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2 1 the belief that determines a person's life achievements.

1. I am the best, and I will succeed!

Someone once did an experiment: he put a flea in a glass and found that it jumped out easily. Repeated several times, the result is still the same. According to the test, the flea can jump about twice as high as its body, so it can be called the high jump champion in the animal kingdom.

Next, the experimenter put the flea in the cup again, but this time a glass cover was added to the cup. Bang, the flea hit the glass cover heavily. The flea is confused, but it won't stop, because the flea's lifestyle is "jumping". After repeated blows, fleas began to get smarter. It began to adjust its jumping height according to the height of the cover. After a while, I found that the flea never touched the lid again, but jumped under it.

A day later, the experimenter began to gently remove the cover. The flea didn't know that the cover had been taken off, and continued to jump at the original height. Three days later, he found fleas still jumping there.

A week later, I found the poor flea still jumping in this glass-in fact, it can't jump out of this glass.

In real life, do many people live such a "flea life"? When I was young, I was in high spirits and tried many times to succeed, but it often backfired and failed many times. After several failures, they began to either complain about the unfairness of the world or doubt their abilities. Instead of pursuing success at all costs, they lowered the standard of success again and again-even if all the original restrictions were lifted. Just like the "glass cover" just now, although it has been removed, they are afraid of being beaten and dare not jump again, or they are used to it and don't want to jump again. People are often willing to accept the life of losers because they are afraid to pursue success.

Can a flea really not jump out of this cup? Absolutely not. It's just that it has acquiesced that the height of this cup is insurmountable. The way to make this flea jump out of this glass again is simple. Just take a small stick and suddenly hit the glass or heat it at the bottom of the glass with an alcohol lamp. If a flea is too hot, it will pop out.

People are like this sometimes. Many people are afraid to pursue success, not because they can't pursue success, but because they also have a "height" by default, which often implies their subconscious mind that success is impossible and impossible.

"Psychological height" is one of the fundamental reasons why people can't make great achievements.

Do you want to jump? Can you jump this height? Can I succeed? How successful can it be? The answers to all these questions don't need to wait until the actual results appear. Just look at how you think about these questions at the beginning and you will already know the answers.

Don't set limits for yourself. Tell yourself loudly every day: I am the best and I will succeed!

2. I am the root of everything

"ABC Emotion Theory": Our emotions are mainly rooted in our beliefs and our evaluation and explanation of life situations.

Schopenhauer has a famous saying: things themselves do not affect people, but people are only influenced by their own views on things.

We may not be able to change the wind direction, but we can at least adjust the sails; We may not be able to control things, but at least we can adjust our mood.

Countless facts tell us that the root of all results is often not the thing itself, but ourselves who have the right to make different comments and explanations on it-I am the root of everything!

Let's stop complaining, because I am the root of everything.

I am who I think I am.

What kind of self-expectation, what kind of belief will naturally choose;

What kind of beliefs you have, what kind of attitude you choose;

What kind of attitude, what kind of behavior you will have;

What kind of behavior will have what kind of results.

Therefore, in order to make the result better, let the behavior get better first;

If you want to get better behavior, let your attitude get better first;

If you want to get a better attitude, let your beliefs get better first;

If you want to have better faith, let yourself choose better self-expectation.

In your mind, you will become what you think you are.

Because, as the core conclusion of self-intention psychology:

I am who I think I am, and we are who we think we are!

4. Success comes from attitude

The "Impact Training" organization has conducted tens of thousands of surveys. The results show that 80% of the most critical factors that determine a person's success are the "attitude" factors of personal self-worth, such as enthusiasm, hard work, confidence, determination, perseverance, ambition, love and willpower. 13% belongs to the "skill" factor of acquired cultivation, such as various abilities; 7% belongs to so-called objective factors such as luck, opportunity, environment, time, talent and background.

Whether you can have skills is because of your attitude, because skills are rooted in attitude.

Whether we can control objective factors depends on your attitude, because it is rooted in our attitude towards objective factors and our grasp skills of objective factors.

Success% is due to attitude!

Let us remember this fascinating conclusion, let us think about success in this way of thinking, walk through the past in this way of thinking, grasp today and prepare for the future.

5. The past is not equal to the future.

Just as today does not determine today's "skills", yesterday's attitude towards skills determines tomorrow's "skills", not tomorrow, but today's attitude towards skills. Our today is determined by the past. Our tomorrow is not determined by the past, but by today.

The past is not equal to the future.

