I have been unlucky since I transferred my account to my husband's house.

There is no place for misfortune and happiness, and what people call is also. Misfortune and happiness are neither masters nor gods. Doesn't mean that he will bless you if you eat the pig that feeds you. If there is no support, ghosts will come to you. That is empty talk.

"It never rains but it pours", ghosts and gods can't be your master, nor can gods and bodhisattvas be your master. Only people have their own ideas. The so-called "only people call themselves" means that you call yourself. So all our experiences in life are strictly reflected, such as pain, happiness, trouble and so on. They all called it by themselves. Heaven is such a thing. Heaven is like a net, everywhere, just invisible, with true wisdom and no domination, but not natural or physical. In China's idioms, you can often see these two sentences: "Skynet is long, but it is sparse."

In fact, the biggest problem here is our concept problem, which is our problem. Because we have formed such a habit of complaining from the beginning, everything is pursued outward, and we don't know how to look back and reflect. We always want to change others or the outside world, but we don't know how to change ourselves. Because the outside world cannot be changed, or it is difficult to change, the only thing that can be changed is ourselves.

Therefore, as soon as we feel so unlucky, we will take corresponding "measures" to deal with our so-called "adversity" or trap, and always try to escape from it. The result is just the opposite. The farther you run, the deeper you sink, and you will never get rid of it. In this way, you will naturally fall into a vicious causal cycle, and you will fall into the quagmire of being misunderstood, framed, designed and so on. People are unlucky, not by looking at names, constellations and constellations. It's what this man did.

Some people suspect that people who have never done a good thing have done many bad things, but they live so rich and happy. What is the reason? When Sima Qian wrote Biography of Boyi, he also raised a question: "It's impossible to do a good job with heaven to reward hard work" and said, "I'm confused, and [t m 4 ng] said that heaven is evil, not evil". However, when he wrote this article, he did not give an answer to this confusion, but only asked a question for people who read his article to think for themselves.

When it comes to religious philosophy, people often ask such a question: religion is about right and wrong, good and evil; However, some people are good people who do good deeds all their lives, but they suffer the most and suffer the most. Even Sima Qian, who wrote historical records, had such doubts. Sima Qian was severely punished and tortured all his life in order to give Li Ling justice. He said in The Biography of Boyi Shu Qi, Is the so-called Heaven Road true? Is it fake? I don't know. There are many good people in society who suffer all their lives, while those bad people live comfortably and everything is fine. The worse people are, the better life is.

The Buddhist answer is simple: someone is a bad person in this world, but the reason why he has such a good situation is because his good deeds in his last life have not been finished; The bad things he did in this life will be solved when he is full of evil. From my personal life experience, Buddhism is right.

Or some people say that this can only be heard, and can't be seen in the last life and the next life! As long as we study this problem from the reality of our lives, we will understand that "there is no door to wealth, and people call it themselves." Because of my strict introspection, I will find that the biggest blow is the biggest blessing. If I don't get the biggest blow, I will probably die. Of course, living is not necessarily good! It is sad to live too long, although most people think that longevity is also a blessing.

From these many reasons, we can understand the meaning of what Laozi said: "The skynet is long, but it is sparse without leaking". There is no meaning, no dominance, no standards, but there are big principles and standards; This truth is the most profound truth in any religious philosophy. Simply put, it is the law of cause and effect, the cause of one's own creation, and the result of one's own nature, and no one can escape. -"Old He Zi said"

I have seen many people's life experiences, and the retribution is fast, which seems to be faster than computer calculation. In fact, many people are true, but the people who are reported don't understand it themselves. Therefore, there are four popular sayings in China society: "One good deed deserves another, and another evil deserves another. It's not that you don't report it, but it's not the right time." Everyone loves to say it. -"Mencius devoted articles"

Confucius said: Who can't leave the house? He Moyus Knife Master!

Although Confucius lamented the times so much, he thought it was right to take the right path. Gentleman should not bow to reality, the final victory, the final success, or belong to the right path. For example, he said, "Who can leave the house?" The door in the gate is a resident. He said that anyone who wants to go out can go out without going through the door. Only when you are out of the door can you embark on the right path. People should take the right path, go astray, and go left, but it will be tortuous and difficult to achieve results.

