What are the wedding customs in Hainan?

Abstract: Every place has its own cultural customs because of its different customs. So if you are going to get married in Hainan, do you also want to know what marriage customs there are? What are the procedures for getting married in Hainan? And how much bride price does it take to get married in Hainan? The following article will introduce the marriage customs in Hainan in detail. Let's learn about the marriage customs culture in Hainan!

1. What should I take for the wedding bride price in Hainan?

Although Hainan people have their own unique customs of getting married, it is not complicated to comb it carefully. Generally, the following items need to be prepared:

1. Engagement fee

The engagement fee is called a wedding in Guangdong and a red envelope in Hainan. It is mainly used by the man's family to buy dowry and wedding supplies for the woman. There is no limit to the specific amount, generally depending on the requirements of the woman's family and the economic strength of the man's family. More than 90,000, less100,000, more than 20,000, and more than 30,000, after all, just show your sincerity. Marrying a daughter is not selling her daughter, and the amount of money is not the most important thing!

2. Piglets

Many places have the custom of preparing wedding dowry pork, and so does Hainan. But there is one difference. The pork to be prepared for Hainan's wedding dowry is not a mature pig, but a suckling pig, and it should be a whole head. On the day of engagement, it will be put in a big plate after slaughter, labeled with the word "Fu" and sent to the woman's home together with other bride price.

3. Gift cake

Daughter's marriage is a great event. In Hainan, we should send wedding cakes door to door and accept everyone's blessings. Moreover, this wedding cake is usually sent by the man's family and the woman's family. Are pasta with auspicious meanings, generally including:

(1) rice cake

The rice cake means "auspicious" and is a festive cake, which is usually eaten at weddings, New Year's Day and other festive occasions.

2. Smile

Homemade crispy biscuits in Hainan. Made of flour and eggs, fried, crispy and delicious, it is a favorite snack of local people and a necessary gift cake for Hainan's wedding dowry.

(3) Bread

In Hainan, bread has the meanings of "hair growth", "abundance" and "health" and is an auspicious biscuit. It is precisely because of its beautiful meaning that it has become a necessary item for wedding gifts and wedding cakes in Hainan.

(4) frying

A kind of hemp ball, popular in Guangdong, Hainan and other places, is also a fried food, but crisp outside and tender inside, very delicious. It means "sweet life" and "happiness".

2. Marriage customs in Hainan

1. propose

Both men and women are mature in love, and their families agree, but please ask the matchmaker to bring gifts to propose marriage at home. Most of the matchmakers are middle-aged women, eloquent and eloquent, and they are blessed with each other. However, it is often the man's parents who personally propose marriage, even the red envelope of the media mother is saved. On the first visit, the woman's reception was most taboo to eat raw hair, for fear that the marriage would fly away.

Fix your life.

Both parents have reached a consensus that their children are willing to get married. On an auspicious day, the matchmaker goes to the woman for a birthday and gives her a red envelope, which is a life-threatening process. After receiving the woman's birthday, the man also wrote down his child's birthday on red paper, and put it in a box with the woman's birthday, and asked the fortune teller to count it by hand. During this period, the matchmaker ran around delivering letters, all of which were handled by the matchmaker, and the negotiation was called fate.

Ask relatives

When the man's parents marry his son's daughter-in-law, they ask the matchmaker to bring gifts to the woman's house, mainly to ask her parents if they can get married this year. Generally speaking, I agree. For example, some places consider whether the marriage of brothers or sisters should be carried out in compliance. Of course, there are white things or red things at home, and it is not appropriate to marry two women a year. However, most places are also based on the principle of "there is hydroponics in one acre and three places", not to mention women who are particularly taboo. If the woman's parents agree, she will take the daughter's birthday red paper written in advance out of the rice jar, go to the living room and deliberately throw it on the ground, so that the matchmaker can pick it up, commonly known as "picking up life." After that, the matchmaker went to the woman's house for the second time to report the date and told her the date of "delivering cloth" or "getting married"

