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Debate contest. The argument that emotional intelligence is higher than IQ

Hello, teachers and classmates For a long time, we have been used to using IQ to predict people's success. We often say, "Wow, this man with such a high IQ will make a difference." But there are also some phenomena that cause people to think.

Why are some people top students in school, but they are "indifferent" and do nothing after entering the society?

Why are some people relaxed and happy when facing difficulties and troubles? Some people are depressed and listless?

Why do some people adapt well in any environment, while others are at a loss because of the slight adjustment of the environment?

Therefore, in 1995, Daniel Gorman, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, put forward a new concept of emotional intelligence, which is what we usually call emotional intelligence. Dr. Gorman believes that predicting a person's success mainly depends on EQ rather than IQ. EQ includes emotion, perception, evaluation, expression, analysis, acquisition, transformation and adjustment. In the final analysis, it is a tentative grasp and description of the inner strength of life. We can sum it up in five aspects.

To know your own ability, you can often reflect on yourself, know yourself from different angles and express yourself, because only by knowing yourself can you build your self-confidence.

Controlling one's ability, controlling one's emotions and resolving some bad emotions is a key point of EQ. If a person can keep a cool head, he can restrain his excitement, make him happy and always keep an optimistic attitude.

The ability to work hard for one's own goals, doing things without external promotion, learning and doing things are spontaneous and automatic.

Those who can resist short-term temptations can achieve lofty goals and have strong social adaptability only by looking far and not indulging in short-term interests.

Ability to deal with interpersonal relationships. Maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships, understand other people's mentality, respect other people's ideas, and learn to build interpersonal networks.

If IQ is mainly determined by human innate genes, then EQ is the main factor.

If people are cultivated in the acquired interpersonal communication and social life practice. It mainly begins in preschool, gradually forms in childhood and adolescence, and ends in adulthood. Emotional intelligence is not limited by innate genes like IQ, but grows with the enrichment of life experience and the growth of learning knowledge.

Emotional intelligence is a kind of spiritual strength, a kind of accomplishment and a kind of character quality. People with high emotional intelligence have a long-term vision, a positive life and good interpersonal relationships. In contrast, these people are more likely to succeed than those with high IQ and low EQ. After the argument between our classmates about the comprehensive and scientific explanation of EQ, I want to put forward that EQ is an important and necessary factor for a person's success, and EQ is more important than IQ. A survey by Harvard University shows that 85% of the reasons for success, achievement and promotion are due to our correct emotions, and only 15% is due to our expertise. This means that we spend 90% of our education time and money to study our 15% chance of success; And only spend 10% time and money to learn 85% chances of success. Cherman believes that people's psychological control and adjustment ability is an important guarantee for their adaptation to social survival and success. Someone once did an experiment: let some 4-and 5-year-old children get a marshmallow each, and tell them to wait for a head before eating, and then they can get another marshmallow. But the result of the experiment is that there are not many children who can wait for an hour, but children who are patient can adapt to the environment, become more confident and reliable when they grow up, and their achievements in all aspects are higher than those who can't restrain themselves. It can be seen that for modern people, it is more important to successfully adjust their own psychology and emotions than IQ. Including President Clinton and his wife, have clearly expressed their support for the development of EQ research and EQ education. Emotional intelligence is more concerned than IQ. Let's give another example. There is a young man who works in an oil company in America. He doesn't have a high degree and no special skills. His work can even be done by a child, that is, patrolling hundreds of times a day to confirm whether the fuel tank is automatically welded. After a few days, he was bored, but in order to make a breakthrough in his work, he paid more attention to the welding work. When he found that every time he operated, the solder dropped 39 drops, he conducted many experiments and finally invented the "38 drops" welding machine. His invention brings the company 500 million dollars in new profits every year. This young man is john rockefeller, an oil tycoon who later mastered 95% of the real power of the American oil industry. A person with high emotional intelligence does not need external motivation to do things. He studies and does things spontaneously, so that even if his IQ is not higher than others, his grades can be better than others. Kerman also believes that emotional intelligence is one of the most important survival abilities of individuals. Among the students here, the IQ is definitely higher than that of the debater, but why is it the other debater sitting in the debater chair today, not other students? The answer is simple, because the other debater's EQ is higher than theirs. So we say that people's emotional intelligence is more important than IQ.

2 1 century is an era of knowledge economy in which human high technology and high emotion are combined. It not only requires everyone in society to have a high IQ level, but also requires human nature with a high EQ. To sum up, we think eq is more important than IQ.

