How do ideas affect a person's growth?

The influence of ideas on a person may exceed our imagination. Many times, we will be unconsciously influenced by an idea, especially in the process of some important choices in life. Some ideas are often hidden under various superficial reasons, but they play an extremely important role.

So it is very likely that we think clearly and think that we have made a rational decision. In fact, only some ideas have influenced us in the back. If we can't ask a few more questions and get back to the things behind the decision, we may be controlled by others and think that we are thoughtful.

1. What concept?

The concept mentioned here mainly refers to a person's views and concepts on something or something.

For example:

I don't want to do what others find difficult.

I don't think I can do anything that others find difficult.

What you said is really reasonable, but it seems to have nothing to do with me.

Of course I shouldn't care about things that have nothing to do with me.

Investment should adhere to long-term long-term doctrine, and don't worry about short-term ups and downs.

2. What influence will thoughts have on us?

Because of a wrong idea, Li Xiaolai didn't take the TOEFL and GRE exams at the most efficient moment until he was forced by life. At the age of 28, he had to study hard in a rental house for four months, and finally he successfully applied for New Oriental with abnormal high marks (in Li Xiaolai's own language).

I carefully read "How I Missed My Life" word for word. I think that the reason why Li Xiaolai missed his life is probably not what he said, that is, "I don't want to do it if others can't do it well."

I think maybe when he was very young, the discussion between his father and colleagues about the two exams at the dinner party had implanted an idea in his mind, that is, the two exams were very difficult, and the university professors could not get much points, let alone get high marks.

Perhaps unconsciously, this concept has taken root and sprouted, becoming an insurmountable mountain, a difficult problem with almost no solution.

So in college, when I heard that others were going to take the exam, I just called them "animals" and then ignored the relevant information. I don't care how many points others got in the exam, except that I went abroad the next year.

When Li Xiaolai joked about TOEFL and GRE, he was actually well-informed in the whole dormitory. I think maybe this information can't be better.

If you are not well informed, you may not consciously avoid this question. Perhaps out of curiosity, you will ask that classmate one or two things, or you may have started another life in college. Who knows? Anyway, I just entertain myself.

Having said that, I remember that I had a similar experience, and I was influenced by some deep-rooted ideas and made a very stupid decision now.

In my impression, my father likes to talk about some experiences when the whole family is sitting around for dinner, which not only harmonizes the family atmosphere, but also instills some life truths into his two children.

It should be said that in my mind, many ideas and views on things were formed at that stage.

So, although everyone is busy, we still try to create opportunities for the whole family to sit around for dinner. What we are talking about at this moment is extremely important to the big sponge next to us, which is trying to absorb information consciously or unconsciously.

Come back again.

However, my dad is a person who especially believes in fate and has always been interested in those yin and yang gossip and five elements. In his anecdotes, there is often a topic that fortune tellers accurately calculate the fate of others.

A middle school teacher in my hometown, now that I think about it, as a teacher's main business, he seems to have no characteristics, but as a sideline of fortune telling, he has done well in the local area.

In his father's mouth, the teacher became a god-like figure. Although many years have passed, I can still tell his magical deeds casually.

It is because of this influence that I subconsciously lost my immunity to the so-called fatalism. Among several key choices in my life, I inexplicably made a decision that now seems extremely irrational and inappropriate.

The so-called fate theory is actually a very good self-proof case.

The teacher who is good at fortune telling once told his father what step I could take in the industry I chose at the beginning. When I happened to be at that level and wanted to leave for various reasons, I even took the fortune teller's words as the reason for leaving, and finally proved that the fortune teller was very accurate.

Let's talk about the second missed life promotion in Li Xiaolai.

A well-known venture capitalist, in order to thank Li Xiaolai for his help, took the initiative to give him a two-and-a-half-hour entrepreneurship class. Faced with such a precious opportunity, Li Xiaolai didn't really listen.

The reason for missing such a precious opportunity is actually just a wrong idea. What others said was very important, but it had nothing to do with me, so I didn't take the initiative to study and try.

It was not until I stepped into this field that I realized what an important upgrade opportunity I missed.

The reason why you miss such an important opportunity is that many important ideas will be disguised as "making you feel irrelevant to yourself", making you miss life without knowing it.

3. Let's upgrade the concept.

Some ideas, even if you feel related to yourself, may not work; On the other hand, if you feel that these ideas have nothing to do with you, it is definitely not possible.

Some ideas are really important, but they are either too simple to be ignored or too counterintuitive to be believed.

The lowest concept is often disguised as "simplicity", which makes most people feel indifferent and think they understand it, but they don't understand it at all.

The turning point and promotion opportunity that people are most likely to miss is that although the concept is reasonable, it has nothing to do with themselves. We should first assume that every concept has a great relationship with ourselves, and then mobilize all our senses to create a "sense of bringing in" for ourselves, to ponder, study and imagine: what should this concept look like if it is absorbed by ourselves?