It is better to change yourself than to complain.

First, if you don't regard your misery as misery, no one will dare to despise you.

Second, I wish the people who love me good health and good personality, and I hope that the people I love can tolerate my stubbornness.

Regret is an emotion that enervates the spirit. Regret is a bigger loss than loss and a bigger mistake than mistake, so don't regret it.

I can forget the past, but why can't I forget you?

It's better to change yourself than to complain.

Sixth, many times we are waiting, just waiting for a goodbye.

Seven, some people, some things, lost and never come back, blame themselves for not cherishing.

No matter how hard life is, you will eventually find someone who will make you want to be stupid.

Nine, wait a moment, and after one second you start acupuncture.

Ten, it is likely that someone else will accompany you, so it doesn't matter if I leave quietly like this.

There are always some songs that make us cry.

How to design an elevator for two people? The simple distance between up and down has opened a romantic overture for you and me.

Thirteen, you have not forgotten the injury, but you will always leave a scar, waiting for others to open it and sprinkle salt.

Fourteen, some scars, scratched on the hands, become a past tense after healing; Some scars, scratched in my heart, even if scratched gently, will remain in my heart.

Fifteen, I said, I didn't have you in my past; You said, your future without me; So, now we have to hug each other.

Sixteen, heart-to-heart meeting, this life.

Seventeen, not all talents in the world need to be appreciated, and not all love needs to be bravado. Silence does not mean mediocrity. On the contrary, it means living quietly with secrets, being free and open. -I wish Bunny "No one in this world is an ordinary person"

Eighteen, if there is an afterlife, be a tree and stand in eternity, without the gesture of sadness and joy.

Nineteen, it was not that I chose to be strong, but that I was strong.

Twenty, I don't contact because your indifference tells me that I am bothering you; I didn't take the initiative because I couldn't impress you at all.

When I am happy, I listen to music. When I was sad, I began to understand the lyrics.

It's hard to love one more day, but at the end of the story, you seem to have said goodbye.

Twenty-three, the summer that will never come, the sunshine will remember our youth and grand love.

I love you for no purpose.

Instead of complaining about life, it is better to change your positive copy sharing.

Instead of complaining about life, it is better to change your positive copy. Too many people have developed the habit of finding fault with others and being shorter than others with their own strengths. This kind of mental anesthesia can only make you more decadent, and you can only retreat instead of moving forward. If we can seriously learn from the strengths of others, we are making progress and changing ourselves.

2. What is the mission of love? What do we love? Such problems have puzzled countless people for thousands of years. In fact, true love is to live a better and happier life for the people you love, and true love is to have no regrets even if you give your life for the people you love.

Be strong, believe in yourself, be firm, and trust your feelings.

4. The reason why you change yourself is because it is far faster to change yourself than to change others!

We can't fully show ourselves to the world, but what we haven't said makes us complete.

In the face of pain and pressure, it is very important to learn to adjust yourself.

7. I always ask others for something, not what I can do for others.

8. The change of ideas does not change the thing itself, but only the understanding of things, but ideas can change people and people can change the world.

9. Sometimes we fall down not because the ground is rough, but because of too many obstacles.

10. People who are most likely to succeed are generally not talented people, but people who can leave a good impression with a kind and kind attitude. A person can't change his image, but he can change his temperament; A person can't reach the ideal height, but he can improve his level. In interpersonal communication, kindness and enthusiasm are more likely to leave a good impression. A heartfelt smile is more cordial than politeness and will give people sunshine-like warmth.

1 1. Of course, things change, and human feelings change. Between change and invariability, we have experienced the interweaving of happiness and sadness. Between that pursuit and persistence, we also tasted the taste of life. However, no matter how we change, our attachment to our family, our yearning for our loved ones and our feelings for our hometown have not changed. This feeling will also be in a message, a greeting or a message.

12. I like the unknown stimulation, and I like the calmness of silently adhering to a belief. Whether it's a storm or a huge wave or a cold wave. Can't stop my progress.

13. I change myself unconsciously with the people I meet. It's not melodramatic, it's my survival instinct.

14. Men, their greatest enemy is always themselves. If you overcome your shortcomings, you will be a complete winner!

15. A person's health is not health, but a group of people's health is health; A beautiful person is not beautiful, but a group of beautiful people are beautiful; One person's success is not success, but a group of people's success is success.

16. I tried to integrate myself into your world, but I was always outside my dream.

17. I can't stop working now, because youth is just around the corner.

18. Faith changes thinking, thinking changes mentality, mentality changes action, action changes habit, habit changes personality, and personality changes fate. To change your destiny, first establish faith!

