Sun Chao: The best appearance of marriage is the agreement of three views.

Lu Yu, the host, wrote in "Accidental Meeting": You know, two completely different individuals mean that you are likely to need to add notes when chatting, your three views are likely to be inconsistent, and you are likely to not appreciate each other for a long time, which is fatal to love and marriage.

Yes, in marriage, it is difficult for two people with different views to understand each other's views and behaviors, and it is easier to quarrel and have conflicts.

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As the saying goes, sworn, sworn, marriage is the same. Husband and wife have the same outlook on life, and they keep the same pace in pursuing the meaning and goals of life, growing together and fulfilling each other.

Deng Chao and Sun Li, the model couples in the entertainment circle, are a good example. They are all actors and they all love their careers. Over the years, Deng Chao and Sun Li have constantly challenged themselves, kept growing and made breakthroughs in their careers.

On one occasion, Sun Lifa sent Weibo to sort out a full 50-volume palace book "Empresses". The dense and colorful notes, notes and excerpts make everyone involuntarily sigh her dedication and concentration. Coincidentally, when filming The Legend of Mi Yue, the photo of Sun Li reciting lines at home was exploded again.

As the saying goes, like father, like daughter, like wife, like husband. Deng Chao gained about 20 Jin in three months to shoot the role in Shadow. He needs to eat 36 hot pots and 42 midnight snacks every day, and he is tortured by a fitness instructor.

In order to play Yu Zi, he must lose 40 pounds in two months, strictly follow the dietitian's diet and eat at least one egg a day. As a result, the immune system declined, and the digestive system was disordered. I had hypoglycemia and dizziness for six times on the set, and I wore long pants in dog days.

The two couples' efforts are equal, and there is no doubt about their strength and achievements. Their common love and pursuit of their careers enable them to understand each other and appreciate each other's talents.

For them, career is important, and family is also important. Similar growth experiences make them more aware of how happy they are to have a home of their own.

When one party goes out to film, the other party will visit the class after work and bring their children to accompany each other. In their spare time, couples will take their children out for a walk and play together. The most common thing in Weibo is that they accompany their children.

Deng Chao and Sun live a happy life together, largely because they have the same outlook on life, love their careers and care about their families.

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French writer Antoine de Saint-Exupé ry said: "Life tells us that love is not when two people stare at each other, but when they look in the same direction."

This is very reasonable. Husband and wife have different views on things. Even if they love each other, they will be defeated by life.

There is a short video "Two Hearts" on the Internet, in which there is a topic: What will happen if the husband and wife have different views? MengMeng, the host, cited a case. There is a woman, Fan Xiao A, whose family is not bad. She usually buys whatever she likes. The little husband was born in the countryside and is usually very frugal.

After marriage, the young couple's living conditions became rich, but the little husband still insisted on choosing the lowest material, and he could save if he could. Two people often have conflicts because of shopping. A few years later, Xiao found that his values were completely different from those of her husband.

Once, Xiao took his son to the supermarket. When he saw cherries, he liked them very much, so Xiao bought 69 cherries to go home. I didn't expect this move to trigger a war at home.

When Xiao's husband came home and saw such an expensive cherry, he immediately accused Xiao's profligacy, admitted that it was better to buy stationery for his son, and even threatened to divorce her.

In addition, my son's toys are usually bought by small children, and my husband never refuses to pay. Every time my son envies the neighbor's children having new toys, my husband always scolds him, saying that he doesn't study hard and is worthless when he grows up.

Little, I didn't expect their feelings to become worthless when they met money. The reason is that they have different views on money. Even if two people fall in love again, an honest husband will look so bad when faced with money choices.

The three views are inconsistent, and it is difficult for two people to go hand in hand again.

The inconsistency between the three views is like an invisible bomb. If you are not careful, you will sink the marriage boat at any time.

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Some netizens said that the three views are the same, but two people have similar or even the same pursuit for each other. It also means that although we have different pursuits, I respect your choice and am willing to do it with you.

Before becoming famous, the famous director Ang Lee spent six years quietly polishing himself at home, reading many books, watching many movies, writing many plays, cooking and taking care of children. His wife, Lin Huijia, works outside the home, and basically relies on her to support the family expenses.

These six years have been very difficult for this family. Ang Lee's grand ambition is very shabby in front of reality. It's almost six years since he graduated, and he has accomplished nothing, so he is very depressed. Fortunately, Ang Lee got his wife's understanding and support.

Whenever Ang Lee feels desperate and depressed, his wife will take him out for dinner. For their economic situation at that time, eating KFC was the most luxurious meal. When Ang Lee feels idle and stays at home motionless, his wife will specially urge him to find something to do, so that he will not be depressed.

Ang Lee said that his wife's greatest support was to live independently, and she didn't ask Ang Lee to go out to work. It is because of his wife's respect and recognition of his ideal that Ang Lee has the opportunity to pursue a film career. This is one of the reasons why Ang Lee can become a famous director in China.

Some people say that when life is full of daily necessities, all ideals will come to nothing. It can be said that without Lin Huijia's support, famous films such as Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Lust, Caution and Fantasy Drifting of Pi would not have appeared in front of us.

The long-term marriage depends on two people's recognition and support for each other's pursuit. Although we may pursue different directions, I am willing to accompany you.

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I saw a netizen share her story online: she said that the biggest reason why two couples can fall in love for ten years is that the three views are the same. For example, when she gave birth to a baby and became a full-time wife at home, her husband encouraged her to develop a sideline. He agrees that independent women should not be confined to their families, but should give full play to their strengths as much as possible.

As for the wife's proposal to take her children abroad twice a year to gain knowledge, the husband nodded again and again. He said that money should be spent, so don't save money at the expense of yourself. Spending money to experience different journeys and see different scenery can increase life experience.

Although my wife doesn't like watching football, every year when her husband stays up late to watch the World Cup, she will accompany her occasionally, just as her husband doesn't like watching palace fights, he will stand up to accompany his wife.

From them, it can be seen that the marriage with the same three views has given them the motivation to move forward, just like two horses keep pace and go further and further.

Mr. Nan You, the headline author, wrote in "You are like a hedgehog, but I really want to hug you": Believe it or not, people will eventually be with people with the same views and interests, and that is the happiest. He is, so are you.

Driven by similar goals and ideas, two people with the same three views are getting closer and closer, and finally they are combined. When they enter marriage, they will not feel tired because of some frictions in their lives, but adjust their mentality and rhythm to adapt to each other's actions. So that two people can go on happily.

The unity of three views is the most beautiful appearance of marriage.