Eight, the sea is full of rivers, and it is an underground sea. Low people make kings.

As the old saying goes, tolerance is great. Generally speaking, it means to be broad-minded and broad-minded, which is also the embodiment of a person's cultivation.

"Without a trickle, you can't become a river, a sea, and a thousand miles without a step." The development of everything is a little bit big, a little bit big, and a qualitative change step by step due to quantitative change.

1, growth is in stages.

There are four seasons in a year, and people have five periods, all of which are gradually replaced. People's growth is a step-by-step development and spiral upward process. Maybe you study every day but don't feel progress. Maybe you still won't get the result after working hard every day. But once you feel the change, you have taken a big step forward!

In this process, others can obviously feel your changes and differences. "Three days in never say goodbye, a scratch" means the great role of growth in life.

Children need nutrition and time to grow up, and people need to learn and experience to grow up. Therefore, for growth, we must have patience, love and perseverance! Not only yourself, but also your companions and others!

It is not the wind direction that determines the course of the ship, but the sails. In our life, work and growth, we will certainly encounter many external influences, but we should always remember my direction and goals. Let all forces become aid, not resistance! Only in this way can we grow, progress and change!

Xunzi's "Persuasion" is a good argument:

Mr. Wang said: I can't learn. Green is taken from blue, and green is blue; Ice, water, but colder than water. The wood is straight in the middle of the rope, the hammer is a wheel, and its curve is in the middle of the gauge. Although there are (and) storms (exposure), it is natural for those who no longer stand up to make them. Therefore, the wood is straight by the rope, the gold is sharp, the gentleman is knowledgeable, and he saves himself every day, so he knows clearly without fault.

So, if you don't climb the mountain, you don't know the height of the sky. Don't face the deep stream, I don't know the thickness of the ground; I didn't know the greatness of learning until I heard the last words of my late king. The sons of Gan, Yue, Yi and Xun are born with the same voice, long and different, and naturally teach them. The poem says, "Dear Sir, there is no constant rest. Jing Gonger, goodness is integrity. Listen to God and you will be blessed. " God is greater than Tao, and joy is greater than harmlessness.

I've been thinking about it all day. I might as well learn it in a minute. I've tasted it and I'm looking forward to it. Let's go hiking. Climb a trick, the arm does not lengthen, but the person you see is far away; Call with the wind, the sound does not add disease, but the listener is obvious. Those who cheat horses are not good enough, but cause thousands of miles; A man who pretends to be a boat can't swim, but he can't swim. A gentleman's life (xìng) is the same, and goodness is illusory.

In the south, there is a bird named Meng Dui, whose nest is feathers, whose hair is woven and whose reed is tied. When the wind breaks, the egg broken child dies. The nest is endless, but so are the people connected with it. There is a kind of wood in the west called Shegan. Its stem is four inches long, and it was born on a high mountain. However, in the abyss, the wooden pole can't grow out, but it stands naturally. In the bitter fleabane bitter fleabane, I can't bear to go straight; White sand is nirvana, and it is black. Lan Huaigen is a cheese, but he grows up, and the gentleman is not close, so he refuses to accept it. Its quality is not beautiful, but it is also gradual. Therefore, a gentleman must choose his hometown when he is born, and he must be a scholar when he travels. Therefore, we must also guard against evil and righteousness.

Everything has a beginning and an end. When honor or disgrace comes, it will be like virtue. Meat rots into adults, and fish withers into moths. Ignoring and forgetting your body is a disaster. Strong cultivation, soft cultivation. Evil is in the body, and resentment is in the structure. Wages are the same, the fire is dry, the ground is the same, and the water is wet. Vegetation is born, birds and animals are numerous, and things are human beings. Is a piece of nature, bows and arrows are very important; Lin, and the axe is heavy; Trees provide shade, but birds rest. Acyl acid, but Polygonum multiflorum Thunb. Therefore, words are troublesome, actions are humiliating, and gentlemen are cautious about words!

Accumulated soil becomes mountains, and the wind and rain are prosperous; The water drops merged into the ocean and the dragon was born; Accumulate goodness into virtue, the gods are complacent, and the sacred heart is prepared. Therefore, you can't take Wan Li Road without accumulating steps; If you don't accumulate small streams, you won't be a river. Leap, not ten steps; This is a great contribution to the success of Ma Xu. Perseverance, rotten wood can't be carved; Perseverance, the stone can be carved. Earthworms do not have the advantages of minions, and their bones and muscles are strong. They eat the earth and drink the yellow land with their hearts. The crab kneels six times and pinches twice. It's not that the snake hole has no sustenance, it's also impetuous.