Send cloth

Sending cloth is a ceremony to inform the woman or relatives of the wedding date. The matchmaker bears two burdens. Of course, nowadays, society is all delivered by car. On this day, the man prepared gifts: a pair of pig's trotters, two red knots, two boxes of wedding fat, some cloth and four boxes of biscuits. The most important thing is RMB, which is generally around 50,000 yuan to 20,000 yuan. At this time, the woman may have to return a small sum of money to the man. This day is the most enjoyable time for women. Women or neighbors or relatives near the woman's house eat Hainan powder at noon. Almost half of the alleys and all relatives and women come to eat Hainan powder. There is no need to spend money on meals. Women can talk and laugh while eating powder. There's absolutely nothing about men. After eating, every family will pack a big bowl and go home. The scene is very lively.

make the bed

Anchuang, local wedding customs attach great importance to this ceremony, which has been passed down from generation to generation. The relationship between the direction of an Chuang and the direction of an Chuang is the key to harmonious coexistence, safe happiness and smooth delivery. Generally speaking, the day before the wedding, the bride and groom's birthday husband will be put to bed at the right time, and an old couple, the family in the village and the family in Wang Ding, will go to bed. In fact, the position and direction of the new bed have been determined by Mr. Chosun with a compass, and three or two powerful people have been called in advance to make proper arrangements. When it's time to go to bed, open the bed and stick a piece of red paper on each foot of the four beds, and sprinkle ancient money and auspicious leaves on it for prosperity. Later, the old couple lit a pair of lamps filled with kerosene for the man's room to show the groom's "marriage". Then, the two old people went out of the new house, locked the door, tied the red key and gave it to the owner. The next morning, the host gave the key to her mother-in-law. The next night, after the bride's party, her mother-in-law opened it and the host gave two old Geely red envelopes. Even if the bed installation ceremony is completed.

6. Wedding ceremony

On the wedding day, the groom went to the hair salon for a haircut, then went home and put on new clothes, trying to look handsome and have a new look. For the sake of extravagance and waste, a fleet of dozens of cars is celebrating the wedding today, and the last one is a 2400 car as a dowry. The number of wedding vehicles is odd. On the way to the wedding, firecrackers kept going all the way. After the wedding motorcade arrived at the woman, the woman lit firecrackers to greet her. The groom, wearing a gorgeous red blanket, was led by the matchmaker to the woman's door. The woman's brother or cousin came to offer tea or cigarettes. Then, the groom gave his brother a red envelope from 200 yuan every time he took a sip of tea. Similarly, lighters are 200 yuan's red envelopes. Of course, the woman's parents can't confiscate her brother's red envelope. If the woman is a mainlander, she should book a room in a nearby hotel as a place for her wedding reception. The woman's banquet is usually held at noon, during which there will be activities such as ancestor worship. If there are taboos, the bride should walk out of the house along many cushions until she gets married. In the afternoon, the wedding motorcade returned to the groom's house, the matchmaker unlocked the door of the new house, and the bride entered the new house, asking the bride to arrange the directional chair to sit down in advance, commonly known as "sitting". In the bride's room, the child should be invited to sit, the boy should sit on the bride's bed, and the father's parents or relatives should bring tea to drink before they can get up, and then several ceremonies will be held. (1) Visiting the church (2) Making a toast at the wedding banquet (3) The bride's official carries the lantern (4) Disrupting the new house (5) Being "ten friends".

7. Go back to your mother's house and squat in the corner.

On the morning after the wedding, the younger brother or sister of the bride's family will go to the new house to take the bride back to her family. It is not until the evening that the groom will go to the bride's house to pick her up. On the third day, the bride can't go out all day, commonly known as "squatting in the corner". On this day, the bride's close friends will come to chat with her, and those who have never seen the bride and are curious will come to see her today. Anyway, the bride will be an exhibit today.

