, in particular, was pampered from a small family, replaced by his parents, lacking life exercise and unable to take care of himself independently. There is no resilience and strength to withstand pressure and setbacks.

The saddest education is to train children from ordinary families into rich second generation;

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0 1. Psychological compensation, a poor family, let the children suffer less!

There are too many parents like China. Regardless of the differences in family resources, they make every effort to let their children enjoy the best living conditions. The family is not well-off, I feel indebted to my children, and I am worried that my children are not as good as others, so I will be more spoiled, and I will not bear the hardships of my children no matter how hard and tired I am.

Although caring for the next generation is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and worth promoting, everything should be measured. Too much love will go to extremes. Parents' "care" is undoubtedly a kind of "poison" for children.

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02. Let the children concentrate on learning to change their destiny and do nothing!

When children are young, they are not allowed to do housework, only concentrate on reading and ignore other things. As a result, baiwenhang and neet people were raised. Children who don't and can't bear hardships will become lazy, only interested in pleasure, irresponsible and ungrateful because they haven't tried the hard work. Even though he is tall and big, he is still a general who relies on the support of his parents and others to reach out.

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I'd rather be poor for the whole family than for the children.

Psychological compensation, a family member, feels that he can't lose his child.

Growing up in this environment, he is accustomed to reaching out and begging, lacking gratitude, and spending money today and tomorrow is far beyond his ability. To make matters worse, the sense of responsibility is almost zero. I am poor and rational, and I am weak and rational. This mentality makes his colleagues have a lot of opinions about him.

I know that growing up is a sting for him, because people who love him can't help him anymore.

04. Psychological compensation is the comfort of elders.

10 years ago, the poor were brave enough to admit their own shortcomings, and they could stay awake when educating their children: our family is poor, so you should shoulder more responsibilities and be self-reliant.

Now all kinds of myths about creating wealth are impacting all social strata, and more and more people who don't create wealth blame opportunities, social injustice and class solidification. Because there is no hope, they can only try their best to compensate their children: I don't care about your future, at least when you were young, you had everything others had.

This directly leads to a bad result: the more poor people are, the easier it is to regard normal education as suffering and be ashamed of making children suffer.

As a result, the "poor second generation" of the rich family is getting richer and richer, and the "rich second generation" of the poor family is getting poorer and poorer.