The prospective mother-in-law forced me to change my name.

During this time, 26-year-old Zheng Yuanqing (pseudonym) worked slowly until 8 pm every day. Not because of how busy she is at work, but because she really doesn't want to go home and face such trouble-the prospective mother-in-law helped them have a "marriage check-up", saying that her name matched her boyfriend's name and asked her to change it.

"Personalized premarital examination" triggered a name change storm

JackyQing lives in Room 69 1 1-5, Hongtudi, Jiangbei District. She is from Guangxi and worked in Chongqing after graduating from college in 2005. "My boyfriend Wang Tao is from Dazhou, Sichuan. He also graduated and stayed in this city. We have been in love for more than two years and plan to get a marriage certificate before the National Day. " Zheng Xiao said that she was immersed in the happiness of getting married, but a phone call from her boyfriend's mother left her in deep trouble and helplessness.

Both parents agreed to their children's marriage. "But last weekend, my prospective mother-in-law said on the phone: She had a' personality marriage examination' for us, which was based on the names of both parties. Wang Tao's name is named after water, and my name is next to three water points, so' too much water' is different from this word. " Zheng Yuanqing said that her mother-in-law tactfully asked her to change her name between the lines, saying that there would be problems even if she got married.

"My boyfriend is not wrong, but he is very filial. What his mother said is the imperial edict. " Zheng Xiao said with a wry smile that her boyfriend carefully asked her that night if she could change her name according to the wishes of the old man. Zheng Xiao said that the name was given by his parents. How can he change? Besides, name and personality are irrelevant. So, she threw a "no chat" answer directly to her boyfriend.

She said that Wang Tao received a phone call from her mother last night. She heard that her mother-in-law was urging her to change her name. Sure enough, as soon as her boyfriend put the phone down, she brought up the past and made her very angry. After the quarrel, she simply ignored it. For several days, Zheng Xiao has been in trouble, even worried that this will affect her marriage with her boyfriend.

Yesterday, Zheng Yuanqing's boyfriend, Wang Tao, told reporters that it was difficult for him to be involved in the name change storm, and he hoped to find a compromise.

"Personality premarital examination" is purely entertainment.

The reporter found that many young people who are about to enter the marriage hall now generally ignore the routine premarital medical examination on the grounds of "cumbersome" and "unnecessary", while premarital medical examination methods similar to personality premarital examination and even superstitious fortune telling are somewhat popular.

Professor Changqing, director of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Southwest Hospital of the Third Military Medical University, said that the awareness of premarital medical examination was weak, and premarital medical examination was in an embarrassing situation of being left out. The rate of premarital examination and pregnancy examination in our city is worrying. The rate of premarital check-up and pregnancy check-up in the main city is less than 5%, while that in rural areas is only 2%. This situation makes the birth rate of newborns with congenital diseases still high.

Contrary to neglecting premarital physical examination, many newlyweds are keen on psychological personality test before marriage. Psychologists can test whether their personalities match, or measure their names to see if they match, so as to overcome their own personality weaknesses, tolerate each other's personality weaknesses and reduce contradictions and frictions in their future marriage life.

In this regard, Zhou Xiaoyan, an associate professor of psychology at Chongqing Normal University and an expert on marriage emotion, said that it is a responsible attitude for future generations, lovers and even their elders for newlyweds to meet and have a pre-marital medical examination, which should be highly valued by newlyweds, including the whole society.

As for the personality test that some people are keen on, Zhou Xiaoyan thinks it can only be an entertainment or reference for married life. If marriage depends on pre-marital superstition, it is purely a sad expression of marriage and completely meaningless. "In short, premarital personality test is for entertainment, and premarital physical examination is essential."

What is a "personality premarital examination"

After marriage, whether the husband and wife have the correct personality and

It is understood that "premarital examination" is divided into two levels. One is to ask the tester to complete multiple-choice questions related to work, life and values, analyze the personality characteristics of lovers or married couples through tests, and put forward suggestions for men and women to understand each other, learn from each other's strong points and live in harmony in communication and family life. From this point of view, this level of personality premarital examination has certain reference, or let the tester experience a kind of romance from it, but can not be absolutely believed.

Another kind of personality pre-marital examination is to test whether the husband and wife's personality is appropriate and how high the marriage harmony index is by means of horoscope, zodiac matching and measuring eight-character names. This so-called premarital examination has no scientific basis, and some even have a certain superstitious color. Newcomers must not believe it.