Guiguzi advised the world: don't say three words when you are poor, and don't care about three things when you have no money. What are you talking about?

As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. Speaking is really a science.

People who can talk are blessed by heaven; He who can't speak, disaster comes from his mouth.

Emperor Qianlong visited Jiangnan six times. Once, when he was playing in Suzhou, he was attracted by a rockery in the lion forest. When he was happy, Emperor Qianlong wanted to show off his calligraphy, so he mentioned the three characters "really interesting" on the rockery.

As we all know, Gan Long likes dancing and writing. He wrote nearly 40 thousand poems in his life, but the quality was not very good.

The word "really interesting" is known to anyone who has read this book. It's too ordinary, with no technical content. But everyone thinks so in their hearts, but they dare not say it. If they say it, they may lose their heads.

Qianlong knows it in his heart, but the words have been written and he can't go back on his word.

At this time, it would be a great honor for a glib champion to flatter him, praise his good handwriting and beg for the word "you".

Qianlong also got the message and gave him the word "you". In this way, the remaining word "true interest" is particularly tall.

The champion not only saved Qianlong's face, but also got the imperial pen of the emperor, and both of them were happy.

Guiguzi once said: the mouth is the gateway to the soul. The heart is the master of God. Intention, happiness, meditation and originality all come in and out through the portal. So, it's awkward to go in and out.

The mouth is the window of the soul, and the soul is the master of the spirit. Will, thought and wisdom all come in and out through this door and window. Therefore, guard this pass with open and closed doors to control access. So be "cautious".

As we all know, if you succeed, everything you say is right and reasonable.

If you are down and out, you must be careful what you say and do. Even if you are right, others will ask: Why did you fail?

Therefore, poor people can't talk nonsense, and those who have no money should pay as little attention as possible. This is great wisdom.

There are three sentences in Guiguzi's book that people should never say when they are poor, to help you learn to be a man in the Jianghu and avoid detours.

First, don't say angry words

People are human because they know how to control their emotions. As the old saying goes, if you can tolerate others but not ninjas, you will succeed in the future. If you are a little faster, you will regret it all your life.

Nine times out of ten, when life is not satisfactory, things will happen in anger, and it is unwise for you to take it out on others. People who say angry words often like to speak quickly for a while, which is easy to offend people and will be played in the palm of their hands.

Mount Tai collapsed in front of us, but its color did not change. Only in this way can we be a shrewd person in front of great events and not be seen through by others.

During the Three Kingdoms period, with the help of Xu You, Cao Cao defeated Yuan Shao and won Jizhou.

When Xu Youchu came to defect, Cao Cao went out barefoot to meet Xu Youchu and regarded him as a guest of honor. However, after Xu You won Jizhou, it was of no use. Cao Cao was suspicious by nature, and it was even more impossible to entrust Xu You with the heavy responsibility.

Therefore, the gap between Xu You's heart is very big, and he is very angry. He is drunk at the gates of Jizhou every day and doesn't want to make progress. Think at the beginning, under Yuan Shao's door, he was also a highly valued strategist, but now he is mixed to the point where nobody cares, and he is extremely down and out, which makes Xu You very dissatisfied.

One day, at the city gate, Xu You saw Cao Cao and said, "Cao Aman, you can't get Jizhou without me.

In fact, this is true, but it is also angry words, which is a taboo for ministers.

For the first time, Cao Caonian ignored him because he was a meritorious minister.

I don't know. The more he thinks about it, the angrier he gets, so he scolds Cao Cao on the rostrum all day.

Cao Cao had an Iliad named Chu Xu under his command. Prime Minister Cao can't stand it, but he can't stand it. He raised his sword, fell down, and Xu You died.

Second, don't talk big.

Everyone has vanity, but to exaggerate one's ability is to talk big. Such people are extremely insecure and want to be recognized by others.

But the facts often backfire. In the long-term communication, everyone will think that this person is hypocritical and unwilling to associate with him. A braggart is like a clown, making everyone laugh.

Moreover, people who love to talk big are usually incompetent, and those who are truly capable are often very low-key. It may take a lot of lies to tell a big lie. A bottle without half a bottle of light is likely to be isolated and everyone will avoid it. What's more, they will make a big mistake because of their big talk.

During the Warring States Period, there was an alchemist in the State of Zhao, commonly known as a Taoist priest, who mostly referred to fortune telling and alchemy. He wanders the streets every day, does not have enough to eat, and especially likes to talk big, so as to fool others and make a living. He claimed to be a fortuneteller, lived for thousands of years and met Yao, Shun, Yu, Huangdi and others. Everyone was dubious about this and didn't take it to heart.

One day, Wang Zhao went out hunting and accidentally fell down and was seriously injured. Doctors recommend drinking blood for thousands of years to cure diseases. At this time, the prince of Zhao remembered that an alchemist in Zhao claimed to have lived for thousands of years, so he sent someone to take it down and draw blood.

The alchemist was so frightened that he quickly knelt down and begged for mercy, saying that he had been boasting before and had not lived that long. But the prince of Zhao didn't believe it, thinking that he lied to save his life, he killed him anyway.

It's easy to talk big, but how to earn it back? This is really difficult.

Third, don't say anything discouraging.

