What do you mean, paranoid?

From the psychological point of view, doubt is one of the common psychology. Doubt is one of the weaknesses of human nature. Suspicious people think too much and think the worst of everything. The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, and the shadow is out of thin air. As Bacon said, "Doubt is like a bat, it always takes off at dusk. This kind of mood is fascinating and confusing. It can confuse you, confuse your friends and enemies and ruin your career. " Suspicion is manifested in the process of communication, and the tendency of self-involvement is too heavy. What is self-involvement? I always feel that everything else will be related to myself, and I am too sensitive and suspicious of other people's words and deeds.

The ancients who lacked trust in the environment, others and themselves said, "You know what you look like, but you don't doubt each other." On the other hand, if you don't know each other, you must look suspicious. However, the lack of "Thaksin" is often associated with the lack of "self-confidence". A suspicious person seems to doubt others, but in fact he doubts himself, at least he lacks self-confidence. Some people think that they are inferior to others in some aspects, so they always feel that others are talking about themselves, looking down on themselves and calculating themselves. The more confident a person is, the easier it is to trust others and the less likely it is to have doubts. Self-defense against communication frustration

Some people have been cheated in communication because of trusting others, and suffered great mental loss and emotional frustration. So, they were desperate and no longer trusted anyone. Psychologically speaking, there are several reasons for suspicion:

First, lack of mutual understanding and trust, mental health is not enough. Psychologically, there is always a sense of insecurity towards others, and people often misinterpret their goodwill and normal words and deeds. For example, if someone praises him, he will suspect that he is being sarcastic: others criticize him. He will suspect that it is attacking him; Others ignored him, and he suspected that others were isolating him. Narrow-minded makes him unable to accommodate others' correct evaluation of him.

The second is a closed way of thinking, that is, a subjective way of thinking. Doubt is always based on a hypothetical goal of closed thinking. Like a circle, the thicker you draw, the more round you draw. At the same time, we often wear colored glasses to observe people and use other people's actions to verify rather than correct our own views, so we often distort the facts and have doubts about others.

Third, one-sided understanding of love, lack of confidence. Love is inherently exclusive, but love does not exclude friendship, and friendship does not exclude it. You should believe in yourself and your lover and have enough confidence in yourself and your lover. Without these, suspicion will naturally arise.

The fourth is to listen to rumors. They should not only take other people's evaluation as the standard to measure their words and deeds, but also care about other people's gossip. When others' attitudes are unclear, they often have to doubt and doubt from aspects that are not conducive to themselves and ask for trouble.