Therefore, people with ulterior motives have no bright future; He made much ado about nothing, which has nothing to do with hehe. Those who follow the right path will not come, and those who follow the right path will not allow it. Eyes can't see, ears can't hear. The viper flies without feet, and the mouse is poor in five skills. "Poetry" said: "The corpse dove is in Sang, and her son is seven. A good gentleman with noble character is always a polite person. His appearance is clumsy and his heart is like a knot! " Therefore, a gentleman is bound by one.

I used to play drums, but the fish flowed out to listen; Boya Guqin, while Liu Ma raises Yuan. Therefore, the sound is not small but not heard, and the line is not hidden but not shaped. Jade is moist in the mountains, pearls are born in the deep, and cliffs are not withered. Do good without accumulating evil? Did anyone not hear? Learn evil from scratch? Evil in the end? Yue: its number begins with chanting and ends with reading ceremony; Its significance begins with being a scholar and ends with being a saint. If you really accumulate strength for a long time, you will enter, and if you learn, you will stop.

Therefore, there is an end to the number of students. If it is just, it cannot be abandoned for a moment. For it, people are also; Give up, so do animals. Therefore, this book is the discipline of political affairs; Poet, the stop of the middle voice; Etiquette, the main points of law, class discipline.

Therefore, learning must stop at ceremony. Husband is called the extreme of morality. The respect of ceremony, the harmony of music, the abundance of poetry and books, the micro-spring and autumn, between heaven and earth. The learning of a gentleman is also in the ear, in the heart, in the four bodies, and in the dynamic shape. Finally, as long as you move, you can become law. The knowledge of villains is also heard, not spoken; Between the mouth and ears, four inches, seven feet of beauty! Ancient scholars were themselves, and today's scholars are people. The study of a gentleman is also for beauty; Little people learn that birds are calves. Therefore, if you don't ask, you will be proud of it, and if you ask, you will be proud of it. Proud, no, ooh, no; A gentleman is like a ring.

Learn from ink and get close to people. Rites and music are not mentioned, poetry and books are not cut, and the Spring and Autumn Period is unhappy. If you learn from a gentleman, you will respect him all over the world. Therefore, learning ink is almost close to people.

Learning classics is not as fast as learning good people, followed by long rituals. You can't be a good person in the world, and you can't be a gift in the next life. Ante can learn miscellaneous knowledge, poetry and books. Then, in the last poor years, it is inevitable that there will be rude Confucianism. The original king, benevolence and righteousness, then courtesy is in its latitude and longitude. If you pat your collar with five fingers, there will be countless followers. If you don't respect the constitution, take the poetry book as an example, and refer to the river, the millet and the cone-shaped rice pot, you can't get it. Therefore, although Longli is unknown, he is also a lawyer; If you don't give a long gift, you will scatter Confucianism, although you will argue.

If you ask, don't sue; Don't ask if you told anyone; Don't listen to those who talk. Don't argue with people who live up to expectations. Therefore, we should learn from it and then pick it up; Avoid it unless it is the way. Therefore, return the courtesy before you can talk to the parties; Words are fluent, and then words and deeds can be consistent and justified; Therefore, color can be followed by words and actions. Therefore, it cannot be said in words that this is pride; Can have nothing to say, that is hidden; In terms of color, it is called sorrow. Therefore, a gentleman is not proud, not hiding, not jealous, let nature take its course. The poem says: "bandits are free, and the son of heaven gives them." This is also called.

One shot in every shot is not good enough to shoot; A thousand miles is not enough, and good is not enough; Learning badly is because ethics has nothing to do with human nature. Those who learn well will learn well. Once in the way, once in the way, the person who draws the lane is also; There are fewer good people, more bad people, and stealing feet. All the people, and scholars.

