Both unbelievers and wise people know-don't worry about small things, don't hesitate about big things.

Not being confused means having your own judgment, which includes having basic common sense, having professional knowledge of what you want to do, and having the wisdom to break things when things go wrong.

If you have good knowledge, you can get it in a proper way, but if you accumulate it in a proper way, you can get it in a proper way. Only when you are well informed can you choose its essence and take it; Only when I have accumulated a wealth can I use it with ease.

The Book of Changes is the first divination in the lawsuit. The slogan: Day 6: Never do anything, say something small, and finally get lucky.

What do you mean? Just don't dwell on disputes for a long time. Although there will be some verbal friction and criticism, it is auspicious after all. The hexagrams represent disputes, and the yin is in a soft position. Obedience means that there will be no long-term entanglement, there may be some disputes, but it will be auspicious in the end.

* * Don't fantasize about contradictions, don't pester others, and broaden your horizons. **

Chekhov, a Russian writer, has a famous novel The Death of a Small Civil Servant. How did the hero die? Scared to death by the general. Does the general really want to deal with him? No way, when he was at the theater, didn't he just spit on the general's bald head? He always worried about what the general would do to him, and finally scared himself to death. This is a kind of entanglement.

Conflicts between people are inevitable. After the conflict occurs, the best way is to resolve the conflict as soon as possible, reach a settlement, and end the struggle in a state of "talk", rather than expanding and continuing the struggle.

* * Don't dwell on some things, or you will get into trouble. **

Zhang Fei's death is actually very humbled: he did not die generously on the battlefield, but was killed by his own entanglement. When he heard that his good brother Guan Yu was killed, Zhang Fei did not restrain his grief, and blood and tears stuck to his chest. Then he whipped the soldiers through drunkenness and made them make weapons day and night, hoping to avenge their brothers immediately. Finally, Fan Jiang and Zhang Da couldn't bear it, so they had to assassinate Zhang Fei in the military camp when he was drunk again. No one denies that Zhang Fei is capable. But people with such great ability can't get an ideal ending in the end.

* * Some gourmet guests let go when they find something wrong * *

A friend Tony is a real estate agent. Strong analytical ability on the real estate market, very keen, good at seizing opportunities and treating people sincerely. He put the interests of his guests first, and many guests made a lot of money by investing in real estate with him, so he also enthusiastically introduced friends to him.

His experience is that you must be kind to your guests when introducing friends, but you will know what is going on after 2-3 contacts. If they meet the best guests, they should let go quickly. The best guests are particularly fond of keeping up with the joneses, and even some opinions are unrealistic and demanding. No matter how good the service is, he will "find fault in an egg". But don't argue with them when you break up. Smile and thank them for their advice.

Once, a friend of a guest contacted Tony and asked him to help him find a house to buy a house. Tony showed the guests the house twice, and then accurately recommended a suite to the guests. The guest was surprised by Tony's professional ability, so he made an offer, but the guest was a new immigrant who had just arrived in Canada and was very wary. Before lifting the conditions, he made some unreasonable demands on the seller and then asked for a price reduction. The seller simply refused. This list was not successful. Tony showed the guests around the room again, and then politely told her that she was going to have a holiday recently and asked her to find her own room and contact her after the holiday. So Tony never contacted this guest again.

"Gee, obviously you don't want to take a vacation, okay?" My friend wondered, isn't Tony the kind of person who wants quick success and instant benefit? Ask him why he doesn't spend more time, he is too busy. Tony smiled and assumed the posture of a fortune teller. "Uh-huh, the eight characters don't match."

* * Don't pester yourself, let yourself live more wonderfully! **

Smart people understand that if you struggle for a long time, it will be annoying, painful, tired and sad. In fact, after all, you don't have a problem with things, but you have a problem with yourself.

During his relegation to Huangzhou, Su Shi lived a hard life and did nothing. One night, Su Shi was glad to see the care of the moon, so he went to Chengtian Temple to find his old friend Zhang Huaimin to enjoy the moon together.

To this end, he wrote "Night Tour in Chengtian Temple". He said, which night is there no moonlight? Where is there no bamboo and cypress? It's just the lack of idle people like us. In the predicament of life, he can still enjoy the moon leisurely. Everything is open-minded, so that he can see right and wrong freely.

