Ma Weidou tells: The disadvantages of the only child.

At present, there are more and more only children. We China people gradually realized the pressure of population in the 1970s, so we clearly put forward the propaganda slogan. The current birth policy was not very smooth when it was first promoted, and there was great friction and resistance.

Ma Weidou has his own unique views on the only child. His hometown is Rongcheng County, Shandong Province. Rongcheng county was originally a national fertility demonstration county. At about 1970, when they got home, they were in a state of panic. At that time, they needed to be ligated after giving birth to two children.

What is ligation? That is, women have just given birth to two children, and they must clamp the bilateral fallopian tubes so that they cannot ovulate and give birth.

In the past, there was a cruel propaganda slogan called "one person ultrasound, ligation in the whole village", with only eight words, which sounded really terrible. When Ma Weidou returned home, some women were arrested and tied up just after giving birth to two children, and were taken to the health station in the industrial society for ligation.

The old idea in our country is that children should be full, so children must have more children. Such ideas all bear the traditional consciousness of raising children to prevent old age. If you think about it carefully today, it does make sense. However, in Ma Weidou's view, the only child has many shortcomings.

The family pressure of the only generation

Ma Weidou talked about a difficult problem. For example, a family member is sick and must be taken care of. If a family has three children, the work pressure will be much less. Even with three children, I feel overwhelmed and unable to take care of my family. If everyone is old in the future and only one child is working, then the problem will come? Who will take care of everyone? Such social problems were not difficult before.

These years of reform and opening up in China can be said to have taken 30 years from a very poor period to a relatively rich period. Ma Weidou believes that this is largely due to the large population. We China people are proactive, not lazy, have a high-quality traditional style, and are not afraid of hardships, which is the result of joint efforts.

So this generation has quickly accumulated wealth, but what is the situation behind it? The generation behind is the only generation, the lonely generation. Nowadays, the problems of the next generation are becoming more and more serious. Their mentality is different from everyone else. Their mentality is to enjoy life. There is nothing wrong with saying this. Learning to enjoy life is also a state of mind.

Live an easy life; Be waited on carefully

Today's unique generation is spoiled and its thinking mode has changed. They don't understand their own struggle, but only ask for it. Because the second child is open, there are also problems. If mom and dad give birth to a second child, another child will use language to threaten. If you have a second child, then I will die for you. What caused the child to think so?

That's because this generation was developed by one person, and everyone's generation was developed by everyone. Ma Weidou told his real experience.

He was still in kindergarten when he was a child. Some families have too many children, so they can't go to kindergarten. The family can't afford it, and no one goes to kindergarten. It is necessary to pay the price for this. So we have to adopt an incentive mechanism to decide who goes to school. Only those who perform well can go to kindergarten, and those who perform poorly need to stay at home.

In fact, objectively speaking, it is very unreasonable for others. Looking back today, it is the other way around. Today's children need to be persuaded to go to kindergarten, so that they are willing to go to kindergarten. Children don't need to work hard at home to get good grades.

Why is this? Because children are used to loneliness and unwilling to socialize, they are unwilling to go to kindergarten. Very different from the original, the original children are friends around the kindergarten, eat well, save money at home, and all want to go to kindergarten. They have long been used to everything they can get without input, and such shortcomings are becoming more and more obvious, which is very unfavorable to their development.

Paranoid temperament

The only child has no brothers and sisters waiting for him, so his family is cold and paranoid. In interpersonal communication, I will also be very withdrawn, unwilling to communicate with others too much, unwilling to play with others, and more introverted. When receiving guests, in some cases, people will be rude, always look down on others and think too much.

When you encounter difficulties, you can't bear the pressure of work, and even some abnormal behaviors may occur. This kind of only child is even more reluctant to leave his parents' side, and he doesn't want to do anything by himself, just asking his parents to accompany him.

Because of the harm of family atmosphere, the only child has only one person at home, so it is very easy to become more and more selfish, arrogant and not good at making friends with others. It is not easy to think of others when you have good things, only for yourself.

Coping with social problems

Ma Weidou said that human nature is social animals first, and social development needs to live in crowds and daily life. A person can't live like a lone wolf, and can't be separated from the crowd.

Some people want to say that there are such isolated people. Indeed, there are such people now, living in the mountains alone. This situation is also rare.

Nowadays, most of this lonely generation has grown up, and the only children are mostly after 90 s and 2000 s. This kind of problem will cause serious social problems, that is, the total number problem. Everyone has entered the social development of aging population, because our generation has only one child, and raising four old people has become two children. This is terrible.

Imagine that these two only children gave birth to another child, and four old people spoiled the child. Culture and education are also a difficult problem. In the global economic development trend, the more developed the economy, the more developed the high technology, but the total population is getting lower and lower. People are very worried that the population of Japan and Germany will continue to decrease. In this view, the country will eventually decline.

In China, however, it is a strange situation all over the world that the population is growing rapidly, the fertility rate is low for those with high cultural and artistic composition, and high for those with low cultural and artistic composition.

Everything is multifaceted. The only child, to a certain extent, relieves the family's parenting pressure, thus reducing some expenses, making daily life easier, giving a child a better education and shaping other specialties.

However, the shortcomings are also obvious. The only child has a low degree of warmth to the family. When in trouble, he needs to carry everything on his back without the help of his brother and sister. No one to discuss, it is not good for his health, and it is even worse for their future development trend.