Jiangsu woman, who lived to the age of 106, was widowed for 54 years and trained all 13 children as doctors. Why?

She was widowed for 54 years, lived to the age of 106, and raised 13 children by herself. Finally, they all became doctors.

Her son, Li Changyu, was called a "Chinese detective" and a "contemporary Sherlock Holmes" and solved many important cases.

When asked about the reason for his success, he said, "I only listen to my mother and learn from her."

Why can an ordinary woman be so powerful and train so many children to become doctors?

From 65438 to 0897, Wang Shuzhen was born into a scholarly family in Rugao, Jiangsu.

As the name implies, parents want their daughters to be polite and grow into a good family.

When I was a child, I sent Wang Shuzhen to the study room. On weekdays, my mother will teach her needlework.

In that era when parents gave orders and matchmakers spoke, 18-year-old Wang Shuzhen met Li Haomin under the introduction of matchmakers.

Li Haomin is the son of a local grain merchant. With Wang Shuzhen, they really suit each other.

Li Haomin grew up doing business with his father, and his temper was straightforward. He talked about Kan Kan, which fascinated Wang Shuzhen who was born in a boudoir.

Wang Shuzhen, who is proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, also captured the hearts of rich young masters.

Soon, in contact with each other, the two struck a spark of love.

19 16 years, they officially got married, when Wang Shuzhen had just celebrated his 19 birthday.

After marriage, Wang Shuzhen became a housewife, taking care of her husband and children at home.

Li Haomin inherited his father's grain and rice shop and earned money to support his family.

Wang Shuzhen also gave birth to 14 children, 6 sons and 8 daughters for Li family.

One of the sons died unfortunately, and 13 survived.

After the baby was born, Wang Shuzhen had to do housework and take care of several children.

Only she knows the hardships, but she has never complained to her husband.

When Li Haomin comes home, it will always be clean.

The hot food is already on the table, just waiting for him to wash his hands and eat.

Every time her husband takes the initiative to ask her if the child is bothering her, and if there is anything at home that he needs to solve,

Wang Shuzhen shook his head and always said, "Give it to me and you will make money with peace of mind."

Wang Shuzhen is also Li Haomin's right-hand man in her husband's career.

Every time we talk about business, Li Haomin always invites customers to his home.

Wang Shuzhen made tea for them and then stepped down consciously.

In the living room, Li Haomin talks business with people, while Wang Shuzhen hides behind the screen and gives advice to her husband.

If she can accept this business, she will order the servant to bring a pot of Longjing tea.

If she feels cheated, she will personally send a pot of oolong tea to hint at her husband.

With the help of Wang Shuzhen, Li Haomin made the store bigger and bigger and became a wealthy local businessman.

Later, when the war broke out, Li Hao people discussed with Wang Shuzhen and moved to Taiwan Province Province together.

This also means that the family has to start over.

Wang Shuzhen hesitated, but Li Haomin's words seemed to give her a shot in the arm.

"As long as the family is together, it is no problem to start over."

However, due to unfinished business, Li Haomin asked his wife and children to go to Taiwan Province Province first, while he stayed in Jiangsu for the time being.

In this way, Wang Shuzhen left Jiangsu by boat alone with 13 children.

Before the couple broke up, Wang Shuzhen said a thousand words, and finally only said, "You do your thing and leave the child with me, don't worry.".

However, afraid of her husband's worry, the sentence she wanted to say most in her heart was too late to say:

You must come back safely and reunite with us.

After settling down, in addition to taking care of the children every day, Wang Shuzhen has another task:

Every day, I pinch the time when the boat docks and wait for my husband to come home at the port.

Looking around, her husband finally came back, and Wang Shuzhen was so excited that tears were about to fall.

However, forced by the upbringing of a good family, she just bowed slightly and said, "You are back."

Just four words, but full of acacia in Wang Shuzhen.

Later, Li Haomin often traveled between Jiangsu Province and Taiwan Province Province.

Business trips have become commonplace, leaving everything at home to Wang Shuzhen.

Every time Li Haomin is on a business trip, Wang Shuzhen is particularly worried.

She knelt in front of the Buddha statue and prayed with the beads.

At first, sincerity was the spirit. Every time I blessed it with special effects, Li Haomin came back safely.