The success or failure of the past only represents the past and the future depends on the present. Past success does not mean future success, and past failure does not mean future failure. Success or failure is not a result, but an event in the course of life. The most important thing in life is not where you come from, but where you are going. No matter how unfortunate the past is, it doesn't matter. The important thing is that you must be full of hope for the future. As long as you keep hope for the future, you will be full of strength now. Make a decision now; What do I want to be tomorrow?

6. People are great because of their dreams.

The great man is great because he realized his great dream;

The great man is great because he is practicing a great dream;

A great man is great because he has a great dream.

There is a philosopher's cloud: people are great because they have dreams.

Martin Luther King, the leader of black Americans, was great because he dreamed that black people were as equal as white people. Sun Yat-sen is great because he spent his whole life practicing the dream of feudal monarchy that imprisoned China for thousands of years. The reason why he is great is that his dream of becoming a powerful country has really made more than one billion people in China stronger.

People are great because of their dreams!

Thousands of years of feudal civilization once created glory for the Chinese nation, but at the same time, many negative thoughts and behaviors in traditional culture unfortunately imprisoned people's hearts. Passivity is also an ignorance; Ignorance leads to poverty; Poverty will lag behind, and backwardness will be beaten.

The humiliation in modern history forced us to accept the brand imposed on us by others. We changed from blind arrogance to blind inferiority. Today, pessimism and negative thoughts are still imprisoning countless China.

I have a dream that 65.438+200 million people in China can live a positive life without being negative, pessimistic or complaining. Design a great dream for ourselves, and our life will begin to become extraordinary. We can become great people, and use our life to practice that great and glorious mission.

7. It's not impossible, but I haven't found a way yet.

People in the past must have thought that "water can't flow backwards." We know that it's because they haven't found a way to invent the water pump: today's people must think that "the sun can't come out in the west", and future people may say that it's because we haven't found a way for human beings to live on another planet where the sun has just come out in the west.

It's not impossible, but I haven't found a way yet. Let's not give ourselves too many rules, and don't always "limit ourselves".

If "impossible" has become the "mantra" of a person or an enterprise, they are used to saying to themselves "this is impossible, that is impossible", which may doomed them to be brilliant in the tide of competition and eventually eliminated by those who don't say "impossible" but only focus on finding ways.

There must be a reason for failure, and there must be a way for success.

Let's adjust our focus and delete the extremely negative word "impossible" from our "private dictionary" or "corporate dictionary" forever, because even if we are really embarrassed, we can at least say: it's not impossible, but we haven't found a way yet.

8. There must be a successful way.

There is a famous training case in "Creativity" training. How many uses do paper clips have?

Your first reaction may only be to say: edit the file.

Open your mind, and you may have more uses: making ropes, nails, wires, buttons, jewelry, hairpins, fishhooks and toothpicks. ...

A scientist in Japan announced that he had listed the uses of paper clips.

There is a scholar in Nanjing who claims to be able to list more than 30 thousand kinds!

How many uses do paper clips have?

As long as you are willing to look for it, do you agree that the answer is: countless kinds!

Since a small paper clip can have countless uses, why can't there be countless ways to solve a difficult problem?

Break the box of thinking and never set limits for yourself.

There must be a reason for failure, and there must be a way for success.

There is a Guinness World Record in Shanghai: Memorize a random number from 0 to 9 within 90 seconds. Include forward and backward, backward and backward at any position. If you have seen a live performance, you will be impressed by the performer's "extraordinary" skills.

After systematic research, I found that the method is extremely simple and almost everyone can do it. In order to prove this point, I often perform for students in training classes, and let my teaching assistants and even students do it.

At present, I am preparing to apply for a new Guinness Book of Records, which can memorize random numbers within 5~ 10 minutes. The method is equally simple, and I believe everyone can do it.

The specific method is right brain memory, that is, graphic memory. For example, write "1" as a tree, "2" as a goose, "15" as a moon, "79" as a string of balloons and so on. These are called "digital labels", and then for a series of specific numbers or numbers, every two numbers are regarded as a corresponding fixed "digital label", and then these labels are "placed" in a familiar preset "location map", such as your room, office, or some specific positions on the human body. At this point, you only need to remember these pictures, and you are equivalent to remembering this string of numbers.