Hainan newlyweds who are about to get married, if they don't know the wedding customs in Hainan and what to give as a bride price, may wish to refer to this article and discuss it with their elders at home. I wish you a romantic and festive wedding and a long life with your lover.

What are the marriage customs of Miao people in Hainan?

There is an old ballad among Miao people in Hainan. There is such a lyric: "Reach out and give your brother a bite, and the more you bite, the more you see your sister's love. There are not many traces of Castle Peak. Seeing the tooth marks is like seeing people. " "Biting hands" is a unique way for young Miao men and women in Hainan to express their love.

On holidays, especially on March 3, young men and women sing beautiful and moving songs under betel nut trees, mango forests, streams and grassy slopes to express their ideals, interests and wishes and find their Mr. Right. Later, the young man picked up a bow and arrow and a harpoon to catch fish in the river, and the girls cooked and fished by the stream until the sun set. If the young man likes the girl he loves, he will sing an opening song with a bow, a nose flute and leaves outside the girl's "Longboudoir" (the cabin where young women live) at night. Girls don't sing the closing song, they open the door, light a bonfire on the grass or bamboo forest, and dance with each other to show their affection for each other. At this time, the girl listened to the boy's courtship and shyly took the boy's hand and took a bite. If you bite lightly and politely, the young man will understand that the girl is refusing or suggesting that she has the right person. If the girl bites hard and even shows signs of bleeding, it shows that the girl is very devoted to him and willing to accept the love of the young man.

After "Biting Hands" made a promise, he took out his favorite calligraphy, rings, earrings, bamboo hats, waist baskets, etc., and gave them to each other as a keepsake for life.

4. Marriage customs in the "military dialect" area of Hainan.

"Military dialect" is widely used in Hainan Island, including Sanya, Changjiang, Danzhou, Dongfang and Lingao counties and cities, with a population of over 500,000. Their marriage customs are unique and interesting.

As the saying goes, "Empty words have no evidence, but actions have evidence". In these areas of the old society, "writing letters of life" was regarded as a contract for the combination of young men and women. "The life of parents, the words of the media." It's a marriage between a man and a woman. When a boy is twelve or thirteen years old, his parents will find a matchmaker. The basic condition of choosing a spouse is that the family is suitable, and the main contents of choosing a spouse are correct facial features, skillful work, reasonable understanding and filial piety to parents. The matchmaker went to the woman's house and talked about Lang Jun's outstanding talent, excellent moral character, great wealth, generosity, happiness and so on, which made her parents happy.

Then both parents give the children's "life letter" to the fortune teller, and if the "eight characters" of both sides can be combined, they can get married. The man will choose an auspicious day to prepare gifts, and the matchmaker will accompany his parents to the woman's house and set two tables of wine to celebrate.

After engagement, people who are usually seventeen or eighteen get married. The matchmaker asked the woman's family for advice. If there is no objection, the man chooses the wedding date and prepares gifts such as wine, meat and rice for the woman's family. Most gifts are given within three days before marriage. When she got married, the woman felt that she was getting married. In order to thank her parents for their kindness, she usually gets married in tears. Its content has certain rules. The main content is not to forget the kindness of parents, the brotherhood of brothers and sisters, and the girl's nostalgia for her family. This real cry, tears cross-flow, like a sad song.