However, in the war-torn era, Wang Shuzhen's prayers were pale and powerless, and the Buddha could do nothing in the face of gunfire.

1949 On the 29th day of the twelfth lunar month, Wang Shuzhen greeted 13' s children and got busy buying new year's goods.

Usually gentle, she also became impatient. The children were fighting while helping, so she hurried them to hurry up, because her husband would come back at night.

They haven't seen each other for more than half a year since they last met.

Wang Shuzhen snapped his fingers, counted the time, and finally looked forward to the New Year.

Before, Li Haomin wrote home that he would come back before New Year's Eve.

Lunar 29, the day before New Year's Eve.

Wang Shuzhen ran to the port to look at the housework, and then ran home to continue doing housework.

As a result, Wang Shuzhen made dozens of trips to the port from day to night, but there was no sign of her husband.

The family is sitting at the dining table. The food is cold and Wang Shuzhen's heart is still beating.

She knelt in front of the Buddha statue at home and prayed for her husband.

But this time, the Buddha did not appear, and he no longer sheltered this family.

At two o'clock in the morning, I finally heard from my husband.

This time, however, Wang Shuzhen couldn't laugh any more.

1949 65438+1On October 27th, the Taiping wheel collided with another cargo ship while turning into Zhoushan Islands, and 932 passengers on the Taiping wheel were killed.

Li Haomin was one of the 932 victims.

Unexpectedly, overnight, people who think about it day and night have become people who will never see each other again.

Wang Shuzhen can't accept it at the moment and doesn't want to do housework.

She stood in the harbor all day, watching them salvage the Taiping wheel aimlessly, still hoping that her husband would be safe.

Until, the fragments of the Taiping wheel were salvaged ashore, and Wang Shuzhen finally gave up.

During the Spring Festival that year, the family was lively and peaceful, and only the Li family was quiet.

Wang Shuzhen knelt in front of the Buddha statue and kept crying.

But Wang Shuzhen was not immersed in the sad mood.

She knows that if the pillar of the family falls down, she will have to bear it, and there are still many things for her to deal with at the moment.

Li Haomin died suddenly, and many businesses had to be interrupted.

Businessmen who cooperated with him came to the door and demanded their hard-earned money back.

As long as the other party can provide the relevant transaction documents, Wang Shuzhen will return them in full and even give some compensation.

In order to pay off his debts, Wang Shuzhen even sold his jewels and antiques. All the valuables in the house were pawned.

Seeing that the home has become a little empty, the sensible children advised their mothers to think about their families.

If they sell everything, a dozen will drink the northwest wind.

However, Wang Shuzhen didn't listen to anything. She said to the children:

"Can't eat, hungry undead, there will always be a way.

But I'm afraid I can't rest in peace until I die.

Be honest, be worthy of yourself and others. "

Finally, Wang Shuzhen even sold the mansion.

On the day of handover with the buyer, Wang Shuzhen knelt in front of her husband's memorial tablet and told him apologetically.

"It's sold here. Sorry, I can't stay here, but my home is still here. You are welcome to go home at any time. "

There was no money to hire people to carry luggage. When leaving the mansion, Wang Shuzhen took the children and carried several bags of luggage, and left without looking back.

The youngest child asked, "Mom, where are we going?"

Wang Shuzhen replied, "Go home."

That year, Wang Shuzhen was 52 years old, lost her husband, spent all her savings, and was penniless, with only 13 children.

That year, they moved out of the big house and lived in a humble hut, and their lives were particularly tight.

A dress, after the elder brother puts it on, is left for the younger brother to wear.

By the hands of the youngest child, the clothes have been covered with more than a dozen patches and a pair of shoes have been worn for a year.

Wang Shuzhen requires that clothes be old, but not dirty.

Shoes can be worn, but they must not be dirty, otherwise the child will be punished for not buying shoes for three years.

She often teaches her children: "Dressing is like being a man, be clean."

Worried about being scolded by his mother, children secretly take off their shoes after going out every day, carry them on their shoulders and go to school barefoot.

My home is a few miles from school, and the road is full of mud and gravel.

Sometimes if you are not careful, you will get a scar on your foot.

Even so, 13 children did not complain.

Because they know that their mother is more bitter and tired than them.