Life is always full of ups and downs and difficulties. If you choose to complain and indulge yourself, you will never get out of trouble.

At this time, you should reflect on yourself, why you failed, sum up your experience and start over. Failure is the mother of success. Failure is not terrible. The terrible thing is to lose the courage to start over.

People who only care about themselves and complain about others all day are naturally far from good luck. People don't want to associate with such people.

Whether what you say is true or not, everyone likes people with sweet mouths. Good luck.

In 202 BC, Han Xin was ambushed on all sides. Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, was defeated and retreated to Wujiang River. There happened to be a boat parked on the bank of Wujiang Pavilion.

Seeing that the Han army was coming, the pavilion director advised Xiang Yu to cross the river, saying: Although Jiangdong is small, there are more than a thousand miles of land and hundreds of thousands of people. When the king crosses the river, he can still be king there. Stay in the castle peak, don't worry about burning wood, and find the reason another day.

King Xiang said with a wry smile, what can I do if the sky dies? Xiang Yu attributed his failure to "the death of Heaven".

He knew that Han Xin first worked under his account, and if he had a good eye, history might be rewritten. Moreover, at the hongmen banquet, he had a chance to kill liu bang, but because of his conceit and arrogance, he missed the opportunity.

If Xiang Yu retreats to Jiangdong, it is not impossible for him to make great achievements in the future, but Xiang Yu is arrogant by nature and chooses to blame others. Therefore, it is not the sky that wants to kill him, but self-destruction.

As the saying goes, everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, leaving others alone to frost. When people are down and out, besides not talking nonsense, don't worry about the following three things, so as not to get burned.

I. Matters in dispute

Don't persuade others to be generous without knowing their sufferings. If you encounter another person's argument, you are not in it, so you can't understand the feelings of others, because the needle sticks to others, so you won't feel very painful.

If you don't know the truth about things that have nothing to do with you, you will get involved and ask exorbitant prices, which will cause more trouble.

As a result, you, who talk lightly, did not solve the dispute at all, but aggravated the development of the situation, involved yourself in it and set yourself on fire. Why?

Yu Qian, the cross talk queen, once said that the important thing in life is to mind your own business and not other people's business. I think it makes sense. Many people can't even manage themselves, let alone others. I thought it was someone else's mess.

Second, responsibility.

When you are poor, you should do things more carefully. As the saying goes, the sky is productive and the earth is bold. What you do should match your ability, and you can't take responsibility for no reason. You should think twice before you act and consider the consequences.

For example, if the leader gives you a task, if you haven't finished it yet, you must remember not to brag in front of the leader, saying that you can guarantee to complete the task. If you don't do it well, you will definitely be criticized.

You can say I try my best, so even if you don't do well, the leader may think you tried your best.

Many people have been guarantors now. Party A and Party B have a loan relationship, and they have found a passer-by C as a guarantor. A few years later, passerby B failed in business and was unable to pay back the money. The money needs the guarantor, passerby C, to repay the money for Party B, and passerby C regrets it too late.

Therefore, it is best not to shoulder the responsibility.

Third, uncertain things.

Sun Tzu's art of war says: more wins than less wins. From this perspective, we can see the results.

The "calculation" here refers to the odds, and more refers to the determination of the odds. The greater the odds, the greater your chances of winning.

Nowadays, shopping malls, like battlefields, are a war without smoke. If you are at a low ebb and fail again, you may roll in the abyss, so don't fight unprepared and do uncertain things.

In World War II, the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor without considering the consequences, and they were not sure that they would win, but they still put all their eggs in one basket and launched a sneak attack regardless of everything.

Although it won a short victory, it paid a painful price. Two fat dolls leveled two cities in Japan.

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Have you learned the above six ways of dealing with people? When people are poor, don't say angry words, don't talk big, don't say discouraging words. When you have no money, no matter what disputes or responsibilities you have, don't do things you are not sure about.

Only by mastering these basic principles of dealing with people can we be at home in the rivers and lakes.

For more than two thousand years, Guiguzi has been sought after by later generations. Military strategists respect him as a saint, strategists respect him as an ancestor, fortune-tellers respect him as an ancestor, strategists respect him as a saint, famous artists respect him as an ancestor, and Taoism respects him as the ancestor of Wang Chan.

Guiguzi is also praised by later generations as "the forbidden fruit of wisdom, a wonderful book in the world". This book summarizes the success or failure of life and points you in the direction when life is at a low ebb.

Today, I recommend five good books, namely Guiguzi, Wolf Road, Murphy's Law, Human Weakness and Parchment. These five books are called "must-read books for successful people" and "five books that will benefit people for life".

I didn't know until I saw Guiguzi: If you meet a pig, you don't have to talk to him about ideas, because he cares about feed.

After reading Murphy's law, I know that pain without words is a kind of wisdom; Laughing without a word is an open mind.

I didn't know until I read Wolf Road that alienating people is temperance and self-discipline.

I didn't know until I read The Weakness of Human Nature: I can reason with you with a smile, or I can turn my back on you and tell you the rules.

After reading the parchment, I know: Don't give up until the last moment.

Each book contains a wealth of psychological knowledge and concrete examples to help you digest. These five books are indispensable wisdom in your life, work and entrepreneurship.

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