A gentleman knows that her husband is not perfect and can't think of beauty, so he recites it consistently and thinks it over, so as to treat others and educate people. Let eyes don't want to see, mouth don't want to say, and heart don't want to worry. When you are good at time, your eyes are good with five colors, your ears are good with five tones, your mouth is good with five flavors, and your heart benefits the world. Therefore, rights cannot be dumped, the masses cannot be moved, and the world cannot be shaken. Life depends on reason, death depends on reason, and husband is called virtue. Fuck, then you decide, then you decide, then you respond. If a husband can respond positively, he is an adult. The sky sees its light and the earth sees its light, and the gentleman values all this.

2. Tolerance is the ladder of career achievement.

Ma Yun said that people's minds are inflated by qi. Your career can be as big as how many people can fit in your heart.

It was not until one day that I became a small leader of the department that I understood this sentence and truly realized his profound meaning.

Because you are angry and open-minded, the more approachable the senior leader is, the more you think and say, the more he looks like. Naturally, I won't be so reckless and collision like you!

The following is the full text of Leadership to share with you:

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What is a leader? Leadership is service and dedication, driving and guiding.

Leadership is lonely and painful. Every plan and arrangement, the leader must go through careful consideration and careful arrangement. Employees only need to make plans, tasks and ideas for the leaders, but who can the leaders ask?

Leaders should get up early and be greedy for the dark, plan strategically, walk ahead by themselves, explore the way, and try to fill their cups, so as to give everyone something. Leaders must first be themselves, and then they have the confidence and courage to lead everyone.

In addition to doing a good job, leaders also shoulder another responsibility. He stood at different heights, thought from different angles and observed from different directions. He wants to surpass himself, abandon selfishness, eliminate prejudice and pursue foresight. He should set an example, others cry, he can't cry, others laugh, he can't laugh, anyone can lose confidence, but he should encourage everyone with passion, courage and encouragement!

Leadership is the flag, and the flag cannot fall.

The leader is happy. Every thought of leadership is endowed with different meanings, which may become the growing point of creation. Although there are many obstacles, they understand that once the goal is achieved, the value it brings is infinite, transcendental enjoyment and infinite power. No matter how many setbacks you have experienced on the way, everything is surrounded by happiness, and it is full of happiness when you reach your goal.

Leadership is learning, growing and changing. Leaders who don't learn are not real leaders, leaders who don't grow up are unqualified leaders, and leaders who don't change are leaders who will be eliminated.

In China, the tradition and practice that some people will always be leaders once they become leaders is stupid. Leadership should be driving force and leadership. If he can no longer guide everyone, then he can only "wait for death" in situ, and it is impossible for everyone to surpass today and open up tomorrow!

Leadership should be done by people who can give us the future, dreams and hopes!

Leadership is not a symbol of power, and power is only an accessory, which cannot represent the connotation of leadership. Leadership is giving, humility, gratitude and learning. Leaders should let every employee feel growth and exercise, pay and gain; Let employees feel that he is not overbearing and willing to go with him; Thanks to the work of every employee, their actions have created a United and enterprising team; Keep learning, because if you don't study, you can't give us better guidance, and you are not a qualified leader.

There is a saying in the management training class: If you love someone, let him go to Harvard University; Do you hate being alone? Let him go to Harvard University! Harvard University is the cradle of cultivating talents and the hell of tempering human nature. The same is true of leadership. To be a leader, you must be mentally prepared. Leadership responsibility is great!

Some people think that leadership is an honor, a ship divorced from labor! This is a wrong understanding.

A leader who gets something for nothing is not a leader, but a pirate. Pirates' leadership will not last long.

Don't envy leaders, we don't want the hard work of leaders; We must admire leaders, and we all need to learn the spirit of leadership.

Therefore, it is impossible to be a leader without a little generosity. Tolerance is the ladder of career success, so we should treat people with tolerance.

3. "Four-dimensional space" paves the way for career success

Direct selling has a "four-dimensional space", which is heat, width, depth and speed.

Hot is to be enthusiastic, positive and optimistic when doing things for people. This determines your affinity and the integration of the market environment. It is said that in marketing, there must be intersection, communication, communication, heart-to-heart, transaction and performance. The heat is a "stepping stone" and a business card that enters the scope of mutual vision.

We often say that "a smile is a business card that needs no translation, and it is a warm sun that melts in the cold winter", which is actually an example of heat. And a smile is just a sign of heat. In the process of getting along with others, always appear in a positive and optimistic state, because the state will infect people.