19. Success always belongs to those who act immediately.

20. I tried to avoid those helpless accidents again.

Instead of complaining about life, it is better to change your positive copy. 2 1. is an embarrassing education that cannot be seen through.

22. Smiling can not only show goodwill, but also shorten the distance between people.

23. I hope my best friend can make money hard and then take me on a trip.

24. I have been trying to move forward and see all the scenery along the way.

25. The loveliest person, with a smile on his face and love in his heart, is a bodhisattva.

26. Go on sleeping, sleep hard, and never get up.

27. People who can make good use of their time can master the direction of their own efforts.

28. It's a long distance. Since you have chosen the distance, it is far more convenient to set foot on the distant road.

29. Life, life, is the most eternal topic of mankind. Perhaps, for people of my age, some people will treat me as a joke when talking about life, but I still want to talk about my life experience and feelings.

Learn to change yourself, because you still have an undiscovered self.

3 1. The way for a person to gain a foothold in this world and survive in society is to constantly learn and change himself.

32. I want to give up every day, but I insist every day. Children without umbrellas must run hard.

33. It is the only urgent task for a person to overcome and surpass himself, return to his natural nature and get rid of his addiction.

34. To change yourself is to change your shortcomings, and to change yourself is to change your backward side! Facing the future life, we should have the courage and determination to change ourselves. With these, our life will always be full of vitality!

Only by changing attitude can we change the height of life. Good Night!

36. Take a step back from others and a step wider from your lover, and you will live happily.

37. There will always be happy times and painful times. Everyone has happiness and pain. When you are happy, you can enjoy it calmly; And when you are in pain, you can enjoy it quietly.

38. Life is colorful, the face of life will be different every moment, and there are still chameleons in nature. All this tells us the importance of learning to change ourselves and that only by changing ourselves can we better adapt to this colorful society.

39. This flowing water has gone through many dynasties and witnessed many past events, which makes history quietly staged in all these past events, but it also illustrates a truth: since you can't change the environment, you must change yourself. But in the face of that dirty environment, I would rather stick to myself, then, in the long river of history, pearls will also precipitate.

40. Life is like an ocean, and there are many mysteries to explore.

It is better to change yourself than to complain about others. You can't change others, you can only change yourself.

Don't waste your energy expecting to change others. The only thing you can do is to change yourself. When you want to change others, have you ever thought that others need to change?

Don't waste time expecting others to be different.

Author: Onado

The only thing that can change is you.

Look at your life honestly and write down the names of the people you want to change now, your colleagues, your life partners, your family, your friends, your boss and a bank manager. Then, look back on your life and think about how many times you have to multiply to calculate the total number of people you want to change.

Think about how many hours, days, weeks and months you have spent in your life trying to change others for this, only to get disappointment and sadness. Because no one has changed, no one has been changed as you expected. If you add up these days, it may be several years. Have you ever wasted precious time in your life to change someone?

The only thing that can change is yourself! Let's see what happens when we join this popular pastime with the same interest as others.

Think of a person who has overwhelmed you recently, close your eyes and recall the scene at that time, feel that you have returned to that time, recall your place and all the details, recall your feelings at that moment, and relive the feelings you once had, even if you didn't notice the change at that time.

Remember that situation and pay attention to the changes in your body: feel the tension and tightness it brings to you, probably in your stomach, your neck and shoulders, your forehead, your mouth and around your eyes. Check your breathing. Is it relaxed or tight and shallow?

Don't judge yourself by what you see, just write them down. Ask yourself: Is this a pleasant feeling? Can it nourish me? Is it good for my health? Does it make me feel open or shrinking, warm or cold, hard or soft? Would I want my good friend to feel the same way?

Go through that situation again and see how you hurt yourself when you ask others to change.

You hurt others, too. You embarrassed them. Then the other side began to resist. Even if they know that you are right, they will fight to the end to protect their dignity and face. Asking them to give in is asking them to play the role of children, being told that you know more than them, that you know exactly what they need or what they should do, and I will never allow this to happen.

Experience tells you that the more you try to change others, the more others resist you, which forms a vicious circle, and then both of you feel worse.

So, trying to change others is like hitting your head against the wall.

Anyway, ask yourself, is it really my responsibility to change others? Respect them like this? What kind of answer will you get?

Your mind will make a reasonable explanation: it's for their own good: they can't see the bad effects of their own problems on themselves and others: that's why they can make progress, and so on.

But your intuition, your feelings, knew something was wrong. Who are you to judge others? Do you feel superior? Are you perfect yourself?

Behind the conflict is the injured self.