First of all, I pointed out a mistake made by the other debater. It is wrong for you to talk about science and IQ and equate IQ with science. The other party wrongly argued that she used the word "due diligence" when describing the work of scientists. "Conscientiousness" requires hard work and high emotional intelligence, because it conforms to one meaning of emotional intelligence: working hard for the goal. Secondly, the other party told the story of Su Qin. After repeated lobbying, he finally understood his shortcomings and continued to study hard. The most fundamental reason is that he can "know himself", which is also in line with the meaning of emotional intelligence. Thank you for providing us with such good evidence.

Now, let me explain our point of view. Everything must be traced back to the source. With the development of history, EQ and IQ have developed to a complementary period. But hundreds of thousands of years ago, when people just knew how to use tools, everything was backward, and people's knowledge and experience were accumulated in single digits. Was there IQ at that time? But after all, human beings survived and ruled the earth. If human beings, like chickens and ducks, only need to conform to nature, then the hardships paid will be much less, but human beings have survived and reached such a developed level today. Why? Just because you have emotional intelligence, you have the emotional intelligence to know yourself and strive for survival.

Tang Cong first made an action that was not very complicated but difficult for him to imitate, and then asked Wu Jianda on the front and Su Biaolong on the back to imitate it. As a result, Tang Cong thinks that Su Biaolong's imitation is right, while Wu Jianda's pronunciation is wrong. )

After the above experiment, I have a question. I invited Wu Jianda, a classmate with one of the best IQs in class three, and Su Biaolong, who was invited in our class, was definitely not as intelligent as Wu Jianda. But why did Su Canbiao imitate my movements and Wu Jianda didn't? Let me tell you the answer: it is because of observation and imitation. Wu Jianda, a student with high IQ, was slightly inferior to Su Biaolong in observation and imitation, which led to his failure. Therefore, it is not enough for a person to have a high IQ, but also to have keen observation and strong imitation ability, which are all included in EQ.

No! The correct answer is 9%. This question was put forward by Li Ka-shing, a Hong Kong business tycoon, and he answered it himself. When you take 10%, 1 1% or even more profits, it is bound to arouse the envy of others. If you give up this 1% and take only 9%, you can not only avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles, but also use this 1% to pave the way for future development. This is Mr. Li Ka-shing's EQ.

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What is EQ? Emotional intelligence is also called emotional intelligence. According to the explanations of Professor Peter Shalovi of Yale University and Professor John Meyer of the University of New Hampshire who put forward this term, EQ consists of three kinds of ability structures, namely, the ability to accurately evaluate and express emotions; Ability to effectively regulate emotions; The ability to apply emotional experience to motivational and volitional processes, such as driving, planning and pursuing success. This understanding seems a bit abstract. The understanding of this concept at home and abroad is very different, and there is no accurate expression recognized by most people.

Then understand it from Chinese characters. "Shuo Wen Jie Zi": "Those who love, people's yin desire, from the heart, green voice." Xu Jing's annotation is "Love from the Heart". We can understand that love is the essential need of human beings and the internal motivation of human beings. "Shuo Wen Jie Zi": "Business is known from the outside." Chinese Dictionary: "Quotient, a mathematical term, is the result of dividing a number by a number that is not zero." We can understand that quotient is an established quality that reflects people or things.

Then, we can define EQ as follows: EQ is the quality of people's inner spirit and motivation. What are the factors of people's inner spirit and motivation that EQ refers to? It refers to people's strength in personality, will, emotion, doing things (socializing) and so on.

What is IQ? IQ is a person's IQ. It is the quality of people's understanding and solving problems, and marks the level of people's intellectual development. The calculation formula of IQ: IQ = intellectual age ÷ full age × 100. The method of IQ test is to get the actual age and age results before and after each test, so as to know your intellectual age. 100 has a medium IQ; 120 or above is smart; A score below 80 is an idiot. It can be seen that IQ is relatively stable, and IQ depends on people's innate quality.

So, is IQ a decisive factor in the development of life? What is the relationship between EQ and IQ?

First of all, according to the concept of EQ, we can determine that EQ is a person's acquired quality, and it is difficult to determine its quality by "quotient". At least at present, no experts at home and abroad have worked out the calculation method of EQ. If EQ has no quotient, then the meaning of EQ is incorrect. If EQ can be quotient-free, then the concept of EQ is appropriate.

Secondly, we can also know that the factors that affect IQ are memory, observation, imagination, thinking and judgment. These factors are not completely innate, and most of them need to be cultivated. For example, in human memory activities, the speed, quality and degree of memory are all formed after certain education, guidance and training.

