What kind of marriage makes people feel the need for divorce?

Lev tolstoy once said: Happy people are all alike, while unhappy people are unhappy in their own way. Psychologically speaking, if you want to maintain a good intimate relationship, you should at least be respected and seen.

Whether marriage needs divorce, I think each party will have their own answer in their hearts.

But how can a marriage remain beautiful and satisfy both parties?

Someone put forward such a formula:

Satisfaction with marriage = benefits gained in marriage (emotional+material)-price paid in marriage (losing part of freedom+taking part of responsibility)-quality of finding a partner after divorce.

Judging from the formula, if you want marriage to satisfy the other party, you must first increase the "marriage income", and to increase this value, you must start from these two basic items:

0 1 mutual respect

Maslow's hierarchy theory puts forward that people need to be respected.

Whether in marriage or in daily communication with people, it is a basic requirement to respect each other and not to control or force each other. But in marriage, many people forget.

Aunt Liu's husband cheated on her and didn't respect her commitment to marriage.

The husband who tore up the photo of his father-in-law forgot that it was a great disrespect to his wife. Not only did he not understand his wife's sadness, but he also attacked her emotions. This kind of disrespect for others, even among ordinary friends, may lead to breaking up.

See each other

In intimate relationships, we are most eager to be seen by each other. We hope that the other party can see their emotions, needs and expectations, and then hope that the other party can comfort themselves and satisfy themselves.

Many marriages divorced because of trivial matters in life are not seen by the other party because of the efforts of one party. Or one party's emotions are not discovered by the other party.

In love call forwarding 1, Zaler Xu can't stand his wife because she doesn't see him. He has no expectation for life, and his wife has not seen it; He doesn't like his wife's attitude of wearing a purple sweater, and she didn't see it; His wife didn't see his feeling of squeezing toothpaste from any direction; Even when eating face to face, his wife never looks at him.

It was a trivial matter, but it disappointed him with his marriage.

Therefore, being seen is very important.

Being seen is one of the reasons why girls like watching Korean dramas. In Korean dramas, girls often feel watched, because there are a lot of close-ups of men gazing at women affectionately in Korean dramas.

In the history of human existence, being seen is a very important demand.

In fact, many people have some illusions about marriage when they first step into marriage. Marriage should be a school of love, not a grave of love. Except that marriage fraud is a scam from the beginning, many marriages will not be defeated by trivial matters as long as they are well run.

I wish you are the one who doesn't have to think about "what kind of marriage makes people feel compelled to divorce".