Let's look at these facts:

This man has his own unconscious reasons for becoming what he is now. Perhaps their unconscious behavior angered you, but that kind of reaction belongs to you, coming from your unsatisfied need to be loved, respected and accepted, or unrealistic expectations.

Look at the list you want from others to make you happy. Is it all related to your need to be loved, accepted and respected?

They are your own needs, but you unrealistically want others to understand and satisfy them. The fact is that others can't meet your needs. Is it really their job to meet your needs?

They have their own unconscious reasons, not personal reasons. You don't know their life experiences, how they were treated when they were young, what unconscious beliefs they carried, how they protected themselves from harm, and learned to hide their love needs with tough armor.

You can continue to blame them and project your unrealistic expectations on them, hoping that they will become people who are not them. Or, you can use more wisdom in this situation.

Behind the conflict with others is the injured self.

As long as you understand this, you will have a chance to see yourself clearly and ask yourself: Why should I insist on changing this person?

If you are honest with yourself, you will see that behind all your rationalization, there is a wounded self telling others that you ignore me, don't respect me, don't like me, don't love me and don't accept me. Something like that.

This is a self who can't feel love, appreciate and be accepted behind our conflicts with others. If you can recognize yourself, you can also recognize others. And consciousness is a panacea to solve all conflicts.

What does this mean? When we feel that we are not respected and accepted, we will take drastic or negative revenge, whether it is direct verbal abuse or indirect sabotage. Revenge creates a vicious circle of conflict, which often gets out of control.

If you can understand the reasons why you react to others and what changes you expect them to make, then you will know what responsibilities you have to take for yourself and you will get more favorable choices.

Give yourself more respect and appreciation as a start, because if you really appreciate and accept yourself, can other people's reactions to you still affect you? Do you still need to rely so much on others' obedience to affirm yourself? Think deeply.

If you realize that your inner unconsciousness leads to your reaction to others, and you are eager to be recognized, accepted and loved, then there will be a power within you to stop this self-struggle. You realize that the revenge made by your injured self is actually childish and ridiculous. Knowing this can reassure you. You put it down! This understanding also makes you humble and makes you return to yourself, body and mind.

Go back to yourself and give you a chance to see how people are driven by their own unconscious. What kind of life and experience constitute how they were treated as children; What kind of faith they carry to themselves and their strong desire for love.

By connecting with your own desire and pain for acceptance, you can connect with the other person's desire and pain for acceptance, which opens the way for a brand-new communication quality.

Buddha's mind: to change others, it is better to change yourself first.

1, a person can't understand life, and life is a punishment for him.

2. To change others, it is better to change yourself first.

People who have wealth are not as good as those who have wisdom.

4. People who often forgive themselves are often not forgiven by God.

People who often blame themselves can often be forgiven by others.

6. People are very strange. They don't know themselves, but they want to interfere with others every day, which makes them very painful.

7. People suffer because they pursue the wrong things.

8. Where there are people, there will be right and wrong. If you take it as normal, you won't be sad, because it is human!

9. Making mistakes is ordinary, and forgiving is extraordinary.

No matter how happy you are, impermanence will come.

1 1, control your heart and do nothing.

12, words that hurt people, such as water, are irreversible.

13, as we all know, anger is a kind of ignorance and useless, but there is nothing you can do. It is precisely because we know little that we can't let go of gains and losses.

14, money makes up for your appearance, and Buddhism enlightens your inner self.

16, facial stimulation, not real enjoyment, inner peace, is the place to start.

17, a person with too much self-esteem and superiority will be very fragile, and a little adversity is enough to keep him awake all night.

18. Being jealous of others and hating others means giving your life to others.

19, defaming others is like vomiting blood, polluting your mouth first.

20, credulous hearsay, like a stupid dog, others casually threw a stone and rushed over to pick it up.

2 1. If you can't grasp the present, you can't get eternity.

22, people's hearts are not good, environmental protection, public security, nature is not good.

23. Don't be afraid when you are in trouble, and you have nothing in your heart. This is a real practice.

24. Time will pass.

25, fortune telling is not as good as accepting fate.

26, hate others, but the pain is yourself.

27. The law should be strict and lenient.

Don't waste your life where you know you will regret it.

29, with a grateful heart, forget the shortcomings of others!

30. Conquering the world is not great. A man who can conquer himself is the greatest man in the world.

3 1, ordinary people pursue the extraordinary, and wise people are willing to be ordinary, but enjoy the ordinary.

32. People who can endure are satisfied with everything; Good people are always hell.

Instead of making money, you are made by money, because money takes away your youth, time, physical strength and life.

34. Ambitious people make a wish and stick to it all their lives. People who have no ambition make wishes every day, which are superficial and false.

