The best education for adolescent daughters: menarche, my father bought a bunch of flowers to congratulate her.

There is a funny scene in the recently hit TV series "In the Name of Family". Li Jianjian, a tomboy who grew up in a single-parent family, proudly announced that his period was coming at the dinner table where his father and brothers were present. What does strength mean? As long as I am not embarrassed, it is you who are embarrassed.

Because Li Jianjian died with his mother when he was a child, his father usually doesn't care. A little girl needs some education, including menstruation. Father thinks this is a difficult topic and doesn't know how to tell Li Jianjian. This is also an educational disadvantage that many families have.

What should I do if, in real life, my daughter really asks her father such a difficult question?

If one day, your daughter asks you this question, what should you answer? Blur the past and tell her you'll know then? Or simply let the daughter ask her mother?

I have seen the most beautiful answer from an anonymous user in Zhihu. Dad took his daughter to the room, drew a piece of white paper from the drawer, drew a circle and told her that it was her mother's stomach.

Then draw a tree in the circle and an apple on the tree. There is an apple tree in my mother's belly, and there are red apples hanging on it.

The longer the apple grows, the bigger it gets. A month later, the apple became very heavy, and it fell off the tree with a bang.

After falling, the red apple will break into pieces and flow out like urine.

Besides, only little girls have apple trees, so don't tell this secret to little boys! It turns out that the picture of explaining menstruation to children can be so interesting! It's not hard to say!

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Tell your daughter in advance

Avoid her panic and helplessness at menarche.

Remember when you were a child, your child asked you questions such as "menstruation", "menstrual period" and "bleeding from your ass". How did you answer them?

We received countless imaginative answers backstage:

My daughter saw me using sanitary napkins and asked if this was my mother's diaper.

I lied to my son that my mother didn't eat good food these days, and hemorrhoids were bleeding, so she needed a large band-aid. He really believes me, and he loves me very much.

Once, my son saw bloody toilet paper in the toilet paper basket. I couldn't tell him directly about my period, so I lied to him that my mother had just had a nosebleed.

Found a huge problem, that is, almost all mothers are trying to avoid this topic with their children.

In fact, menstruation is never a shameful thing. As children grow up, girls are also destined to experience menarche and menstruation.

When the girl reaches the age of 10, parents can get ready and tell her that you may experience menarche soon to avoid the panic and helplessness of menarche!

In particular, tell your children that if you happen to have your period at school, please don't be afraid or shy and tell the teacher in time.

If you are really shy, tell the teacher that you are unwell and call your mother on the teacher's mobile phone!

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Three ways to explain menstruation to children

Telling children "what is menstruation" is a science. Many parents will say that they have not deliberately avoided the topic of menarche, but they really don't know how to explain it to their children. Without some "professional knowledge", why not help parents make up lessons and see how to explain it best!

1, the child has the foundation of sex education, explain "menstruation" to her.

If the child has been in the fifth or sixth grade and has a certain foundation of sex education, you can use a little professional words to popularize menstruation:

Menstruation is the metabolism that every girl will experience every month.

In this way, the girl's uterus can operate, the inner wall of the uterus is constantly updated, and she has the ability to reproduce.

It is precisely because mother has a healthy and energetic uterus that fertilized eggs can be implanted and you will be born.

About 12 years old, the body is relatively mature and there will be menstruation.

2, the child's knowledge of sex education is still relatively weak, using fairy tales to describe her "menstruation."

And if your child is still young and accidentally breaks his "menstruation", then you will use a fairy tale to describe menstruation more:

There is a small house called uterus in mother's body, where you once lived in mother's belly.

There is an inner wall in the uterus, just like the wall at home, protecting the baby in the mother's belly.

After the baby was born, no one lived in the small house, but in order to keep it clean, it cleaned itself once a month and used blood to transport unwanted things in the uterus. ...

3. My mother is ashamed to express herself, and plays cartoons to explain menstruation to her children.

Another situation is that a mother who is not good at expressing herself at ordinary times really doesn't know how to explain menstruation to her children.

Then, shy mothers can play the following treasure video to their children-super cute menstrual commentary comics!

Just show it to the children directly!

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Please pay attention to your girl when you come to menstruation!

Fortunately, with the development of society and the constant change of people's ideas, girls' menstruation has gradually been put on the bright side.

As we all know, when girls come to menstruation, they usually encounter all kinds of physical discomfort.

Abdominal distension, abdominal pain, backache, fatigue, lethargy, fatigue, facial edema, coupled with study pressure, girls' resistance and adaptability will be reduced to varying degrees, and even cause inner anxiety.

If the physiological period is laughed at by others again, girls may really collapse instantly.

Sister He also heard from her mother's colleagues that the other children around her daughter had a holiday at the age of 12 or 13. After a long time, she felt isolated by others except herself. Another friend's daughter has normal menstruation, but she is nicknamed menstrual sister by her classmates.

Another mother heard the stories of other children and planned to hold a grand celebration ceremony on the day of her daughter's menstruation, buy a cake for her daughter and write a long letter to celebrate her formal growth.

A father in Hangzhou bought a bunch of flowers to celebrate his daughter's growth when she was menstruating. Now everyone can face up to the physiological period well.

As parents, we must pay attention to the psychology of our daughter when she comes to menstruation, and always remind her children of the precautions during menstruation:

1, reminding children to change sanitary napkins frequently. In order to avoid the embarrassment caused by splashing too much on your pants, change it every two hours when you have a lot of menstruation, that is, go to the bathroom every two shifts.

2. Remind children to clean their genitals with clear water every night, change their underwear every day, keep menstrual hygiene, and do not take a bath or take a cold bath during menstruation.

3, should not wear tight pants, should not eat spicy, cold food.

4. If the child has obvious dysmenorrhea, you can put a hot compress pad or hot water bottle on the abdomen. If the situation is particularly serious, you can see a doctor.

5, if the child's menstrual blood color is black, it is likely that the girl's physique is cold, it is best to give the child a conditioning.

6. In addition, we should teach the calculation of menstrual cycle, develop the habit of recording and prepare sanitary napkins in advance.

I once saw a friend send a Weibo, which probably said:

I don't want to hide sanitary napkins in my pocket anymore, because there is nothing to be ashamed of. I don't want to whisper "come to that" anymore. The word menstruation should be aboveboard.

As parents, it is time for us to reflect on whether we treat menstruation with a normal heart.

Because we want our daughter not to be ashamed to talk about menstruation, we must do this first. Menstruation is a beautiful symbol for girls to grow up. It's time to justify!

Menstruation is an important symbol of girls' growth, which needs parents' intentional guidance and careful treatment. Mom helps her daughter choose sanitary napkins, which will also have a great impact on her daughter's future life.

At present, many sanitary napkins on the market are under the banner of cotton softness. In fact, many sanitary napkins are made of chemical fiber, which will make girls who are sensitive to menstruation feel uncomfortable. Qianjin Jingya Sanitary Cotton (official national distributor telephone/WeChat 15527068706) is made of 100% cotton, which is very skin-friendly, comfortable and breathable, and can also prevent itching and allergies.

Different from other brands of sanitary napkins, Qianjin Jingya has been sterilized for four times, and the source of bacteria in sanitary napkins has been eliminated through the disinfection of medical devices, achieving zero fungi and effectively preventing menstrual infection. It's right to choose daughter Jing Ya for her developing daughter!