When getting married, the bride and groom should not only put on brand-new clothes, but also trim their faces and hair to show their longing for a new life. On the wedding day, a boy and a girl combed the groom's hair and read a congratulatory message: "Comb your hair and shine; Two combs comb in pairs. "... after reading it, the in-laws present shouted" Yes "and set off firecrackers. In these military regions, people usually get married by ox cart, and the ox cart for the wedding banquet should also be decorated. The arch should be tied with wooden strips, covered with a red blanket and the hood erected. A meter screen should be hung behind the cart and the words "Hi-Hi" should be affixed. Cattle-drawn carts generally require red bulls, and red paper should be attached to their horns. Drivers should use cousins or "lucky" cousins, and the bride and groom should take ox carts.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) Wedding Etiquette of Li Nationality in Hainan

After the young men and women of Li nationality get married, engaged or arranged by a matchmaker, the man's family will send three to five relatives of men and women to form a marriage representative, and bring a dress, two silver dollars, betel nut and tobacco as dowry to the woman's house to talk about marriage. The bride's family held a banquet, and the two sides discussed the wedding dowry, parents' labor expenses, relatives' gift money and the quantity of betel nut, tobacco, alcohol and meat. If the woman agrees to get married, she will accept the dowry of the man and agree on the wedding date. If the bride's family doesn't agree to get married, return the dowry.

The amount of dowry varies from region to region. In the past, the bride price was 1 gong or 1 ox 30 ~ 50 silver dollars. Now more RMB is used, ranging from 8000- 10000 yuan. Interesting pronouns of bride price, such as 1 cow weight 1 pumpkin, 30 pieces of silver weighing 3 scales, and 50 pieces of paper money weighing 5 leaves. In other Li areas, such as Baoting, Lingshui, Sanya and other places, the man's family should send the woman's family 2000 yuan in cash, 20 betel nuts 120 kg of pork 120 kg of wine 120 kg of tobacco and so on. Li District in Baisha, Changjiang, Ledong, Dongfang and other places has a heavy bride price. In addition to the customary bride price, the man's family also gives parents the child's support expenses (formerly 8 silver dollars, now it is a TV set) and the bride's dowry. Only the Li nationality area in Qiongzhong keeps this routine. At present, for the marriage in Li District, the people first put betel nuts in engagement, and then go through the marriage registration formalities with the civil affairs department of the government.

Before marriage, the man's family should do three things: first, send the bride price to the woman's family; Second, prepare wedding supplies; Third, mobilize all relatives to build a new house for the groom. The woman's family should also do two things well: first, prepare food and wine for the reception team; Second, organize the women in the village to join the team to see the bride off. From the autumn harvest to the eve of the Spring Festival, it is a prosperous period for Li people to get married.

The wedding scene is grand and the wedding procedure is interesting, but it varies from place to place. Marriage is generally carried out through the procedures of receiving relatives, welcoming relatives, drinking auspicious wine, teasing mothers, singing, carrying water, seeing off, receiving meals, informing, asking for wives, and regulating daughters-in-law.

Wedding reception: On the morning of the wedding, the man's family sent three to five men and women to the woman's house to take care of the bride. The man, commonly known as the "rooster", is responsible for the contact; The woman is responsible for accompanying the bride. When picking up the bride, the woman gave a banquet and invited the folk eight-tone band to play. The bride and sisters gathered relatives and friends and women from the village to join the wedding procession. The higher the number, the higher the status of the bride, ranging from 20 to 30 to 100. Wedding custom: The bride should wash herself three days before the wedding, and ask someone to dress up, pluck hair and trim her eyebrows. The bride wears a gorgeous dress, a floral scarf, earrings, a silver collar and a jade bead ring around her neck, a silver medal, a silver bell and a pearl chain on her chest, a silver chain and a silver bell around her waist, and bracelets, rings and silver rings on her feet. Brides in mu area should also wear delicate reeds and shiny mica straw hats.

When the bride left her parents' house, she was escorted by her escort, and the man's house took the lead, walking in front of the team, and the band was playing. The scene is very lively. The popular wedding custom is that the bride does not show up until she sees the groom. Brides in Baoting and Lingshui areas cover their faces with umbrellas. The bride in the harmonious area covered her face with a straw hat, pretended to cry and scold her family and sent her away. If she doesn't cry or scold, people will say that she "misses her husband" and is not filial to her parents. The bride in Nankai District of Baisha County is led by four escorts at the four corners of the red carpet, and the bride is hidden inside. Li brides in Qiongzhong county and coastal areas do not wear veils and choose to follow their husbands and mothers. They should be young men and women born in the same year as the bride and groom, and their bodies and looks are roughly similar to those of the bride and groom. In the Li nationality in the Serbian dialect area, the groom leads the team to pick up the bride at the woman's house.

