Psychological counseling questions and answers; Answer (1)

1. Are all people who go to psychological counseling sick?

Counseling, not therapy.

If we say that suffering from "diseases" such as major depression, major anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder requires hospital treatment and psychological counseling, then most of the remaining people who are conducting psychological counseling are actually doing a thing of "caring for the soul, exploring themselves and repairing the soul".

Visitors seek psychological counselors because of inner conflict, confusion and pain, inability to choose or being stuck in a certain state for a long time. Psychological counselors provide uncritical listening, high attention, acceptance and understanding, observe from the perspective of counselors, help visitors see and analyze themselves, and let visitors see their invisible self through this counseling relationship with the help of another person.

2. Do you know everything I think?

Counselors are not gods, so they can't read the minds of visitors. Therefore, psychological counselors cannot predict the future, nor can they modify and manipulate their memories.

No matter what kind of psychological theory and school, it is based on a large number of experimental observations, case tracking and statistical analysis, and it all comes from scientific research.

The process of consultation is the same. Psychological counselors don't imagine some judgments out of thin air, but collect information from all angles through conversation, sort out materials, and then discuss and verify with visitors by analogy.

For example, how do visitors make an appointment, whether they are on time, which seat to choose, how to start, how to dress, how to sit, gestures, pronunciation and intonation, speech speed, expression, the content of the story, pause time and so on. , are all information transmitted by visitors.

3. Is counseling just a chat?

There is a clear difference between psychological counseling and chatting. Chatting is a conversation without any requirements, while psychological counseling is a conversation with clear goals between counselors and patients to discuss treatment plans. Because the goal is to treat the psychological problems of visitors, this conversation process is not a free conversation between the two sides. Psychological counselors will touch and deeply analyze the various emotional feelings of visitors, as well as the causes and consequences.

The significance of psychological counseling conversation lies in helping visitors explore themselves, enhancing their understanding of their emotions, beliefs and behaviors, and enhancing their understanding of their motives and consequences. The ideal effect is that visitors will have a deeper understanding of themselves every time they experience a psychological conversation.

I heard that psychological counselors are all patients themselves, is that right?

In the personal growth of consultants, there is an important personal experience besides participating in training and supervision. What is that person's experience? To put it bluntly, even the consultant himself needs to be a visitor and consult with his own consultant. Why do consultants also consult? Can a consultant become a consultant only if he is sick?

In fact, the reason is very simple, because psychological confusion itself is produced in interpersonal relationships, so it is a process of experiencing relationships for psychological counselors to experience counseling themselves. Only by studying theoretical books, without interpersonal communication, there is no way to have a love experience.

The personal experience of the counselor can not only help the counselor to understand his feelings in psychological counseling from the perspective of the visitor, but also be an opportunity for the counselor to deal with his own trauma, narcissism and inner conflict in the process of growing up, so as to avoid misjudging and misleading the visitor because of the counselor's own experience and affecting the interests of the visitor.

Therefore, the personal experience of counselors is a process of deepening their self-awareness and helping them to mature their personality.

5. Psychological consultation can solve all problems.

Psychological counseling is not the only way to solve the problem. The task of counseling is to help visitors solve psychological problems, so the goal of counseling belongs to the category of psychology. For help that does not belong to psychological problems, it generally does not belong to the category of psychological counseling.

What is the scope of psychological counseling? Psychological counseling mainly involves psychological obstacles, psychological adaptation, psychological development and other issues. For example, if a visitor has problems in his marriage, I hope the counselor can help him make a choice. It is a specific problem, which does not belong to the category of psychology, so it cannot be the goal of psychological counseling. But what this visitor wants to solve is the emotional adjustment caused by marriage problems, which is more suitable for psychological counseling.

6. Psychological counseling can solve problems at one time.

As a counselor, I have an obligation to explain the relevant settings of psychological counseling to visitors. Especially psychological counseling is a process. Some problems can't be solved in one or two conversations, sometimes they will be tortuous or even repeated, and some problems are even difficult to solve perfectly. In this regard, tourists should be fully prepared.

7. What style of consultant am I suitable for?

? Psychological counselors who don't introduce themselves will feel strange, especially the opposite sex, and dare not face it.

Before consulting, visitors have the right to confirm the qualifications of consultants and know the specialties of consultants, such as being particularly good at a certain kind of people, a certain kind of problems, a certain theory or method. The matching degree between visitors and consultants is good, and it is easier to obtain consulting results.

At the same time, psychological counselors will adhere to the ethical requirements of counseling, choose suitable visitors according to their own competence, and refer the objects they are not good at or do not belong to psychological counseling.

8. You are a counselor. You can directly analyze what is wrong with my child (my husband).

I hope that psychological counselors can diagnose children, husbands, parents, even friends or leaders from a distance, because in the eyes of the public, psychological counseling gives people a mysterious impression. They think that psychological experts have "mind-reading" and can understand and explain all human nature. They think that it can be used as a tool to analyze others, label others (including themselves), and can also be used to quarrel, so as to achieve the purpose of combating dimensionality reduction.

The above questions come from my classmates and I in our life and work, and the written answers come from the Internet. Many people don't know much about psychological counseling and even have some misunderstandings. I hope this article has also answered your question.