Width is the width of contacts and the width of the market. For example, if you are a manufacturer, the more first-class dealers or agents below you, the greater the probability and extent of your profit.

Now we often say that "connections are money veins". The more friends you know directly, the more contacts you make. When you have the ability to transform, the greater your wealth growth index.

Depth is the depth of channel construction and the extension of interpersonal relationship, which determines the stability and durability of market share. In other words, the channel construction is very deep, with first-class, second-class, third-class and fourth-class distribution or agents. Even if one day the first-class distribution or agent quits, your channel is still there and your market share is still there, and your profit will not be affected.

The power of the pipeline has given us profound enlightenment.

Only by combining heat, width and depth can our cause have speed. Because the door was knocked down, the branches grew and the roots were deep, then the tree will grow up soon!

4. A "master" who achieved his career through "five degrees and one achievement"

"Five degrees and one strength" means loyalty, trust, flexibility, softness, maturity and judgment.

Loyalty means being loyal to your dreams, your duties, your promises and working hard for them.

Trust means mutual trust with the boss, mutual trust with colleagues, full trust in products and due diligence.

Flexibility refers to flexibility and flexibility, which can adjust and control the atmosphere in a timely and reasonable manner according to specific conditions.

Flexibility refers to being able to tolerate everything, share responsibilities, cooperate with others, find problems in time, solve problems and ensure sustained and healthy operation.

Maturity means ownership, active learning, active research, active problem solving, active communication and a sense of responsibility.

Judgment can quickly judge the right or wrong development of things, and decisively and effectively grasp the correct direction.

The loyalty and trust among Liu Bei, Guan Yu and Zhang Fei in the Three Kingdoms have been passed down through the ages. It is their sincerity, loyalty and support that laid the foundation for opening a tripartite confrontation in Sichuan.

Elasticity and softness mean that we should be elastic and flexible. Yu once said: Do things like mountains, be like water. As Xunzi lay dying, he called his disciples to his side. The disciples asked him what he had to say. He pointed to his mouth and said, take a good look. What else is in it? Disciple is not confused. He said, Look, the hard teeth are gone, but the tongue is still there ... This story tells us that soft and elastic things are more vital than hard things!

Maturity means independence and independent struggle. Judgment requires wisdom. There is an advertisement for heaven and hell. The story is thoughtful! ?

This is an old joke, but it is very interesting. I think it may win your smile. Jokes are undoubtedly very suitable for China, but I hope they can also be applied to other different cultures! ? One day, a very successful human resource manager was walking down the street when a tragedy happened. She was knocked down by a bus and died. Her soul went to heaven and met St. Peter himself at the gate of heaven. ? "Welcome to heaven." St. Peter said. ? "Before you checked in, we seemed to be in trouble. You see, strangely, we have never met a human resources manager running all the way here, so we are not sure what to do with you. " ? "No problem, just let me in." The lady said.

"Of course, I also want to do so," replied St. Peter, "but I must also obey the orders of my superiors. We can only let you live in hell for one day, then in heaven for another day, and then let you choose your final permanent residence. " ? "Actually, I've made up my mind. I choose to live in heaven. " , the lady replied. ? Sorry, we must obey the rules ...? After that, St. Peter took the human resources supervisor into the elevator, which went down and finally went to hell. The gates of hell opened and she found herself on the green grass of a beautiful golf course. ? You can see the country club in the distance, but in front of you is her friend-the supervisor colleague who works with her. They all wore evening dresses and cheered for her arrival. They flew to her, kissed her cheeks and looked back with her. ? In the evening, they played a wonderful golf game in the country club, tasted delicious steak and lobster and enjoyed a sumptuous dinner. She met the devil, but in fact he is a kind person (a little cute). She spent a wonderful evening there, sharing jokes and dancing together. When she was leaving, she realized that she had a good time here. ? When she got into the elevator and left, everyone shook her hand and waved goodbye to her. The elevator went up and finally returned to the gate of heaven. She saw St. Peter waiting for her. ? "Now, you should spend a day in heaven." He said. For the next 24 hours, she walked in the clouds, played the harp and sang loudly. She also spent a happy time in heaven, and happy time is always short. Soon 24 hours arrived, and St. Peter came to pick her up. ? "At this point, you have spent a day in hell and a day in heaven. Now it's time for you to choose your permanent residence, "he said. The lady thought for a moment and then replied, "I think I'll take back what I just said." I mean, heaven is really magnificent and beautiful, but I am happier in hell. " Then, St. Peter accompanied him on the elevator, got off the elevator and took her to hell. ? When the elevator opened, she found herself in an abandoned ruin, surrounded by garbage and mud. She saw her friends in rags, picking up rags on the ground and throwing them into sacks. The devil came up to her and put his arms around her. ?