3 4 2 4 1 6 4 1 3 5 4 6 5 1 1 3 5 1 3 0

4 6 8 4 6 1 7 9 8 7 5 4 3 2 1 4 8 6 4 0

1 3 4 7 3 3 2 3 1 3 2 4 6 4 3 1 3 1 1 3

4 6 6 9 4 3 2 3 1 6 4 1 3 1 3 4 7 1 0 0

3 5 7 2 5 8 7 9 1 2 0 0 0 3 1 1 3 5 4 5

5 4 6 5 4 3 2 1 8 7 5 6 4 2 4 3 1 4 6 9

5 3 4 8 7 8 9 7 4 1 3 2 1 3 2 2 1 5 4 1

1 2 3 1 5 6 7 4 9 6 9 6 9 8 8 8 7 0 5 4

5 4 5 6 9 7 8 7 3 2 3 5 5 6 4 3 4 6 4 5

1 6 9 4 5 0 1 3 7 0 3 8 2 1 7 0 7 8 4 5

According to the above method. With proficiency, you can easily achieve the same effect as me.

All seemingly complicated things or seemingly intractable problems can find simple and easy solutions.

There must be a successful method, just as there must be a method of memory.

9. Winners find ways, while losers make excuses.

There is no excuse for success; If you have an excuse, you will never succeed.

Only losers will look around for excuses to whitewash their failed behavior.

Winners are always focused on finding ways.

10. Destiny is in our own hands, not in others' mouths.

I had a very interesting experience, which influenced my life.

Once, I visited a friend who had a successful career and chatted about my fate.

I asked: Is there fate in this world?

He said of course there is.

Let me ask you one more question: What is fate? Since destiny takes a hand, what's the use of struggle?

He didn't answer my question, just smiled and grabbed my left hand and said, I'd better read my palm first. I am a fortune teller. He told me a life line, a love line, a career line and so on. Suddenly, he said to me, reach out and do an action like me. His action is to raise his left hand and slowly grasp his fist more tightly.

He asked, did you catch it?

I replied in confusion: Hold on tight.

He asked again: Where are those fate line?

I answered mechanically: in my hand.

He asked again: Excuse me, where is fate?

I like a hit, an epiphany:

Destiny is in your own hands!

He went on calmly: No matter what others tell you, no matter how the fortune teller calculates it for you, remember that your destiny is in your own hands, not others' mouths! This is destiny.

Of course, if you look at your fist again, you will find that part of your lifeline is still outside and has not been caught. What inspiration can it give you? Most of our destiny is in our own hands, but some of it is in the hands of others. Throughout the ages, the meaning of "struggle" is to exchange your life's efforts for that part of "destiny" in the hands of "God".

I sat quietly for a long time, only to see my heart flowing like a clear spring. ...

Destiny is in our own hands, not in others' mouths!

Later, a student came to talk to me about her love problem and asked me for help. She is over 30 years old and has no boyfriend. However, it is not that she has never had a boyfriend, but when she was 23, a well-rumored fortune teller once told her that she would not get married until she was 33. After that, I had several opportunities to talk about friends, but every time I talked about marriage, she would think of the fortune teller's words, so she would say to herself: I won't get married until I was 33, and I won't get married for long now. Short pain is better than long pain. Forget it, give up what you love, or break up early! In this way, in the long run, until today, I have made myself mentally miserable.

I remembered the story, so I told it to her once, and of course I did it according to the "original" as I spoke. In the process, I found that her feelings were strikingly similar to mine. Say that finish, she stood up and shouted, oh, I was miserable by that damn fortune teller!

After that, we all laughed.

The belief that fate is in my own hands, not someone else's mouth, has almost changed my life.

In 2000, I began to talk about success and do success training. At that time, I don't know how many people poured cold water on me, and even directly ridiculed you for being unsuccessful. Why teach others how to succeed? I have really experienced many low tides in my life: I went bankrupt twice. After graduating from college, I have probably done more than a dozen different jobs, such as university teacher, civil servant, busker, small painter, managing food market, going to the countryside, opening restaurants, assembly line workers, engaging in, engaging in and selling ... I came to Shanghai because Zhuhai failed to start a business, and I made five attempts in the first two years when I first came to Shanghai.

Whenever low tide comes, whenever I suffer setbacks again, I almost always secretly hold my left hand and say to myself: fate is in my own hands, not in others' mouths. Really, it's strange that whenever I hold my hand, I can feel my infinite confidence and motivation almost immediately.

This belief helped me get to where I am today. What is so important to me should be equally useful to you. Why don't you try?

Now hold your hand and say loudly to your subconscious: your destiny is in your own hands. Not in someone else's mouth!

1 1. God helps those who help themselves.