In this way, we can find the relationship between EQ and IQ:

1, EQ has a great influence on IQ, which shows that EQ determines IQ. People's emotional intelligence factors, such as personality, will, emotion, socialization and IQ factors, memory, observation, imagination, thinking and judgment, have both corresponding and cross-cutting influences. Emotional intelligence factors are like the red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple of sunlight, and IQ factors are like the hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, chlorine and ammonia of rice seedlings. Reflected in the process of human growth, without good personality, will, emotional and social cultivation and ability, it is impossible to have good memory, observation, imagination, thinking and judgment. Without emotional intelligence factors, IQ factors will become passive water or rootless wood. So we can make scientific judgments about some phenomena in life, such as students' academic performance, which is not the reason of IQ, but the reason of EQ. For example, in political life or economic life, the imbalance of human development is not the imbalance of IQ, but the imbalance of EQ.

2. EQ is not absolutely decisive to IQ, and IQ is counterproductive to EQ. People with different IQ conditions, under the same EQ conditions, people with high IQ are stronger than people with average IQ. At the same time, IQ can promote the development of EQ when EQ has a certain development. So there is a reverse causal relationship between EQ and IQ. This is a relative causal relationship. For example, in the development of individuals, their IQ is higher than that of ordinary people, and the background and environment of their EQ cultivation are the same as that of ordinary people, but the final result of development is that people with high IQ are also higher than ordinary people, because of the reaction of IQ.

3. According to foreign theories, someone put forward a new possibility of the relationship between EQ and IQ: among the success factors of people, IQ accounts for 30, while EQ accounts for 70. This shows the importance of EQ in human development.

In order to illustrate the relationship between emotional intelligence and IQ, we might as well give a few examples:

(1) champion and beggar.

There is a costume drama "The Champion and the Beggar", which tells a story: there are two boys in a family, and their parents tell their fortune when they are very young (we don't believe in the metaphysical basis of the fortune teller, but we believe that the fortune teller must have observed their performance. This may be a relatively primitive IQ test. )。 The result of fortune telling is that the eldest beggar lives, and the second child lives. Thus, a magnificent and moving story happened. The beggar's eldest brother won the first prize after a very tragic experience in life. The second child who won the first prize enjoyed the beauty of life, but eventually became a beggar.

(2) Zhang Chi phenomenon.

On June 4th, 2006, Shenzhen Evening News published the signed article "Zhang Chi Phenomenon+0,65438", which introduced the growth experience of Zhang Chi, a senior four student in Beijing. Zhang Chi, male, 24 years old, is from Beijing. When I was in a large kindergarten class, other children could count to 100 skillfully, and it was even difficult for Zhang Chi to count to 20. Usually, I am stupid, and the best result after I entered high school is only more than 60 in the whole school. However, Zhang Chi's parents worked closely with their teachers and did a lot of work to cultivate Zhang Chi. For example, cultivate interest and curiosity first; Establish children's self-confidence; Communicate with teachers; Cultivate good habits; Learn to do things by yourself; The necessary spirit of suffering; Experience the hard work of parents; Being a man is more important than reading. Zhang Chi's class teacher said: "What we are most gratified about now is that this child is kind and kind, and we can rest assured wherever we go." 1997 Zhang Chi, who has just finished her sophomore year in No.4 Middle School, got the undergraduate admission notice from the University of Essex in the UK. At the age of 22, he won the full scholarship (ORS) from Cambridge University, becoming the youngest doctoral student in China in history, and was in charge of thesis guidance for 4 masters and 8 undergraduates.

(3) Tsinghua student Li Wenzhe.

Li Wenzhe, male, 200 1 admitted to Tsinghua University. From elementary school to junior high school, although I have changed several schools because of my parents' job transfer, I have always been in the top five in my class. His parents' education of their children is similar to that of Zhang Chi, and they attach great importance to the education of quality behavior. High school academic performance jumped to 1-2. Tsinghua this year.

The above discussion and cases give us a lot of inspiration. Gifted children are a gift from heaven. Abandoning acquired training and neglecting non-intellectual education will inevitably lead to our misfortune. Whether it is family or school, we must understand the fact that intelligence is not the only important factor for children's excellent grades.

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Modern society is no longer a single-handed society, and team spirit is very important. In a sense, the profits of an enterprise should belong to a large group of people, not one person. The success or failure of a person's career is attributed to his emotional intelligence, that is, emotional intelligence. This includes personal organizational skills, coordination skills and interpersonal skills. From the successful examples of Chinese and foreign celebrities, it is not difficult to see that many people may have low academic qualifications, low IQ, or even become monks halfway. There are also many college students with high IQ who are not in online dating in modern society. As excellent students of Tsinghua Peking University, they need their parents to accompany them, so they can't take care of themselves! The ancients said, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" ? Imagine that such a person, no matter how high his IQ is, can't manage his life well and his self-discipline ability is extremely poor. How can we expect them to take care of the overall situation and make great contributions to the country? Darwin's theory of evolution tells us that "the survival of the fittest", emotional intelligence can make us better adapt to society, and IQ can only build our knowledge level. So in today's society, EQ is more important than IQ.