35, the ear of rice is mature and the head is naturally low.

36. Things can satisfy the heart, and people are satisfied without seeking wealth.

37. Talent and slowness are great talents. It's great wisdom to be observant.

38. Virtue is not old, but wisdom lives on.

Know yourself thoroughly, and you will know Buddha.

40. Because small fruit is big, don't do evil and don't do good.

4 1, true charity is to let go of troubles, troubles, separation and persistence.

42. If there is no right or wrong, it is a good time on earth.

43. Sweep the floor and sweep the heart, but the heart does not sweep the floor.

44. If the results of all changes are empty, it doesn't matter.

Buddha nature is everyone's heart, so he is the master.

46, each has its own karma.

47. Don't let the ancients call it ambition, and don't let today's people call it boundless.

48. Life is a product of illusion.

49. I love my teacher, and I especially love truth.

50. Don't trust authority. Authority sometimes makes mistakes.

5 1, everything in the world is for my use, not mine.

52. Only those who realize the truth can have a real life.

53. People who realize the impermanence of life will no longer be dissolute and greedy, so the awakening of impermanence of life is the beginning of wisdom.

54. Giving is happier than receiving.

A person who knows nature, even if people all over the world don't know him, still won't feel lonely.

56. When you are upset, you should shine-backward means forward.

57. Letting go means turning everything into a force without it.

58. It is compassion to be able to think of others from the perspective of others.

59. Appropriate desires are necessary for human beings, but beyond the scope, pain and evil will go hand in hand.

60. The value of people lies in dedication and sacrifice.

6 1. When there is beauty in your heart, the world you see will be different.

62. Although the contented are poor and rich, the dissatisfied are rich and poor.

63. Most people are doomed by fate, and they are not sure about their future.

64. Everything should follow fate, not climb.

65. The Buddha never forced others to do things he didn't like. He only tells all beings, who is better? What is evil? Life is still in your own hands.

66. Learning Buddhism is not a kind of sustenance for death, but living freely and surpassing the present.

67. Mistakes will cause trouble, and evil will eventually die out.

68. What is Buddhism? Buddhism is both realistic and beyond, both beyond and realistic.

69. Give people hope, not despair.

I can't get rid of my inner troubles. Even if I travel around the world, I won't be happy.

7 1, the law is to prosecute afterwards, but the injury has become a fact, and the cause and effect are to prevent it in advance, so that it can be prevented step by step.

72. There is always a thought between good and evil. If you make a mistake, you lose everything.

Thank god I have it, thank god I don't have it.

74. Being brave enough to accept criticism from others can just adjust your own shortcomings.

75. Doing good without asking for anything in return, without (conditional) great compassion and compassion, is a trip to a saint.

76. Virtue is not virtue, and virtue is virtue.

77. People are ordinary because they can't surpass themselves.

78. Bear the burden of humiliation and share the happiness.

79. What's the connection between names? What we call a rose, no matter what it is called, is still as fragrant.

80. Be calm in noisy places. In cold places, you must be enthusiastic.

8 1, ancient and modern mediocrity, lost to laziness. Talented people in ancient and modern times were defeated by the word pride.

82. Nothing is difficult in the world, nothing is impossible to a willing mind! The so-called King Kong is not strong, but willing to be strong.

83. When people breathe, they should try to get rid of stealing and laziness.

84. True asceticism is to cultivate equality.

85. Don't stay away from your close relatives and friends because of small disputes. Don't forget the goodness of others because of a little resentment.

86. I win with softness when people are good, and I feel with sincerity when people are good.

87. Don't be a character when you are happy and don't answer other people's books when you are angry.

88. People with real talent and practical learning will not praise talents, and people with real talent and practical learning will not praise knowledge.

89. If you want to be fascinated, you will faint. Get angry when you're angry.

90. Don't steal words if you have nothing to do, and don't mess with words if you have something to do.

9 1, the media of slander is also very sad.

92. Those who make good use of power are not angry, and those who make good use of grace are not arrogant.

93. The whole world is busy, and no one wants to rest before death.

94. What is empty? I hate to give up, but I can see through it. If I let it go, it is empty, and empty is comfortable and quiet.

95. This organization only lends us temporary accommodation, such as a house. Impermanence is coming, we should move, not be persistent.

96. Being poor is also rich, having nothing, being carefree and talking freely.

97. Flowers bloom and fall, life and death, death and life, where is man's real life?

98. Justice is evil, and evil is also positive; Evil people do the right thing, and the right thing is evil.

99. who was I before I was born Who was I when I was born?

100, it's me when I grow up. Who's sleeping?