In our life, we are all eager for opportunities, but we often don't know what kind of opportunities we want or what it will be like. Even if you know that when the opportunity comes, you are often not ready. Occasionally, I was really lucky to seize an opportunity, but I failed because I couldn't catch the next luck. Or because you don't have enough ability and endurance to amplify it, stick to it and never give up until you succeed.

The real opportunity is not the opportunity itself, but comes from our definition, understanding, preparation and grasp of the opportunity.

Everyone will have good luck, everyone is equal before the opportunity, but whether they can seize the opportunity is not necessarily equal.

Because if you want to help God, you must help yourself first.

All this confirms an old saying of China: God helps those who help themselves!

12. The harder you work, the better your luck will be.

Opportunities are predictable and luck can be planned.

Everyone will have good luck, provided that you make unremitting efforts to create luck and prepare yourself. Because luck always favors those who are prepared.

Remember: the harder you work, the better your luck will be.

13. I want to, I can.

Success comes from "I want". If I want, I can; If necessary, I can.

It is not ability that determines your success, but "you must succeed" that determines "you must prepare the corresponding ability"; It is not the existing methods that determine your success, but "you must succeed" that determines "you must find a successful method"

14. Make up your mind to succeed

Socrates, a great philosopher, once said a famous saying to a scholar: If you want to learn from me, you must have a strong thirst for knowledge, just like a strong desire for survival.

So is the pursuit of success. To succeed, we must first have a strong desire for success, just as we have a strong desire for survival.

Success comes from what I want. If I want, I can; If necessary, I can.

It is determination, not environment, that determines our success.

Only determination can ultimately determine our success.

15. If the mountain doesn't come, I'll go.

In the pursuit of success, we will never be smooth sailing, we will definitely encounter difficulties, we will definitely encounter bottlenecks, and we will definitely hit the wall.

There is a classic story in ""about a man who has been practicing "moving mountains" for decades. He performed moving mountains in public for the first time, but the ending of the story is enough for you and me to remember for more than three days-

Nothing in the world can move mountains. The only way to move the mountain is: if the mountain doesn't come, I'll go there.

There are too many things in the real world that we can't change, or at least temporarily, just like mountains.

"Moving Mountains" inspires people: If things cannot be changed, we will change ourselves.

If others don't like themselves, it's because they are not liked enough;

If you can't convince others, it's because your persuasion ability is not enough;

If customers don't want to buy our products, it's because we haven't produced enough products for customers to want to buy;

If we can't succeed, it's because we haven't found a way to succeed yet:

If you want things to change, you must first change yourself; Only by changing yourself can we finally change others. Only by changing yourself can you finally change your world.

Shanshan, if you don't come, let's go!

16. Make a little progress every day.

I used to do push-ups every day for nearly two years. Maybe you can't imagine, in the end, I have to do more at a time, once in the morning and once in the evening!

The reason why I do this sport is because I came to Shanghai alone to "make a living", without friends, and my living conditions in all aspects are very poor. I know that my body can't collapse and I can't get sick, so I started this simplest exercise. Under the circumstances at that time, apart from the fact that the body can't collapse, the most important thing is to face the enormous pressure of survival and the will can't collapse. I insist on doing push-ups every day, especially hundreds at a time. This really honed my endurance and will. Sure enough, I kill two birds with one stone.

The simple way to practice push-ups once is to make a little progress every day. On the first day, I made 10 and began to gasp. Starting from 10, I increase 1 every two days, then increase 1 every day, and then increase 2 or 5 every day. Finally, I can increase 10 every day. Success means making a little progress every day!

Success lies in the geometric superposition of many elements. Just as each term in mathematical multiplication only increases by 0. 1 at a time, the product will soon increase exponentially.

For example: smile a little more than yesterday, act a little more than yesterday, innovate a little more than yesterday, and be more efficient than yesterday ... As time goes by, our tomorrow will be very different from yesterday.

Success is doing simple things repeatedly; Success means making a little progress every day.

If a person makes a little progress every day, even if it is 1%, what can stop his ultimate success? If an enterprise "makes a little progress every day" and becomes a part of its corporate culture, when everyone can make a little progress every day, imagine what obstacles can stop its ultimate glory?

Our competitors are often not defeated by us, but forget to make a little progress every day.

The winner is not smarter than us, but he makes a little more progress than us every day.