In other words, people should have the standard of being a man. Although many people are proud of not going the right way, there are still problems in the end. However, many people still only care about the present, regardless of their own consequences. Although we see many people doing evil and still enjoying life, this account will be settled in the afterlife after all. -The Analects of Confucius

Buddhist karma, for example, yesterday you scolded a person, and he smiled at you, and he already had hatred in his heart. If they have the chance, they will definitely repay you, and you're welcome. This is karma. This is karma.

Therefore, it is said that "if you are innocent, don't fight, don't scold, and if something bad comes, it is to give you virtue, not only to endure, but also to thank him"-"Jing Si Quotations"

If you can't stand it, you still have resentment in your heart. Although this matter has passed, there will be a reversal in the future. Or next life, next life, until you repent.

In ancient times, there was a man with good moral cultivation, named Lin Tuizhai, who was rich and had a lot of children and grandchildren. On his deathbed, all his descendants knelt before him and said, "You are leaving us, so leave something for us to pursue all our lives."

He said, "You should learn to bear hardships." This is his greatest concern for his children and grandchildren, and let them know that suffering is a blessing.

It is often said in society: "A small amount is not a gentleman, but a non-toxic husband." It is originally an "excessive husband." Misinterpreted as "non-toxic and not husband", people mistakenly think that "vicious" is the husband. "Degree" is measurement and tolerance. A man without measurement cannot be called a husband. "Less is not a gentleman, more is not a husband" is a good motto to cultivate people's ability.

It's not so much that things or others make you suffer, but that you don't have enough self-cultivation

Confucius said: "Life and death have a life, and wealth is in the sky."

Your present life is what you used to call it, and your future life and your present life can be resolved by what you do now. So in order to give your future a good life, you must accumulate more virtues, do good deeds now and live seriously. If you don't steal, you will be rich, and if you steal, you will be poor. After you are ready to help others, you have a noble person. No one will help you if you don't do what you should do. You are the one who is called rich and expensive and poor and poor. Help yourself! I recommend you an article that can be transshipped, and search for "four major disciplines of Mandarin" on the Internet.

Man is the soul of all things, and your heart is the most spiritual! People have such great spirituality that you don't know and complain blindly. Can your life be good? It can't be good! Someone said, "My life is not good. I have had bad feelings in my life. " Well, the more you talk, the smarter you get. That's enough for you. In fact, everyone has enough Buddha nature and only listens to himself. This is very clever. If we say, "Oh, this will definitely not work." The more you say it, the worse it gets. Don't say that good intentions are not rewarded, and don't say that there are no good people around you. Some women say, "Even men have no good things." Can I arrange it for you? Because you asked "men have no good things", this is your wish and your conclusion. Don't lose at the best, mistakenly thinking that worry is kindness. Remember, worry equals curse and curse. We should be careful when we draw any conclusions, so the middle word of the doctrine of the mean is to put a seal on the word and tell you not to talk nonsense and seal your mouth first. We should throw away those benign procedures: "I am surrounded by good people", "I am blessed when I suffer", "this person is not good to me" and "the more I get sick, the more I catch a cold and detoxify". Who heard that the colder I am, the shorter my life will be? Not necessarily. Take medicine when you are sick. Therefore, we have to lose good programs. I often throw away good programs for myself: "It's lucky to lose money", "The colder a cold is, the healthier it is", and most people say that "jumping with the left eye is a fortune, and jumping with the right eye is a curse". I'm not the program. I am a person who "jumps with my right eye", and everything jumps for beautiful things.

Karma is the natural law of the universe and the law of natural development. However, it is relative, not eternal in a certain time, but changes with the change of everything in the universe. There is no absolute law of cause and effect in the universe, and it is everyone's own view of value existence that ultimately determines fate. Simply put, only he can decide everything and master his own destiny.

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What is arrogance?

Some people are very knowledgeable, especially those who study Buddhism. They have studied the theory of Confucian classics and know Buddhist scriptures. What achievements have they made? Made a very serious mistake-slow growth. All sentient beings, not just people, are born with greed, anger, delusion, slowness and doubt. Everyone has heard a lot about greed, anger and delusion. Slow, what do you mean slow? I am slow. We often hear people say a mantra, or people who lose their temper in the street scold "Brother Lao Zi", which means I am slow. There is no one in the world who doesn't feel great. Even people with absolute inferiority will feel great. People who feel inferior are arrogant. Why are they arrogant? Because I regard myself as very important and care about myself, but I can't compare with others. Inferiority and pride are actually two sides of a whole and the same thing. A person has no inferiority complex, no arrogance, very dull and comfortable.

