Fuan engagement custom!

marry

In feudal society, the marriage between men and women has always been arranged by parents. Traditionally, the traditional wedding etiquette includes several stages, such as talking about marriage, sending small posts, sending big posts, sending dates, giving gifts to fish and getting married. Although the names are different, we can still see the traces left by the six rites of ancient marriage.

Adult premarital etiquette

Bring (two or more parties) together.

When men and women reach marriageable age, parents begin to find partners for their children. It is usually the parents of the man who ask the matchmaker to propose to the woman. If the woman's parents agree, the daughter's birthday Geng will be given, and the man will put the birthday Geng of both sides in the kitchen god shrine. After a period of time, everything goes well at home, so you can ask the fortune teller to figure out whether there is a phenomenon of "rush" or "gram" in the birth of young men and women, commonly known as "marriage"

Xia xiaotie

After marriage, it is considered that there is no "rush" and "gram" for boys and girls, and the bride price, dowry, wedding date and so on are negotiated by the parents of the man and the woman. After an agreement is reached, the man's family chooses an auspicious day to give gifts to the woman's family, which is called a "small contract".

Send a big post

The man's family will choose another auspicious day and send dry kuntie, dowry, bride price and cloth to the woman's family; The girl sent back cakes and fruits and cloth to the groom. This is a big dowry, commonly known as Dading. This is an important ceremony at the wedding stage.

"send to Japan"

After the bride price is given, the man will give the woman a gift to inform her of the chosen wedding date. At this time, the male family is waiting to marry the bride, and the female family is busy preparing the dowry.

Wedding etiquette

The day before the wedding, the man's family usually kills the pig and sends the "sedan chair meat" to the woman's family. On the same day, the woman's family divided the prepared dowry into different items, and two deacons held one item and one bar, which was called "one bar". The "welcome bar" team lined up in the drums and firecrackers, which was magnificent, so the local Xie Houyu said, "Stay with the 36 th bar." That night, the bride and groom paid tribute to their ancestors. The bride should also say goodbye to her relatives and elders.

On the wedding day, the woman's family held a luncheon and invited relatives and friends, commonly known as "going out for a drink". The man's family holds a banquet and invites relatives and friends, commonly known as "bride's wine". After lunch, the reception team went to the woman's house. In the Qing dynasty, it was very ostentatious for rich people to pick up the bride. The honor guard who received the bride opened the way with a big gong, followed by colorful flags, red palace lanterns, gongs, umbrellas, drums and sedan chairs. In the early years of the Republic of China, there were shops renting all kinds of sedan chairs in the county. When the sedan chair arrived at the woman's house, the bride was wearing a dress. Before getting on the sedan chair, she had to get married in tears, so as to ward off evil spirits and hold a "leaving ceremony" with her brothers. Finally, Quanfu's elders helped her get into the sedan chair. A sister-in-law accompanied each other. The sedan chair arrived at the man's house in the dark, and then the elder Quan Fu of the man's house came out, removed the "spell in front of the sedan chair" from the door, lit it and opened the door. "Zhong Zhenggu" (the little girl of Quanfu) asked the bride to get off the sedan chair, and then "the mother of the bridesmaid" (an old woman who knew the local marriage etiquette) helped her to the hall to wait for the wedding ceremony. When the sedan chair arrives at the man's door, the groom, his parents, brothers and sister-in-law will go upstairs to avoid it as a sign of respect and hold the bride in the future. After the "Tong Guan" (Quanfu Boy) went upstairs for three times, the groom wore a robe and a hat and went downstairs to pay homage to the bride. After kneeling three times and knocking nine times, the bride was supported by the elder Quanfu, holding a candle and a bucket lamp (made of rice, red eggs, mirrors, scissors, ruler, chopsticks, scales and a lighted oil lamp in a round barrel surrounded by red paper). After visiting the church, a dinner party is held in the hall, and friends and relatives are invited, commonly known as "inviting wine". Generally, the "bride wine" for lunch serves female guests, and the "bride wine" for dinner serves male guests. After the "wedding banquet", prepare a table of exquisite and rich banquets, commonly known as "gift wine". Most of the people who attended the banquet were well-off young people who were pre-selected by their parents. Drinking "ritual wine" and having sex often last until dawn.

On the second day after the wedding, the bride will enter the kitchen for a "cooking ceremony" under the leadership of the "bridesmaid's mother". On that day, the bride will visit relatives and elders and hold a "welcome ceremony". That night, the bridesmaid's mother prepared sugar tea and snacks and sent them to the new house for the bride and groom to eat together, commonly known as "delivering the house". It is equivalent to the etiquette of "drinking a glass of wine" in ancient times.

On the third day of marriage, the groom must accompany the bride to her father-in-law's house, that is, the bride "returns to the door" and the groom "acts as a son-in-law". The woman's house will hold a "son-in-law wine" to entertain her son-in-law and return to the man's house that day. At this point, the whole wedding etiquette has come to an end.

Intermarriage restriction

Before the Republic of China, men and women with the same surname in the county did not get married. During the Republic of China, only close relatives were forbidden to get married, so a few men and women with the same surname got married. During this period, the contact opportunities between men and women gradually increased, and both sides appeared to get married voluntarily, but the discussion on marriage was still restricted by both parents. After 1949, when men and women get married, most of them fall in love freely first, and then their parents get engaged and hold a wedding.