How to choose the right wedding day

How to choose the right auspicious day to get married is very important, and the wedding date is very important in China tradition. Weddings are usually held according to the couple's birthday, so how to choose the right auspicious day to get married? Let's take a look together.

How to choose the right wedding date 1 1, the right wedding date?

From the perspective of "Ji Yue" and "Little Ji Yue", and from the perspective of "a woman marries Ji Yue", we should first consider the wedding month.

Each zodiac has two "good luck months" and two "good luck months" in a year.

The formula of "Italian month" is:

The first and seventh days of the year welcome chickens and rabbits, the second and eighth days welcome tigers and monkeys, the third and ninth days welcome snakes and pigs, the fourth and tenth days welcome dragons and dogs, cattle and sheep in May and November, rats and horses in June and December.

The formula of "meager profit month" is:

In the first seven days, we welcome dragons and dogs, cattle and sheep on the eighth day, rats and horses on the ninth day, chickens and rabbits on the tenth day, tigers and monkeys in May and snakes and pigs in June and December.

For good luck, people often use "good luck month". In case you can't get married in the "big month" for some reason, you can also check it in the "small month".

The date of marriage should be based on the woman's "date of birth"

Dates should be based on women. One principle of choosing a date is to give priority to the date of birth of the bride and refer to the date of birth of the man and others. As the saying goes, "When a child is born, a woman depends on the date of marriage", which shows the importance of the woman's choice of date. If this principle is reversed or ignored, it will lead to problems in the married marriage and even divorce, which new people must not ignore.

3. It is more appropriate to choose leap year and leap month on a wedding auspicious day.

China people attach great importance to the choice of wedding date, and attach great importance to the saying of "leap month" and "leap year". Choose an auspicious day to get married, preferably in a year with a leap month, because it will have a good omen. Of course, if there are no "leap months" and "leap years" in those years, there is no need to force them. Note that "leap year" is divided into solar calendar and lunar calendar.

When you get married, you must avoid those unfavorable days.

As the saying goes, "Rats with poor mouths can't leave the temple on the fifth, fourteenth and twenty-third day", so the fifth, fourteenth and twenty-third day of each month is generally not suitable as an auspicious day for marriage. Avoid September and March of the lunar calendar. It is best to avoid choosing auspicious days in March, July and September of the lunar calendar, because these three months coincide with Qingming, Yulan and Chonggong respectively, which are traditional "ghost festivals" and are not suitable for joint happy events.

5. Avoid the evil spirits of Sanniang on auspicious days.

According to legend, Yue Lao didn't give Sanniang a red line, so that she couldn't get married. Based on revenge, San Niang betrayed Yue Lao and ruined the couple's wedding. Therefore, the third, seventh, thirteenth, eighteenth, twenty-second and twenty-seventh days of each month are not suitable for marriage.

6. When you get married, you must avoid your parents' birthdays.

In traditional numerology, parents' birthdays should not be the same as wedding auspicious days, that is, parents' birthdays should not be married.

7. The date of the wedding ceremony shall prevail.

If you decide to separate the registration date from the wedding date, you'd better do it on both days. If you want to choose, you should choose an auspicious day based on the traditional wedding banquet and wine setting etiquette, because China tradition has always regarded this day as a real wedding day.

How to choose the right auspicious day for marriage? 1. Does getting married depend on the date?

It is a very important reference standard in China's traditional numerology. It takes Qinglong, Tang Ming, Jingui, Tiande, Yutang, Siming and Six Stars as coordinates to decide the good or bad of a day. Unless the six stars appear on the same day, everything will be fine and bad luck will not be avoided.

In the traditional feudal society of China, children must choose a good day to get married. Not only that, the date of birth and the zodiac need to be matched one by one to ensure that they can get married without competing with each other. Today, society still retains the habit of getting married on a certain day, but is it necessary?

In the feudal era of China, a series of marriage arrangements had a strong sense of respect and inferiority, which was an extension of the ancient background of "three obedience and four virtues", so it was of course necessary. Now some parents still attach great importance to this procedure, and set a lucky day after pairing with fortune tellers. However, on this day, both men and women have official duties. If time passes, it will be delayed for a long time. The woman's parents insisted on getting married that day. To this end, their children and parents will not give in to each other, making this beautiful ceremony restless and hoping to give up.

In fact, this contradiction is completely unnecessary today, because the necessity of a whole set of activities in ancient times was based on a huge background of life, and it is obvious that today's society has undergone fundamental changes. Today's auspicious choice is more to win a lottery ticket and increase the joy in my heart.

But then again, as a traditional culture and custom, it makes sense to choose a good luck in a wedding. If you completely ignore it, it is also very easy to fall into disaster. Eight-character numerology and geomantic omen are a way for the ancients to understand the relationship between nature and themselves. After a long period of observation and summary, a set of theories about the influence of weather on human beings is obtained, which is the key to our so-called auspicious day. It's all a plan for a happy marriage if the characters don't match or the timing is wrong. If we can understand this, we might as well learn more about the elements of choosing good luck in marriage, which may open another window for everyone's view of marriage.

Second, how to look at the wedding date

First of all, in the principle of auspicious choice in ancient law, the woman has priority. Although the reason is that men are superior to women, it seems to be a very humanized example today. There is a saying called "Give birth to a child every year and marry a woman every year", which is about the importance of a woman's marriage to life. Therefore, when choosing a wedding date, the woman's eight characters should be the first, which is the starting point of a happy marriage.

Secondly, try to avoid unlucky times. Since it is a happy event, of course, we can't choose some unlucky and cold times, such as March, July and September of the lunar calendar, which correspond to Qingming, Magnolia and Chonggong respectively, and don't coincide with happy events. At the same time, don't choose the node in the month when your parents died, which is easy to get angry.

Third, it is not appropriate to choose single and double. Husband and wife naturally have to pair up, and so does choosing a day.

Know your eight-character destiny

Usually we think that the disagreement of the genus is the disagreement of the eight characters. In the traditional horoscope, the animal sign is only one of them, so the disagreement of the animal sign only represents one of them, and the personal animal sign does not play a decisive role in the marriage of relatives. Analyze and understand the fate of the eight characters of both sides, see the harmony and disagreement from it, and choose an auspicious day from it. Both men and women will be combined with Shenwangjiri, with a happy marriage and prosperous children.

Listen to the opinions of elders.

As an old man in the family, children must care more than anyone else, so newcomers must discuss with their elders, respect their ideas and make decisions together.

Third, the choice of an auspicious day for marriage.

Emotion is the foundation.

Choose the wedding date according to the actual situation of both husband and wife. Marriage life must be based on feelings, not because a "good day" can lead a good life, so don't be too obsessed with "auspicious day".

Make a choice according to the date of birth of the bride.

As the saying goes, "have children, marry a woman." If this principle is reversed or ignored, it will lead to problems in married marriage. It is best to choose Ji Yue as the wedding day. It is best for the man to listen to the woman's opinions as much as possible and avoid the menstrual period on her wedding day. But at the same time, the opinions of others (especially husbands, wives and grooms) should also be taken seriously. After all, it is related to the future family, happiness and harmony.

Choose a day when both sides are healthy.

It is best to hold the wedding when both parties are healthy, otherwise it will not only affect the harmony of new life, but also aggravate the illness. It is necessary to avoid the busy period of study and work for both parties and arrange the wedding and honeymoon itinerary in advance. Discuss when the wedding will be held, inform both parents in advance, and ensure that the elderly and relatives and friends at home can come to the wedding and share the festive and harmonious scenes during the wedding.