What are the wedding customs of Han nationality?

Every nation attaches great importance to wedding customs, and Han nationality is no exception. Here I would like to introduce the marriage customs of the Han nationality to you, and welcome you to read them.

What are the wedding customs of Han nationality?

Ancient women often? Born in a boudoir, I don't know. Is it beautiful or unknown? . After the blind date, the man often asks to have a look. What is the name of this activity that the man goes to the woman's house for the first time under the matchmaker's non-staple food? See relatives? . Elegant name? Blind date? .

The date of the blind date is set by the matchmaker in advance and notified to both men and women, so both sides should be prepared. The man should prepare a little gift according to the hobby of the woman's parents; Women should clean the courtyard and get ready for guests. As parties, both men and women should dress as elegantly and gloriously as possible in order to give each other a good one? First impression? .

Seeing relatives is the key to the success of marriage, especially the man, so be careful. Although gifts are nothing more than alcohol, tobacco and snacks, regardless of the quantity and value, you must give them what you like and not violate the taboos of the other parents; Dressing should be generous and fashionable; Be modest and polite in your words and deeds. In ancient times, when men met relatives, they could only rely on matchmakers to create opportunities to secretly see girls. It's different now. Both men and women can talk directly. Both sides have the opportunity to have a preliminary understanding of each other.

China is a? State of propriety and righteousness? , pay attention to implicature. The results of visiting relatives are often not directly expressed, but expressed through various hints. In many places, after the man enters the door, the woman's parents first pour the young man a cup of hot tea. Seeing that the girl was amused, the young man drank this cup of tea in one gulp. Then the girl's parents discuss with the girl. If they agree to get married, they will leave the man for dinner with the matchmaker. If they don't agree, they will let the man leave and go home. Some parents even asked the matchmaker to take away the gifts brought by the man.

In some areas, besides visiting relatives, what else? Check people? The custom of. ? Check people? Actually, I'm also visiting relatives. That is, after the man was taken to the woman who had seen the girl by the matchmaker, the woman's parents temporarily refused to express their views on the marriage, and then the matchmaker took him back to his home. What is the name of Qiyang area? See when? . Look at that time, the man's parents should offer a cup of fragrant tea first, and then talk to the woman's parents. The wife's parents visited the man's house and talked with his parents. If they agree to get married, they will drink all the fragrant tea, and the man's parents will immediately give it as a gift. In-laws? Proportional, and entertain guests. Otherwise, the woman's parents should get up and leave, and the man should not stay.

Second, gifts

? See relatives? 、? See when? After that, I have to go through the engagement formalities. A gift? .

? A gift? The first step is that the matchmaker sends the man's birthday to the woman and the woman's eighth birthday to the man. Some superstitious parents, who think they are responsible for their children's marriage, often look for fortune tellers to calculate after receiving red posts. Birthday Whether it is consistent, if not; Marriage will be reconsidered. Fortunately, most modern people don't believe this, so even if red posts are exchanged, they are often just a form, and some even avoid the form of changing posts.

? Change of duty? 、? Horoscope? After that, the matchmaker will choose a good day and take the man away? A gift? Engaged. ? A gift? This is a great event. Generally, the active person (male or female) who gets married should give each other a heavy gift. The gift should at least include a pig elbow, a pair of wine, a chicken and a duck, and a suit for other parents. A pair of shoes and socks, a package, and some things for girls. How much money to seal in the envelope and what engagement gift to give the girl are generally negotiated by the matchmaker in advance, not as much as the man (or woman) can give. Of course, the parents of the man or woman should also try their best to think of each other, strive to be frugal and accept less dowry.

Third, matchmaking

Men and women in feudal society? Give or take? , emphasize? No clouds in the sky, no rain on the ground, no media on the ground, no marriage? . Men and women generally have to reconcile with each other. Knowles. ,? Harmony Qin Jin? ,? Tie the knot? Have a second name, okay? . This kind of agreement is called. Matchmaker? . After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the matchmaker? Has it been renamed? Make an introduction? People who do this kind of negotiation work are nicknames? Yue Lao? Commonly known as Matchmaker? Later, it was renamed? Reference materials? .

