What are the etiquette of ancient marriage? What should I pay attention to?

The old-style wedding evolved from the ancient "six ceremonies" (one ceremony, two questions, three ceremonies, four ceremonies, five invitations to the sun, and six weddings).

Propose marriage

When a man and a woman get married, the matchmaker, according to their parents' instructions, thinks that the door is right, and presses the exchanged "Geng Tie" (age and birthday) on the bottom of the net cup in front of the kitchen god statue to test God's will. If there are no "abnormal" situations such as broken bowls and lamps, disgusting meals, quarreling with family members, restless cats and dogs at home within three days, please ask the fortune teller to "arrange eight characters" to see if the year is appropriate and the zodiac is compatible. In the old society, some people were superstitious about the so-called six-year big rush and three-year small rush; Men get married at the age of two, and women don't get married at the age of nineteen; It is said that it is difficult to compare chickens with dogs (chickens are at odds with dogs), dragons with tigers (dragons and tigers fight each other), tigers with sheep (sheep fall into the tiger's mouth) and snakes with mice (snakes and mice swallow mice). It is considered that relatives can only be discussed if they are comprehensive.

be engaged in

Discuss relatives before engagement, then discuss "small gifts" and bargain in the age of buying and selling marriage. Generally, it is "four magenta" or "six magenta" (four to six pieces of satin), two gold rings and a pair of gold earrings; Bridal gift, small gift 36, middle gift 64, big gift 120 (silver dollar); The quantity of food is "sixty-four", that is, 64 pairs of baotou, 64 oil bags, 64 biscuits and so on. There are 2 to 8 loads of old wine, so it is called "old wine bottle". After the engagement, the man carried the above gift to the woman with a barbell. The woman's gifts are mostly gold balls, oil bags and embroidery made by her daughter. The engagement certificate is given by the man as a "book", commonly known as "red and green book paper" (two layers of paper are red outside and green inside), and the woman recognizes it as "reply", commonly known as "Wen Ding". In the old society, couples quarreled, and my wife often said that I had a "red and green book" to restrain my husband. After the "Wen Ding", choose an auspicious day to get married, and the day shop will choose a "good day". Gifts from relatives and friends, weddings are mostly cash, or happy events, happy axes, and books such as "A Hundred Years of Harmony, Five Generations under One Family" and "A Match Made in Heaven". Most wedding gifts are embroidered or satin quilts, quilts or daily utensils, but there are also red dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, which means "having children early".

In the old days, there was a custom that matchmakers could not drink tea for the first time, saying that "matchmakers don't drink tea", and drinking tea should dilute marriage. The matchmaker is also called "the matchmaker's wardrobe". If the matchmaker can eat a hundred meals, he should be rewarded with "wine to thank the matchmaker" However, if there is disagreement between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, the matchmaker has the responsibility to mediate. [size= 18]

marry

Please have a drink to celebrate the wedding. This day is called a "good day". As the saying goes, "Eat wine to worship life". A few days ago, the groom invited his elders and relatives to have a wedding banquet (good day wine) and used red paper to "Zhi Dan". The elders should write the word "Zhi" under their names. A few days ago, people used to wait for their husbands and wives to get married. Parents of both sides invited their children to eat steamed stuffed buns, clams, elbows, chestnuts and lotus seeds to win the prize of "five sons entering the Ministry". Three or five days before the wedding, the man gives the woman a "sedan chair", usually two geese, 1 square meat and two fish.

Seeing the bride price, the man goes to the woman's house to move the bride price (dowry), and the woman puts the bride price in the hall for people to watch, which is called "seeing the bride price". The utensils are hung with red colored lines, the clothes are smoked with sandalwood, and a few silver dollars are put at the bottom of the box, commonly known as "box money". The dowry is moved to the man and displayed in the hall for people to watch, also called "seeing the dowry". The woman's key bag is held by the grandmother, and the key is taken out of the box, commonly known as "taking out the box".

The day before the wedding ceremony, the man wanted to have sex. A "Quanfu" woman tied 24 pairs of chopsticks and put them under the groom's mat, which is called "going to bed". One to three nights before marriage, a little boy with both parents slept with the groom and was called the "best man". In the evening, I will give the little boy buns, peanuts and eggs, which means "having a son". On the morning of "Good Day", I will give him a red envelope, commonly known as "pulling out the urinal".

One or two days before enjoying the first good day, the man's family got sedan chairs and wedding utensils from the furniture store, hung lights and hung colorful decorations. These banquets were called "light meals". On the auspicious day of the fifth watch, the male family offered sacrifices to the "Master of Heaven and Earth" in class, commonly known as "enjoying the first". Eat "enjoy the first soup fruit" for breakfast.

Take a sedan chair. Ningbo prostitutes get married and sit in sedan chairs. Legend has it that the well-off king (Emperor Gaozong) in the Southern Song Dynasty fled to Mingzhou, and the nomadic people pursued him. He was saved by a woman, and later he couldn't find a graceful woman. A woman married in Mingzhou was granted semi-riding treatment, wearing a rockhopper and sitting in a sedan chair. The sedan chair, commonly known as the "red sedan chair", can be carried by four people or eight people. In the 1920s, the son of Zhao, the owner of Ningbo Meiqiu Knitting Factory, got married, specially appointed a sewing machine shop and made a first-class sedan chair. More than 300 people carved the story of Qing Ji, and named it "Meiqiu Sedan". The sewing machine shop cost 5,000 yuan. The Zhao family used 500 yuan for the first time. This kind of sedan chair for eight people, the sedan chair people wear special satin mandarin jackets to show off for a while. Sitting in a sedan chair still implies that a woman is married, because she is married, and a woman can only sit once in her life. So, the husband and wife quarreled, and the wife brought a word to her mouth: I was carried into the door by a red sedan chair, not by the door, showing off my nobility. On the wedding day, the sedan chair went out and presented pure tea and four-color cakes to the "sedan chair god". Put spears and firecrackers, red lanterns open the way and blow along the way. The groom does not go to his father-in-law's house to meet the bride, but takes the wedding mother (farewell) as the messenger and goes with a name tag.

The bride's face is twisted by the bride's household five-color cotton yarn, commonly known as "open face" (including the present beauty meaning). Guests like to eat "open face soup fruit". When the sedan chair comes to the door, the woman sets off firecrackers to welcome the sedan chair, then leaves the door unlocked and "blocks the sedan chair door" until the red envelope is stuffed. When the sedan chair is parked, the door of the sedan chair must face outwards. Someone in the woman's house is lighting a red candle, holding a mirror and looking into the sedan chair, which means to expel the ghost hiding in the sedan chair, and it is called "searching the sedan chair". At noon, the woman's house is the main banquet wine, commonly known as "open noodles wine", also known as "wedding wine"