17. There is no failure, only temporary failure.

Sylvester Stallone, a Hollywood superstar whose income is as high as 1 10,000 dollars, was a walk-on in Hollywood when he was young, and his daily income was only 1 dollar. In order to make a living, I went to the boxing gym as a sparring partner, and I was beaten black and blue every time. Later, he decided to be a movie star, so he sold himself everywhere, but he was rejected several times and didn't give up. Finally, he played the leading role in the movie Loki. Loki's play was written by Stallone himself, and the protagonist's life prototype is himself. From then on, he became an instant hit. And become a symbol of the American spirit of "self-transcendence, tenacious struggle and personal struggle".

In Stallone's eyes. The world has not failed, but it has not succeeded for the time being.

The owner of KFC fast food restaurant is Colonel Sanders, who started his business at the age of 65. At first, he was selling his secret recipe of fried chicken to people to get some cash as venture capital or some shares to get some income. Unexpectedly, he never goes out every time he sells out! Finally forced to start their own business. So there is the myth of KFC today.

In Colonel Sanders' mind, the world has not failed, but it has not succeeded for the time being.

There is a * * * feature. In the dictionary of successful people, there is no word "failure", only "temporary failure".

18. As long as you don't give up, failure is not a foregone conclusion.

Levi's Cowboy King in the West is also full of ups and downs and legends. His winning "magic weapon" is that whenever he is frustrated and hit, he never complains, and he is very excited to say to himself: Great! This kind of thing happened to me and gave me another chance to grow up. Everything happens for a reason. Will help me.

Winners are all "spiritual victories". Throughout the ages, the more successful people are, the stronger their spiritual strength is.

On the journey to success, setbacks are inevitable, and setbacks are inevitable. Winners are not without low tide, but they will never let themselves stay in low tide for too long.

In the process of pursuing success, if we really encounter setbacks, setbacks, or even failures, just like Li Wei, the "cowboy king" who always thinks positively, we immediately loudly say to our subconscious: Great! This kind of thing happened to me and gave me another chance to grow up. Everything has a cause and effect, which will help me.

There is only one step between greatness and mediocrity.

The process of their life is the same, falling, getting up, falling again and getting up again. It's just that a successful person falls less often than he gets up, while a mediocre person falls only once more than he gets up. People call the person who gets up for the last time a "winner". People define those who can't get up for the last time, or those who don't want to get up or dare not get up, as "losers".

In the face of failure, please always remember a belief: the essence of failure is that there is no failure in this world at all, but there is no success for the time being: as long as you don't give up, failure will never be a foregone conclusion!

Faith is a huge energy supply station in life. I want to repeat here that what kind of faith there is, what kind of life there will be. Life itself is a series of choices, so please choose your beliefs carefully for success, happiness, health and the success of your family, friends, colleagues and team.

19. Stick to the end and never give up

One of the three giants in World War II, British Prime Minister Winston Churchill was a very famous orator. The last speech in his life was at the graduation ceremony of a university. Perhaps Churchill was too old, and the whole speech lasted about 20 minutes, but he only said two words from beginning to end, and they were all the same: stick to the end and never give up!

This speech became a classic in the history of speech. It's not Churchill's mystique. The students in the audience have long been deeply shocked by the voice of the great man of the century. Churchill used his life's successful experience to tell people that there is no secret to success. If there are, there are only two. The first thing is to stick to it and never give up. The second is that when you want to give up, please go back and follow the first secret: stick to it and never give up!

20. Everyone can succeed

Many people unconsciously think that success is a matter for a few people.

You are one of them, do you think so?

If you think that success is the business of a few people, ten times in your subconscious, you will involuntarily classify yourself as a "majority".

If you think success is easier said than done, you may strive for it on the surface, but your deep fear of "success" will make you afraid to go all out and expect it, and you may not be able to do it at all in the end.

If you can browse this book, do you need me to explain it again? You believe in this belief:

Everyone can succeed!

If so, it means that you are joining those "few, successful people".

2 1. Act now

One of the most expensive costs in life is waiting for tomorrow.

"Tomorrow is tomorrow, there will be so many tomorrows. I will live tomorrow, and everything will be in vain. "

Tomorrow will never come, because it is already today.

Only today is the most important day in our lives; Only today is the only day we can grasp in our life; Only today. This is the only day when we can surpass our opponents and ourselves.

Don't pin your hopes on tomorrow, hope is always today, and hope is now.

Act now! Only action can make our dreams come true.

Act now! Only a large number of actions will allow us to constantly surpass our opponents and surpass ourselves.

Act now! Act now! ! Act now! ! !