The father who abandoned his wife and daughter is now old and helpless. Should I forgive him?

When Qingqing was 7 years old, her parents divorced.

That was in the 1990s, but in retrospect, it still feels particularly bleak. Qingqing's father has a woman outside and gave birth to a daughter. Qingqing's mother may be a little silly and too kind to know. When Qingqing's father came back from divorce, he found that there were only a few tens of dollars in the passbook at home, and the name on the room book had been changed long ago. Apart from the tens of dollars, there is nothing in the couple's name.

At that time, the house at home belonged to grandparents, and Qingqing's mother was kept in the dark. She always thought that men were unreliable, and later she realized that this was a particularly cruel person. Litigation divorce, at that time, everyone may not understand the law, and the law does not have those new regulations today. Therefore, Qingqing's mother got nothing, which made her work every day, and she didn't respond to it.

Divorced, I have to pack my clothes and go back to my parents' house. However, only my grandfather was still alive at that time, but he was also ill. Mom can only go back to live with grandpa. Mom really wants to get custody of Qingqing, but there is nothing in her name and she has no job, so the court will not award it to her. Besides, mom really can't afford to raise Qingqing.

Qing Qing's father didn't want it either, because the woman was already preparing to have a second child, and she also invited the fortune teller to predict that she would have a son. Qingqing has become an unwanted child, and her mother doesn't know what to do, so she can only hold her and cry. Later, my grandparents couldn't stand it any longer, so they brought Qingqing back. Dad doesn't care, grandparents are too old, but fortunately, aunts love green, so they will grow up.

02

Soon after Qingqing's mother divorced, her grandfather died. Grandpa left the house to his daughter, but my aunt found out and made a scene, almost hitting her mother under the table. In the end, Qingqing's mother did not transfer the house to her uncle. She just took the house away and went out to work.

Qingqing's mother was about 30 years old. She has no skills, but can only do some sales staff and sales. I don't earn much money. Qingqing's mother always said that she would work hard until she had the conditions to take over Qingqing. But this class is 10 year. 10, Qingqing's mother saved enough money to buy a house and live with her daughter. But it was also in that year that Qingqing was admitted to high school.

Stepmother jumped up and said, I don't care. A pair of children at home are still studying and can't afford it. By the way, the stepmother really gave birth to a son. Dad didn't dare say anything. Grandparents are very old. Aunt said she could provide it.

Qingqing really feels that she is an unwanted child and that she gives others trouble all day. Standing in front of people, she felt like a dwarf. Qingqing's mother didn't buy a house, but took money for Qingqing to study. Indeed, in high school and college, my mother takes care of Qingqing like a little princess and lacks everything. It was not until Qingqing University graduated that my mother breathed a sigh of relief. She said that as long as everything is fine in Qingqing, all the hardships in these years are worth it.

Qingqing's mother is fifty years old, with gray hair, no remarriage, no house, and still doing odd jobs everywhere. At that time, my grandparents had passed away, and Qingqing really didn't want to go back to her father. After work, I rented a house nearby and lived with my mother. My mother takes care of Qingqing's daily life and finds a job nearby. My life is dull and happy.

03

Since Qingqing grew up, her father seems to have suddenly become a loving father. From time to time, Qingqing has to eat and cook in person. Stepmother's face is still ugly, but dad seems to have a backbone at once. In recent years, Qingqing's father has not lived a good life. His stepmother can't manage her life, and she is lazy. Qingqing's father didn't make enough money for the whole family, and his two children did nothing. He comes back for money every day and is angry with his parents.

Qingqing's father was very angry and said they were unfair. I like Qingqing even more when I see her lovely and beautiful. It was also at this time that Grandpa Qingqing's house was demolished and my aunt wanted it back. However, Qingqing said nothing and found a lawyer. Finally, the demolition was divided into three houses, and Qingqing's mother got two.

In recent years, as long as the house price rises, Qingqing's mother and daughter suddenly become rich. Stepmother said that Qingqing should help her younger brother and sister find a job, and she should feel more sorry for her father. However, Qingqing really doesn't care. Qingqing's mother said, in any case, dad is dad, and he is ruthless, but Qingqing can't be unfair.

Not because dad is worth it, but because Qingqing is a good girl. Qingqing is also full of resentment, thinking about revenge. However, my mother said that there is no need to forgive, but there is no need to worry about them. Just do what you have to do and live like anything else.

Qingqing's father is ill in hospital. After his son sent him to the hospital, Qingqing's contact number was left, and even his stepmother and sister were gone. Qingqing paid all the hospitalization expenses before her sister came. Qingqing said she could pay, but she couldn't wait in the hospital. If they don't come again, or do something excessive, then everyone's face will not look good.

However, the stepmother's family only takes care of her father and is unwilling to leave the hospital, regardless of what she says. Qingqing wants her father's salary card back. In fact, there is not much money, otherwise her stepmother would not give it. Qing Qing said something about sending her father to a nursing home. To tell the truth and do this is the limit of Qing Qing.

04

Think of Qingqing's father when he was young. He is really confused, and everything he has done is not worth forgiving. I still don't know what would have happened if Qingqing's mother hadn't worked hard for most of her life. Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, but this right cannot be based on willfulness and absurdity. It is really outrageous to spend the rest of your life with your wife and daughter.

Abandoning his wife and daughter in the first half of his life, the scenery in the second half is bleak. I want to be forgiven, but I can't feel it. Qingqing's mother and daughter are kind, but this does not mean that Qingqing's father is not wrong or worthy of forgiveness. An irresponsible man, a reckless husband and father, should pay for his absurdity.

Love the people around you and treat your responsibilities with awe. Only doing well today is the guarantee of happiness tomorrow. We should not disappoint our loved ones and care. May everyone have a happy childhood, a happy marriage, love to follow, a favorite and the strongest support.