Left Li Zhai, the former "Li Furen" also stayed in the past.

Wang Shuzhen became "Aunt Li" and worked as a servant in a wealthy family.

In the current words, it is to go to someone else's house as a nanny.

Every day before dawn, she would go to a nearby family to help make breakfast.

Then I went home and was busy making breakfast for my children.

After they went to school, Wang Shuzhen went to another family to wash clothes and clean.

In winter, Wang Shuzhen squatted in the yard, wordlessly washing the pile of clothes.

As long as she squatted down, she could only hear the sound of water and could not see the figure at all.

Wang Shuzhen's thin body was blocked by clothes.

For the sake of her children, she will do anything as long as she has money to earn.

Even the legs of the neighbor's table are bent. Wang Shuzhen can carry a few kilograms of tools to help saw them flat.

365 days a year, Wang Shuzhen hardly has a day off.

The children were particularly distressed to see their mother's hands covered with chilblains and her back bent down day by day.

One day, Wang Shuzhen accidentally fell down and hurt his leg.

The doctor told her to rest for a few days, otherwise the bone would not heal and the root of the disease would fall to the ground.

But the next day, Wang Shuzhen limped to work.

That day, Wang Shuzhen moved the goods and went to a small shop to help, but she didn't cry out in pain.

When the children came home from school and opened the door, the table was already full of food.

Wang Shuzhen stood at the door of the kitchen and called the children to wash their hands for dinner.

Looking at my mother, as usual, they all thought my mother was not badly hurt.

Until they were eating and heard the kitchen plop.

When I ran over, my mother shrank in the corner, her face was purple and she was sweating all the time.

She explained with a wry smile: "It just hurts a little. It doesn't matter. You eat quickly and go to study after eating. "

Only then did they know that their mother endured the pain of her legs and feet and worked hard all day just to pay the tuition.

Seeing that mother was so tired, several older children offered.

They drop out of school to work and share the pressure of their mothers.

Before they finished, Wang Shuzhen refused:

"Although you go to school, the rest to me, read tricks, read the future, just worthy of me.

People who don't want to study don't deserve to be children, let alone children of the Li family! "

At her urging, the children dare not slack off.

They are not afraid of school teachers, but most afraid of their mothers.

As long as Wang Shuzhen opens his mouth, none of them will dare not listen.

After graduating from college, the child thought that he could finally come out to work.

Wang Shuzhen ordered him to study for a master's degree, otherwise he could not be allowed into the house.

When he got a master's degree, Wang Shuzhen asked him to get a doctor's degree. ......

In this way, Wang Shuzhen pushes 13 children and rushes forward to the peak of his life.

After many years, 13 children have become doctors in various fields, with beautiful resumes and glory:

As the saying goes, parents are children's first teachers.

For Wang Shuzhen, this is indeed the case.

Li Changyu is the son of Wang Shuzhen. Wang Shuzhen often tells him, "If you are not afraid of small things, you are afraid of not doing well."

When studying in the United States, Li Changyu worked part-time and went to the laboratory to wash test tubes.

The classmates who worked together at that time advised him, "Don't wash it too clean. They will reuse it and wash it later. Too much trouble. Wash less if you can wash less. "

After listening to his words, Li Changyu just smiled and said nothing, and continued to wash the test tube.

Some people wash test tubes only once, but Li Changyu will carefully clean every test tube to make sure it is clean before sending it to the laboratory.

Later, they needed to work separately, and the teacher asked them which laboratories they wanted to go to.

Li Changyu took the initiative to undertake the five busiest laboratories, and his classmates laughed at him for being stupid. Li Changyu didn't explain.

By the end of the semester, diligent Li Changyu was attracted by the professor.

The professor thinks he is serious and careful, and is willing to accept him as an apprentice and teach him skills.

But I have no salary. Do you want to ask Li Changyu?

Li Changyu accepted without saying anything, knowing that this opportunity was hard-won.

What if I can't get paid? If you learn, you earn.

Later, with the help of the professor, Li Changyu got a master's degree and a doctorate, becoming the youngest state police chief in the United States.

He has solved numerous cases and won numerous awards, while his classmates are still washing test tubes in the laboratory.