Wedding: Send the bride team to the entrance of the man's house at night for the wedding. Oya (the old man who presided over the ceremony), wearing a sacrificial dress and holding a sharp knife, spread a banana leaf in the middle of the village entrance, put an egg on it, and said a word of peace to the team that sent the bride (Lebanese free translation): "Ghosts and ghosts are fierce, don't block the entrance of Lucca village; The sharp knife cuts the egg to see bright red, and the leaves are out of stock to open the village door. Fire a gun to exorcise evil spirits, and the torch will lead the pro-line according to the road; Everyone is happy at the wedding and the bride and groom are always happy. " After Oya prayed, she cut open the egg with a sharp knife and lit the fire. The men standing on both sides of the intersection fired powder guns into the air, announcing that the bride team had entered the village safely. At this moment, the bride and the farewell party can only enter the village after passing the fire at the intersection. At that time, the groom's parents will meet the bride and the farewell party at home. The groom's sister, carry the bride's luggage into the house and seat the people who see her off. In the wedding customs of Li nationality in Wanling, Hongdao and Heping areas in Qiongzhong, when the bride enters the man's house, the groom's parents stand at the door, and both men and women raise their hands to the right to let the bride bow her head and walk into the house, indicating that her husband's family protects her daughter-in-law. The men also organized a folk band to play the music "Wedding".

Drink Fu wine: the wedding banquet is divided into guest seats. On the main seat of the banquet, there is a 60-cm-high wine jar with two bamboo tubes for drinking, commonly known as "Fu wine". There is a ceremony to drink alcoholic beverages. In the Qi dialect and Baisharun dialect in the harmonious area, the tribe Aoya (male old man) worships his ancestors, reports the names of the bride and groom to his ancestors, and prays for them to give the couple a family and have children. After that, the bride and groom, accompanied by their mother, shared the blessing wine. During the dinner, men and women set off an upsurge of drinking and singing. In other areas, Li weddings are popular, and the custom of offering sacrifices to ancestors and bowls of blessings is popular. At Li's wedding in Jiamao dialect area, when a man asks someone to deliver a meal, he should put money in each rice bowl, ranging from two yuan to ten yuan.

Teasing Niang: This is a unique and interesting wedding procedure. The way of teasing mother is different in every Li nationality area. At the wedding in Wuzhishan area, the girl who sent the bride team covered her face with a straw hat or umbrella, and the young man never saw the girl's face. The young man had to slap their faces and finally saw the true face of Lushan Mountain. At the Li wedding in Jiamao dialect area, when the bride is eating, the groom's family puts the rice into the bowl bit by bit during the dinner, asking the bride and the accompanying mother to eat only one mouthful of rice at a time, and everyone is watching, which makes the bride and the accompanying mother afraid to swallow it and spend their wedding night hungry. At the wedding ceremony, when you give the bride and groom a bowl of blessing wine together, you should drink it all at once and not spit it out. If you lift the bowl and a drop of wine falls, you have to drink another bowl of wine. Therefore, in order to drink all the wine in the bowl, the new couple's drinking action is more complicated, which makes all men and women burst into laughter.