If conditions permit, then go. If not, stop and look at the scenery. In the face of right and wrong, many people are entangled in it, unable to jump out of the net they weave for themselves and see the bigger world. If you are confined to a small circle, how can you open up a new situation? Do you care about others being jealous and gossiping? If you care, what's the difference between you and that person? Jump out and look at other people's jealousy, and you will find it extremely ridiculous. You won't waste precious time and energy in entanglement. The world is naturally vast.

Biography of Guo Tai in the later Han Dynasty recorded the story of "Broken Bamboo Slips": When Guo Tai was in Taiyuan, one day he saw a man walking on the road with a crock on his back, and the crock suddenly fell to the ground with a clash, which startled him. Who knows passers-by didn't look at it, but walked on casually. Guo Tai felt very strange after seeing it, so he took the initiative to ask him, "Why did you break your crock and keep walking without looking?" The man replied, "It's all broken. What's the use of watching it again? "

Guo Tai thought this man was a prodigy, so he advised him to go to school. According to the book, this man's name is Meng Min, and his name is Shu Da. After studying for ten years, Meng Min became famous all over the world.

A wise man with self-control will not give up everything. They are not without mood swings, but they will not get caught up in them. It is better to focus on more important things than to dwell on precious time. Only those who don't struggle can achieve it. **

In ancient Tibet, there was a man named Aidiba. Every time he gets angry and has an argument with someone, he rushes home and runs around his house and ground three times. It's like nothing happened after running. He continued to work hard. His house is getting bigger and bigger and his land is getting more and more. After three trips to each argument, people were puzzled by his actions, but Aidiba remained silent.

In his old age, he finally told this story: "When I was young, I quarreled with others and got angry, so I went running, thinking that my house was so small and there was so little land, so I didn't have time to get angry with others." Thinking of this, my anger disappeared, and I spent all my time working hard. "

* * Life needs to look ahead and get rid of bad emotions as soon as possible. **

If you blindly spend your energy and time on useless things, how much time and energy do you have to improve yourself? Smart people never pester. This is the wisest way to live a more wonderful life.

In life, we often encounter many inexplicable slanders. Obviously we didn't provoke each other, but the other side slandered you behind your back. I'm sure everyone will be angry when such a thing happens.

But when you think about it, you will find that most of these people are not doing well. They just use this way to cover up their powerlessness and find some psychological balance for themselves. * * If you argue with him, it will not only be embarrassing, but also waste a lot of energy and time.

If a man wants to achieve great things, he has to face more than just enemies. Many teammates who seem to be on the same side as you, such as pig teammates and wolf teammates, are always ready to stab your teammates and be ready to guard against your teammates. These people are your opponents in the process of achieving great things.

What should we do? Focusing on the present is the best way to solve the problem. Zeng Guofan said that a word "sincerity" traveled all over the world. Zeng Guofan once asked Li Hongzhang, "What methods are you going to use to deal with foreigners?" Li Hongzhang said, "I play hooliganism with them, and I play hooliganism with them." Zeng Guofan said: "No, you should use the word' sincerity' with them. Both foreigners and China people are human beings, and everyone is reasonable. As long as you use the word' sincerity' and do whatever you want, the other party will not bully you; Even if he bullies you, it is only the normal result of the strength gap. It's much better than being a hooligan and clever, and finally getting a big loss. We must uphold the word' sincerity' for everyone. "

Zeng Guofan's way of life is like this. He only deals with this matter at the moment, and he handles it very well, regardless of the game relationship between the second and third layers around him. This is the cleverest method in chaos and change. He said, "The future is not welcome. At that time, I didn't mix, and I didn't fall in love in the past." What will happen in the future, I don't want to meet at all; Don't make a mess of what you are doing now, just concentrate on what you want to do; When this thing is over, I will never miss it again.

When most people float, roll and tremble in the air like fallen leaves, and finally fall to the ground, there are always a few people, like stars, running along the established track. The wind of impermanence will never blow them down, because they have a set voyage in their hearts.

-Siddhartha of Hesse

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