In China culture, Zhuangzi has an allusion to arrogance: "Mantis' arm is like a car". He said that mantis lost his temper and raised two slender arms to stop the car from passing. As a result, it was not only squashed, but also the pulp was squeezed out. Zhuangzi this sentence is a metaphor for people "biting off more than one can chew", and things beyond their abilities and wisdom must be done. Why did mantis have such courage at that time and block the car with two arms? It is because "I am slow". Most people often say, "Lao Zi, I don't care!" If you are not careful, it will become a meat sauce!

I was born to be slow among all beings. If a person can get rid of slowness, it will soon be "no self"! From a psychological point of view, we can see that people who are slow and very tall are eccentric in everything they do, because their arrogant abnormal psychology is shown to some extent. A shy child, who hides from everyone, is he timid? Not at all. He is shy on the surface, but he is very arrogant at heart.

There is also doubt, paranoia, distrust of anything, anyone, especially practice. Greed, ignorance and slow doubt are the bad habits of all beings, which are not easy to get rid of. Slowness and doubt are contained in greed and ignorance, and ignorance has no wisdom. In practice, slowness and doubt are easier to see and understand, so usually only greed and ignorance are mentioned, and slowness and doubt are less mentioned.

Slowly increase

What does it mean that we have an understanding of my slowness and then increase it? Slower and slower means that people are originally slow, and for some reason, the role of slowness is brought into full play. For example, people with knowledge and insight are most likely to grow slowly. Not only learning, everyone has made achievements in any aspect, and the slowness of higher learning will inevitably increase. Like smart people, they think they are great. If a wise man adds knowledge and experience and embarks on a bad road, it is what the ancients said: "Learning is enough to help his traitors." If they don't learn, they will be fine. If they have knowledge, they will be encouraged to do evil.

Treacherous court officials in the history of China are all talented people with first-class knowledge, like Qin Gui, who is famous for his profound knowledge and clever mind. Under one person, above ten thousand people, it can cover the sky, deceive the upper and lower, and has great ability. A subordinate can hide a clever boss and can't see the things below, which is by no means what ordinary people can do. These people are often "learned people" and easy to make mistakes when studying Buddhism.

I often publicly warn you that the Bodhisattva Road is not easy to reach. Take myself as an example. If someone wants me to have arms today, I can't stand it. I still need to use it and write it! I can't do it. I gave my head, eyes and brain. I can't do it. So I dare not say that I am studying Buddhism easily. But I have seen many people become monks at home after learning Buddhism. I often make the mistake of "Heaven and Earth are the only one", and I often remind them that the "Heaven and Earth are the only one" is the founder and our teacher Sakyamuni Buddha, but unfortunately it is not you and me! There is even a fallacy. Some people often say, "It doesn't matter if you can't read or learn Buddhist scriptures. The sixth ancestor was enlightened, and the sixth ancestor was not enlightened by reading. " I said, "That's the sixth ancestor. You are not six and a half ancestors, let alone seven ancestors, right? " The sixth ancestor didn't study, but he met the fifth ancestor, who had a good teacher. Like Sakyamuni Buddha, he was not enlightened by his ancestors. He didn't say he wouldn't study. Sakyamuni Buddha achieved all the knowledge in the world before he was eighteen. Why don't you study? Refuse to learn Buddhism?

Learn from Buddhism and talk about conversion, conversion to Buddhism, conversion to law, conversion to monks; I don't know how many times I have watched Four Boundless Hearts. Infinite willingness to learn, infinite teaching also includes heretics! Infinity, how much have you learned? They all committed crimes. Increase the warning. Slow growth is a precept, and the opposite of slow growth is modesty, absolute modesty, which is what Lao Tzu said. So learn not to increase the speed. What I'm talking about here is abstinence. More importantly, we must abstain from the heart of growth, so that we can grow and listen more.