In the wedding of Qiongzhong dialect, an oil lamp is lit in the bridal chamber and two chairs are placed in front of the lamp, which means that the figure of the person sitting in front covers the person sitting in the back and will be bullied in the future. Therefore, when entering the bridal chamber, the bride is afraid of being bullied by her husband after marriage, and often desperately grabs the chair in front. In the wedding ceremony of Mobil dialect in Dongfang City, the woman carried a "pavilion pile" symbolizing luggage for the bride, arrived at the door of the man's house, was snatched away by the man's family, and poured a pot of pork over the old woman's head, saying that it was a due reward. At this time, agile people will lift their skirts and hold pork. Slow-moving people were drenched in broth and got nothing, which made everyone laugh. At the wedding in the harmonious area, the man steamed glutinous rice and the woman was responsible for making dumplings with wooden mortar.

Boys always try their best to grab dumplings. If they are not careful, they are often hit on the head and hands by girls with wooden pestles. Some girls are caught, and their hair will be covered with sticky rice balls, and they will not be cleaned for three days. The wedding of Baisha Runhua is not "teasing the mother" but "teasing the man", which embodies the legacy of women's rights. When the bride team arrives at the man's house, the talking and debating bride and escort check the food on the table first. If there is raw rice in the meal and no pork in the dish, it is considered that the husband's family demeans the bride, and the accompanying mother will criticize it and even pour the dish on the ground. In this regard, the man's family had to submit to humiliation and cook again.

Duige: The marriage custom of the Li nationality runs through the whole marriage, and the wedding is a grand gathering of oral and literary exchanges between the Li people. At the wedding reception, the old man spoke to the song, the middle-aged man sang to the song contest, the young man fell in love with the song, and the bride and groom also expressed their love for the song.

Cooking and carrying water: until the next morning, the groom's mother showed her new wife the original rice jar at home and instructed her to put rice in the pot. When the rice is cooked, the bride puts it in a bowl and gives it to her parents. The groom's sister took her new sister-in-law to the river to carry water home. Boil water to wash the face of male parents.

Seeing off relatives: there are mainly two forms of Kazak, Qi, Run and Sai dialects. Hold a wedding in the evening and send the mother team home the next day. Holding a wedding at night means that when the sun goes down at night, the bird returns to its nest and the girl returns to her husband's house. The wedding in Mobil dialect was held during the day, and the bride team was sent back that night. Wedding during the day, thinking that the bride will not recognize her husband and family when she marries during the day. When the bride team left the men's house, they brought back a pair of jars full of wine, a row of pork or beef, a car full of dumplings, betel nuts and tobacco. When seeing off the bride, the host and guests toasted each other and sang goodbye.

Welcome: After the wedding, the man's family held a welcome banquet, commonly known as "wedding banquet", to thank relatives and friends who donated money and materials and gave help during the wedding. At the wedding reception, newlyweds should listen to the instruction of their relatives and friends. For example, the newlyweds are required to be thrifty and live in love for a long time. There are many relatives and friends in the male family, and some people still come to pay homage a few days after the wedding. So some banquets last for three days and nights.

Back to the door: After marriage, the bride stays with her husband's family for a period of time, and then goes back to her mother's family to inform her parents about her life in her husband's family and how good her husband is to her wife. When the bride goes back to her family, she brings a small pot of rice wine, a small dumpling, almonds, tobacco and other things. Stay at her house for a few days until her husband takes it back. If the newlyweds have bad feelings, the bride can refuse to get married.

Inviting a wife: The new daughter-in-law went back to her mother's house for the first time, and her husband went to the woman's house to invite her home. When a son-in-law asks for a wife, he should pay attention to human etiquette when he goes to his parents' home, and his behavior should conform to etiquette. He should know the honorifics of each family, and he should be able to drink and sing. At the banquet of the woman's family, the girls in the woman's village often entangle themselves in drinking and singing. When a son-in-law marries a wife, the woman's family is very happy if she behaves well, saying that her daughter has found a "new Palmer" (a good husband); Some wives left their parents' home that day, went back with their husbands, and came back shy the next day. After that, there is no need to invite your wife back to your husband's house. If the wife refuses to go back to her husband's house after asking for marriage, she says it's "He Wei loves Palmer", which means divorce.

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