"I don't understand," the lady stammered. "When I came yesterday, there were golf courses and country clubs. We ate lobster here, danced together and had a wonderful time together. But now it has become a desolate wasteland, and my friends all look miserable. " ? The devil looked at her and smiled and replied, "Fool, what you saw yesterday was an advertisement, but today is real life ..."

5, personality color and interpersonal communication

Understanding people's personality types and characteristics, so as to effectively grasp the "temperature" of interpersonal communication, is a focus of modern people's attention.

People's personalities are colorful. According to different classification standards, there are realistic, exploratory, artistic and social, as well as lively, powerful, perfect and peaceful.

Here, I follow the theory of chromatics and divide people's personalities into four categories: red, yellow, blue and green.

Red personality, that is, lively, careless, laughing, informal, outspoken, with a beginning and an end.

Yellow character, that is, strength type, uncompromising, decisive and strong, purposeful and decisive.

Blue personality, that is, perfect, cautious, persistent in decision-making, strong sense of purpose, argumentative and clear in doing things.

Green personality, that is, peace, no ambition, endless doubts, drifting with the flow, good popularity, slow work.

So for people with different personalities, the requirements are of course different. People with red personalities should be quiet; People with yellow personality should be soft; A melancholy person should have a hot face; People with green personality should be ambitious.

Knowing the characteristics of four-color personality, let's take a look at the three principles of interpersonal communication:

(1) Golden Rule: Treat others as we want them to treat us.

(2) Platinum Law: We treat others as we wish.

(3) The diamond principle: Do something he didn't expect and touch him.

The golden rule is to deduce the law of interpersonal communication from your own point of view. The starting point is "we" and the focus is "we", so the level is the lowest; The starting point of platinum law is "harmony" and "he", rising to the realm of "serving others"; Although the starting point of the diamond principle is "he" and the focus is "he", its connotation is not "what he thinks", but beyond "what he thinks", which is the highest realm.

Imagine, if you can reach such a state in interpersonal communication, how difficult is it? It is said that people's problems are the most difficult things in the world. It seems that it still hasn't been done. We only know three laws. How to do it and do it well requires us to measure it all our lives!

6. Don't measure others with the ruler in your heart.

Everyone has different preferences, advantages and disadvantages, so we should treat people and things around us objectively and correctly, and don't use a ruler to measure others in our hearts.

When one of Confucius' students was cooking porridge, he found something dirty falling into the pot. He quickly scooped it up with a spoon and was about to dump it, when it suddenly occurred to him that a porridge and a meal were hard to come by. So I ate it. It happened that Confucius walked into the kitchen and thought he was stealing vegetables, so he taught the classmate who was in charge of cooking. After the explanation, everyone suddenly realized. Confucius said with emotion, "What I saw with my own eyes is not true, let alone hearsay?" ? This story tells us that seeing is no longer true, and hearsay is even less pleasant.

So, don't use the ruler in our hearts to measure others. The ruler is short and the inch is long. Everyone is a unique individual. The reason why the world is so wonderful is because there are different people. The so-called "there is no perfect individual, only a perfect team", everyone has defects. The length of employing people is the avenue; A short stare at people is a narrow road.

There is a saying in management that "look at the advantages of others with a blind eye and ignore the shortcomings of others", so that people can make the best use of their talents, make the best use of their own advantages and create the highest value.

Being a man, making friends and communicating are also our principles. Otherwise you don't like anyone, so a few beautiful people can make friends with you. Besides, the ruler in everyone's mind is related to their own pattern and knowledge. If the ruler is not uniform, how can we get a good size?

Don't tell fortune, say who is good and who is bad. Have you ever experienced that when you are in trouble, you feel that the people who helped you didn't help you, and those who couldn't help you can help you. This shows that the size in your mind may be wrong. Not available, not credible!