I often meet people with good academic knowledge. When I talk about a question, I will simply say, "Let me ask you a question." I just looked at him. I didn't understand what he said. He said I asked you, but I didn't understand. Asking others questions with this attitude and tone will gradually increase! I don't even want to ask and consult with the word "please".

What is the result of the gradual increase? Look down.

"Cover your heart", cover your heart by increasing your speed, think you are great, and believe that your thoughts are right and others are wrong. Maybe now I am old and rare; When I was young, I saw a lot of slowly increasing people on the mainland! Their reputation and fame are scary, and the speed increase is really terrible. On the other hand, when we were young, we also grew quite slowly.

I have seen the older generation of Buddhists before, and my knowledge and fame are first-class. When I was sick and dying, I was very anxious and painful. There's nothing I can do. At this time, all my knowledge and Buddhism have no effect. Finally, a large group of people surrounded him, and the layman warned the younger generation: "You'd better read Buddha honestly in the future!" I didn't mention my name. When I mentioned my name, I made a mistake, as you can probably imagine. The reason is that there is no real practice, because knowledge is good and articles are better than others, so it is wrong to increase the number of people.

There is no way to subdue this increase, unless you are slower than him, then what do you do? You should read more books, learn better than him, and have correct opinions and practices, otherwise there is no way.

The Buddha tells us in the classics that the better his knowledge, the more obstacles he knows, and the more difficult it is to practice Taoism. His afterlife will always be a thinker and scholar, and will never bear fruit. Not only the fruit position of Mahayana Bodhisattva can be proved, but also the fruit position of Hinayana cannot be proved.

You often say "heresy, heresy", heresy is not your view of other religions, or evil spirits go astray. Where are you going? All those who seek dharma from the outside are outsiders. He is knowledgeable, thoughtful, eloquent and reasonable. Tell him to prove it with his body and mind. He can't do anything, because his thoughts and ideas can't calm down, he can't be single-minded and uncertain. So the better the knowledge, the more likely it is to increase slowly. I hide my true nature. I think my ideas are right and others are wrong.

Therefore, the first precept of Mahayana Bodhisattva is to "praise and destroy him", and Mahayana Bodhisattva must first learn to be truly modest.

I often tell my classmates that I am afraid when I see scholars, literati, artists and capable people. I'm afraid of many people. What are you afraid of? Since ancient times, literati, scholars and artists have all made the same mistake: "Scholars despise each other" and look down on others. The article is your own good, the son is your own good, and the wife is someone else's, okay?

When we were young, we read a famous poem:

The article in the world is in Sanjiang

Sanjiang belongs to my hometown.

The articles in my hometown count as my brother.

My brother and I study articles together.

These three rivers are Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Jiangxi. After talking for a long time, I was the first one. Scholars are like this, and so are everyone. Fortune tellers, fortune tellers and artists all "despise each other through the ages", envy each other and even fight. Seeing that other people's business is good is jealousy, so-and-so is not convinced.

Those who engage in religion, Christianity, Buddhism and Catholicism are all "eternal envy". Your temple is prosperous, but mine is not. I hate you so much that I can't wait to set your temple on fire at night, or say a spell to destroy it.

"Scholars despise each other since ancient times" is what the ancients said. Let me add two sentences: "Jianghu has always hated each other, and religions have always hated each other". I've met all three. It's really pathetic! Sometimes it's strange to close your eyes and think about it. Under the pressure of "despise each other through the ages", "hate each other through the ages" and "hate each other through the ages", I can still live, and I can live to dozens of years old, which is almost the same!

Talking about these facts and truths shows that people are fundamentally wrong, that is, they are too slow to heat up, boasting that they are destroying themselves and thinking that they are all right. I often say that people between heaven and earth never admit that they are wrong and others are wrong. I have the habit of taking a taxi. As soon as I got on the bus, I said, "Sorry! Please help me drive to such and such a place. " The driver looked back at me with a puzzled expression. He thinks you are a strange old man. How can you say you are sorry? Say to me: I have never seen anyone like you. I said yes! Please. Please, please. Finally, I got off the bus and said to the driver, "Thank you!"

Anyone who says something wrong knows it in his heart and turns red at once. After a while, he thought about it again and immediately found many reasons to support himself, thinking that he was right or wrong. Do you think all of us are like this? Including me, of course. )

-Mr. nan huaijin talks about "arrogance"