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The traditional marriage customs in Wenzhou, from matchmaker, opening and closing, discussing employment, small discussion, big discussion and ending marriage, generally follow the six rituals, but they are more complicated than the six rituals. Especially after the wedding, the wedding will last for a week. The so-called seven-day wedding, breaking up on the eighth day. Now I will introduce the marriage customs in Wenzhou to you one by one. And specifically stated that it is not opposed to imitation.

Premarital etiquette:

Matchmaker: As the saying goes, it is difficult to rain without clouds in the sky, and it is difficult to get married without media in the world. In the past, marriage had to be arranged by a matchmaker. Men and women are not allowed to give and receive in private. The matchmaker's job is to introduce men and women back to back. In the media population, men should be strong and well-off, and women must be as beautiful as flowers, quiet and virtuous. When the two sides like each other, the matchmaker participates in the bride price negotiation. Then, he acted as a messenger for engaged men and women until they got married. The man paid the matchmaker a pig's head, and the woman got it as soon as she made the muffin.

Marriage: the common will of men and women is not counted, but the meaning of God is the most important. The meaning of God is generally known through marriage or directly "asking Buddha". To get married is to give the person's age to the fortune teller to see if there is any conflict. You can't marry Chongke. "Asking Buddha" means asking for a visa before Buddha. Another simple way is to put the other party's New Year's Eve paper under the kitchen god's incense burner for seven days. If there are no unlucky things like throwing dishes or quarreling with family members, it will be OK.

Employment discussion: After God and man agreed, they began to negotiate the dowry and dowry, which could be refined into how many zongzi (ten per bear) and how many washbasins. Both sides may blush for these disputes, and others will not be surprised.

Small decision: after everything is settled, make a small decision first. That is, it is agreed that part of the dowry should be paid to the woman first, which is equivalent to the down payment in the business now. Pay a few cents first, and the man has more initiative. You can eat sugar before the harvest, and tens of dollars is enough. However, if it is too indecent or the woman is in financial difficulties, she will urge some property, such as wool, wool and cash, before making a major decision.

Big wedding: after a bumper harvest or an auspicious day near the wedding, the two sides hold a big wedding. The atmosphere is much warmer than Xiaoding.

At this time, the bride price must be paid in full, mainly watches, and the highest grade is 120 yuan's Shanghai brand. If Dading Fashion can't honor the bride price agreed at the beginning, it will be dangerous at this time. An incomplete bride price may be thrown out of the door, but it doesn't matter, and it's not really unnecessary. As long as you say something nice and promise to make it up, you will still be laughed at by the woman after you get it back. It's best to put a pair of gifts in the big set, and the rest can be put in a new box. If Fang Sheng can't borrow it, you can use six boxes instead (as described below).

Send the day: that is, the invitation period in the six gifts. After a major decision, your wife is basically your own, and you have the right to negotiate marriage with her. If you don't want to get married for a long time after making a major decision, it's mostly because Brother Kong doesn't agree. At this time, the woman will not think you are poor, but will only force you to get married as soon as possible. You are poor, and your husband's family is not rich. You can't ask your wife to stay in your husband's family for free, can you? So, you chose an auspicious day (definitely not the first or fifteenth day of the lunar calendar), and asked someone to write China's calligraphy in red paper, put it in six boxes and give it to the woman. Together with the six boxes, there are six gifts, namely crucian carp, pork, pork belly, live chicken, longan and huaha, a total of six kinds.

Six kinds can be slightly modified, such as changing pig's belly into pig's liver, or changing longan into liver and belly.

Above: A few days before the formal wedding, give the woman a gift mainly made of pork. Generally, pork weighs about 200 kg, at least 150 kg. Women collect so much pork to share relatives and serve wine. What gifts are on it is also discussed in advance, and how much pork is the focus of the negotiations.

Dowry moving: On the day before the wedding or in the morning, the man sent a young and strong relative and a little boy to the woman's house to deliver the dowry. The bride's dowry has been arranged by the tailor, gathered in the upper room (middle hall), tied with red ribbons and tied with evergreen branches and cypress leaves. Everything on the log is plastered with red "double happiness". The little boy came to carry the urinal, and there was a red envelope in the urinal, which was usually fifty cents to one yuan. Later, it rose to two yuan, and the author had no share. Carrying a urinal is a good job, usually the groom's closest relative.

Weeping marriage: On the wedding day, the bride will cry. If you really can't cry, you must make your eyes red to avoid being gossiped. Otherwise, it is "Xin Da (Wenzhou dialect pronunciation)", and her mother is the first unhappy person. She felt that her daughter had no attachment to her and had long wanted to fly. When the author's sister got married, she just giggled curiously, and her mother's face would hang and make some serious noises on the stove. The well-informed aunt secretly pulled her sister's skirt and gently advised her to cry.

If the bride cries, some female guests stop, some accompany, and some cry and persuade. The man walked away with discretion and said "there is a play" and "there is a play" (which means should be). It is said that the bride in Yueqing cries the most, and the bride in Pingyang cries the most. Brides in Pingyang cried and sang, and sang some rhyming words to the drums. The content is to bid farewell to the relatives who are mainly mothers, tell the ugliness of secular marriage, lament the poor life of beauty and so on.

Wedding banquet and getting on the sedan chair (or getting off the boat): The wedding banquet can be divided into the entrance at night and the entrance at night. At the beginning, the bride came to the door at the fifth watch, and the time was probably not objective. Later, I basically set off after lunch and married the bride for dinner. Lunch is a feast, and wine is served at night. The food at the banquet is relatively simple, mainly to make fun of it, and I don't care whether I eat it or not. There is a proverb: Tangjiaqiao people bring their own glasses when they make a banquet.

After getting up on the wedding day, the bride basically doesn't eat food, especially water. Just eat longan before you leave. Only women know the secret. Don't ask men. I can tell you why I eat less and drink less, because I'm afraid it's inconvenient to go to the toilet if I eat more and drink more. In the past, people were not very civilized and often took pride in letting the bride wet her pants. As for the sedan chair soup, it is only a symbolic meal. Can you eat when you are nervous in front of so many guests?

Before and after liberation, the bride wore a pearl crown and an embroidered robe. During the Cultural Revolution, she only wore ordinary new clothes. When the bride stepped on the threshold of the men's house, it rained as hard as a stone, while the bridesmaids who had prepared for it held up the rice screen and shouted to block it, while the Sami people smiled happily. So the wedding came to a climax.

Now that the bride has married you, how to do a good job in family production and construction is your own business.