Five golden flowers of life

How many of the five golden flowers in life do you have?

Just like a seed, it needs sunshine, water and air to bloom its beauty, blossom and bear fruit. How many of the five golden flowers of life have bloomed in connection with their own vitality?

The first flower of "love" ability

Humans have this ability. To love can make others love.

How well this flower can bloom depends on how much sunlight, air, water and soil fertilizer it can get. Human sunshine, air and water are our psychological nutrition.

The second flower of an open life is independence.

People are born to be responsible for themselves, and no one is not eager to be themselves. When people feel helpless and unable to make a decision, they will feel as if they are not alive. All children want to be responsible, but they are taught to be irresponsible.

Independence is our second golden flower.

Independence means that I can have the right to choose. Give children the right to choose!

The third flower in life is connection. Without contact, human beings will be lonely. "Contact" is our third golden flower. In fact, human beings really need to contact others. If you don't contact anyone in this world, you will feel lonely, lonely, and then you will feel pain.

The fourth flower in life is a sense of value.

Human beings pursue value. We all want to be valuable. Teenagers often say "boredom" is to pursue a sense of value, not just material things and love. "Sense of value" is our fourth golden flower.

Human beings need to pursue a sense of value, which means I want to know that I live in this world and this life is meaningful.

The fifth flower in life is security.

Not external security, but I have a sense of security. No matter what happens outside, I can go forward when I am afraid, even if it is natural or man-made disasters. It's not controlling people, and it's not uncomfortable. The real sense of security comes from the heart. Even if it is stormy, my heart is still safe.

The last one is "safety"

A sense of security means that I can trust. What is the greatest sense of security? I can trust myself.

Mothers need to provide unconditional acceptance to their children, and children will feel safe. Don't run away from problems.

So how to judge whether a child's psychological nutrition is enough?

That is to see that children have the ability to love, to be connected, to feel valuable, to be responsible for themselves, to be independent and to trust themselves, then the psychological nutrition of children is enough.