When asked about the secret of his success, Li Changyu said:

"My mother taught me at an early age that everything should be done as well as possible, and a clear conscience is the purpose. I have been asking myself this question. "

Wang Shuzhen has been fasting and chanting Buddha since her husband died.

Even when she went to America, she still insisted on eating only Chinese food and speaking Chinese.

In 2000, Wang Shuzhen was 103 years old.

Li Changyu asked her what gift she wanted, and she said without hesitation, "Go home and build a school!"

Later, Li Changyu found that a school had been built in his hometown, and now there is only one playground left.

Wang Shuzhen added, "It is ok to build a playground as long as it can help children learn."

A year later, the playground was built.

To thank her for her kindness, the school was named after Wang Shuzhen.

Wang Shuzhen believed in Buddhism and named himself "Li Wanan Buddha".

Therefore, the sports ground is called "Li Wang Anfo Sports Ground".

Wang Shuzhen is old, and his legs and feet are inconvenient.

When the stadium was completed, she couldn't go back to China to witness it.

Li Changyu came back specially, dug a handful of dirt and brought it back to her.

In 2003, Wang Shuzhen, who had been busy all his life, left with no regrets at the age of 106.

On the day of her death, dozens of descendants surrounded her bedside, chanting for her and watching her leave.

After waiting for 54 years, this time she can finally see her husband without any attachments.

Wang Shuzhen left his last words to future generations before his death. She said:

"No matter where you are, remember that China's blood is flowing in you, and you will always be from China.

It doesn't matter if you can't learn English, but you must be able to speak Chinese, and don't embarrass your ancestors.

You can be incompetent, but you must not go astray.

We must be an upright person, do things seriously and try our best to be a man ... "

It is often said that the most precious property left by parents to their children is a good family style.

In Wang Shuzhen, I saw two facts about education:

1. Reading is the most cost-effective investment at any time.

Different from other investments, reading is a long-term thing that can catch big fish.

However, most people sit by the river for a few days, watching the fish not bite, and suddenly feel that there are no fish in this river, which is not worth wasting time here.

Therefore, changing the position and turning to the field of short-term and quick profit has led to the emergence of "reading uselessness".

As we all know, everything needs investment, and the cost of reading is the lowest.

Everything has a threshold, and only the reading threshold is the lowest.

You can read it at any time.

In the past, with a technology, you could travel around the world.

But now we find that the competition is becoming more and more fierce, and the threshold of various industries is getting higher and higher.

Without technology, it is difficult for us to make a breakthrough.

Competition is gradually refined and gradually tilted towards cognition.

The future competition must be cognitive competition.

As an ordinary person, the most economical and effective way to improve cognition in a short time is to read more books.

Open your blind spot of knowledge with a book.

Over time, the height of books can be gradually transformed into the height of ideas.

No matter how poor, Wang Shuzhen still has to train 13 children to study.

Nowadays, a high degree of education is easier to talk than a fist, and eating too much will make you uncomfortable;

Reading more books can help you break through the ceiling of your field a little bit.

2. Parents' thinking is the biggest ceiling for children to cross the class.

The ceiling of a child is often not determined by the child's own knowledge and ability, but by the thinking of his parents and their circles.

Many times, when children fail in the exam and do something wrong, parents always say:

Over time, parents will form a learned helplessness's mode of thinking, thinking that their life is so bad because of their children.

If the children had lived up to their expectations, they would have lived a good life long ago.

Slowly, children will be influenced by their parents and "infect" this thinking mode.

So when frustrated, they will learn from their parents and start complaining:

When parents do nothing, they scold their children for being stupid, and when children accomplish nothing, they in turn blame their parents and condemn the family they came from.

Parents are originals and children are copies. What parents look like, so do children.

Wang Shuzhen always sets an example and teaches her children to do things seriously. At the same time, she is also doing things by herself, never careless, and she is also learning when letting her children continue to learn.

Wang Shuzhen began to learn English at the age of 65. She couldn't walk in her later years. She still puts the book on the pillow and keeps reading every day.

Wang Shuzhen formulated a fifteen-character family motto for children: Be kind to others, concentrate on things, talk less and do more.

All 13 children did it, and so did Wang Shuzhen.

The famous German philosopher said: "The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul summons another soul."

The pattern of parents has been opened, and it is difficult for children not to be excellent. May these two truths inspire you.