? Yue Lao? Namely. Old man under the moon? Abbreviation According to the novel of the Tang Dynasty, a scholar named Wei Gu passed by Song Cheng in the evening and met an old man sitting on the side of the road, with a big pocket in his hand, reading a big book in the moonlight. Wei Gu asked him kindly what book he was looking for. The old man replied that this is the marriage certificate of everyone in the world. Gu Wei asked the old man what was in his big pocket. The old man replied:? If a man and a woman's feet are tied together with a red rope, even a sworn enemy or a stranger separated from Wan Li will definitely get married. ? So, people say? Thousands of miles of marriage? Single line pull. ? If the old man doesn't need to tie a red line under the moon, he can't go to another place. ? It can be seen that people are in awe of the matchmaker.

The matchmaker is also called? Matchmaker? . The biography of Yingying written by Yuan Zhen, a talented scholar in the Tang Dynasty, created a clever and lively image of a handmaid matchmaker. She carefully planned again and again, and finally contributed to the marriage between Zhang Sheng and Yingying. Based on this story, Wang Shifu wrote Yuan zaju "The West Chamber", in which the image of the matchmaker is more vivid and lovely. People use it? Matchmaker? Being a matchmaker shows the importance and friendliness to the matchmaker.

Being a matchmaker is not an easy task. Is this called being elegant from a matchmaker? Iceman? 、? Ice axe? You can know. According to the Book of Jin, I dreamed that I was on the ice, talking to people under the ice. Ask for a dream:? When you talk to people under the ice, it symbolizes that you are reconciling Yin and Yang. Reconciliation of Yin and Yang means matchmaking, and you will be a matchmaker for others. But this medium is not easy to make. You have to melt the ice with your passion before both men and women can get married. ? It seems that matchmaking requires enthusiasm and perseverance.

In old-fashioned weddings, the matchmaker is also called? Wako? , matchmaking is? Zhike? This proves that the matchmaker is an indispensable role. Chant of the Book of Songs:? How to cut off the handle of an axe? There is no axe to cut. How did you marry that wife? No matchmaker, no marriage. ? What does this mean? How can I cut off big branches? Don't chop without an axe; How can I get my wife? You can't get married without a matchmaker ?

Matchmaking is a skill. The matchmaker should not only be familiar with the basic situation of men and women and their families, but also make every effort to propose marriage at home. Moreover, he must basically and accurately reflect each other's situation to both men and women and their parents, try his best to hide evil and promote good, so that both sides can fully understand each other's strengths and are willing to reach a marriage agreement. That is, if you want to have one? The matchmaker's mouth? . To be a matchmaker, you should be diligent in running errands. From the day you begin to bridge the gap between men and women, you should always shuttle between men and women, exchange information, convey each other's wishes and demands, and prevent accidents. The countryman said: It is a custom for both men and women to entertain the matchmaker? Media dinner? No exaggeration. It can be seen that it is diligent in running.

The matchmaker plays an important role in the old-fashioned wedding. After both men and women have basically reached an agreement on marriage, he will guide the man on a blind date, send a modified Geng sticker on behalf of both parties, guide the man to get engaged, choose an auspicious day for marriage, guide the man to take over the marriage, and help the bride to get married until? The newcomer entered the room? , just put it? The matchmaker threw the wall? . The media said it well, and both sides were satisfied. In the future, they often exchanged views and became old friends. If the media doesn't speak well and both sides are dissatisfied, they will often blame the matchmaker and be regarded as passers-by from now on.

As a matchmaker, a matchmaker can get some money. What is this called? Thank you ceremony? . Money is usually paid by the man (if the man goes to the woman's house, it is paid by the woman). The day before the wedding, together with chickens, elbows, shoes and socks, and cloth, they are sent to the matchmaker's house. The matchmaker must guide to pick up the bride the next day. What is this called? Circular media? Or? Qi Mei? 、? Media? . Thanks to the media, the amount of money depends on the owner's financial situation, but no matter how much, it should be sealed with red paper. Red envelopes? Or? Packaging? . Is it customary to write it on a red envelope? Packaging mark? .