What customs do Pingyang people need to get married?

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That is, "blind date". After the matchmaker introduced the woman's appearance and family situation to the man's family, the man initially agreed, so he sent the matchmaker to invite Geng Tie to propose marriage. There are also blind dates first. Generally, unmarried men are shy, and married brothers or uncles go to see them. Girls who are watched often deliberately avoid seeing only their brothers and sisters, so as to guess their looks, commonly known as "touching marriage." So there is a proverb of "blind date uncle". There is no such speculation as a prelude to the wedding.

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The matchmaker gave the woman's Geng Tie to the man's parents, and the man put the Geng Tie in front of the Kitchen God Temple. If there are no unlucky things such as throwing dishes, children falling down, quarreling with others within three days, they will initially pass, and some will ask a poem to sign or ask a fortune teller to get married. After liberation, this ethos still exists in rural areas. Even if you are not superstitious, after knowing that the woman's family situation is not suitable for marriage, it is just an excuse for the gods to send signals to avoid making enemies, and the woman's family can also take the opportunity to save face.

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After the man's marriage is satisfactory, the matchmaker will send the man's wedding invitation to the woman's house for "opening and closing", and then the two sides will agree on the amount of money to be paid and the thickness of the marriage. This is the so-called "appointment by negotiation". Then the man's family sent someone to the woman's house to "set a small place" (paste), with a ring and four kinds of gifts as dowry, and the woman gave back shoes and socks. Then, the man will send bride price, bride price and "sugar golden milk" (deformed pomegranate made of white sugar, symbolizing many children and grandchildren). When the wedding date is set, notify the woman and name it "Send the Day". The two parties hold a banquet to treat guests, which is called "drinking", and the guests should send a betrothal gift.

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On the wedding day, the man sent someone to the woman's house to transport the wedding, and he had to pay "silver flowers". The women in the nave "open their forehead" (comb their hair and shave their heads) and bid farewell to their families. After the decoration, put on the red gauze, and the "Lishi man" carried the sedan chair (after liberation, it was changed to walking. Although the houses are adjacent to each other, they also need walkers (as high as 500 yuan in 1980s). As soon as the sedan chair left, the family immediately sent a "broken evil spirit" with salt and rice, and immediately closed the door to prevent Feng Shui from taking it away. The brother pushed the sedan chair three times to say goodbye.

The sedan chair arrived at the door of her husband's house, and the people around covered the bride with a rice screen and entered the main room along the red carpet (or mat or bag). Going to church to worship the ancestors of heaven and earth is called "the hall". When I entered the bridal chamber, I sat on the edge of the bed, with the man on the right and the woman on the left. My mother-in-law threw fruit indoors, which was called "spreading the bill". The two sides exchanged jiaozi, and then the groom walked out of the room to "toast" the guests at the party. During the Republic of China, these complicated etiquette gradually simplified.

(of relatives and friends) teasing the newlyweds on their wedding night.

Also known as "meeting the bride". Less than three days after their marriage, relatives and friends of the same generation crowded into the new house to make trouble, demanding grapefruit, peanuts, cigarettes and cakes, and teasing the bride. As the saying goes, "the bridal chamber is big and small in three days", that is, no generation can be used as a joke. Too much drama is a bad habit, which has been changed in recent years.

(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.

The day after the wedding, the bride invited her aunt to meet her uncle's elders. On the third day, the bride, led by her sister-in-law, introduced her neighbors, old and young, offered sugar tea, or ordered tea with sugar cake bait, and the drinker gave her money. Walk around the house, then go to the kitchen, worship the stove and learn to cook. On the sixth day, the newlyweds went to a foreign home to meet for dinner, which was called "home visit". The next day, my husband went to the groom's house for dinner, calling it "seeing relatives."

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On the first Dragon Boat Festival after marriage, couples will give zongzi to their husbands and wives, which is called "Hua Hui". Since then, people have given each other food on festivals. My husband's family has sent zongzi to other families, dried rice noodles to Mid-Autumn Festival, and rice cakes to others in1February. My husband's family was sent away from home by other families: Tomb-Sweeping Day's Spurs (called Qing), Tanabata's clever tongue (called Qiao), Mid-Autumn Festival's moon cakes, December's new year's goods and lucky money, and fresh fruits at ordinary times. The biggest giver is the son-in-law's separation, which often bankrupt the poor. Therefore, as the saying goes, "son-in-law is afraid of his son-in-law's separation, and son-in-law is afraid of her husband's funeral."

(of a man) marry and live in her mother's house.

In the old society, only farmers whose only daughter lacked labor came with their husbands, commonly known as "husbands". After marriage, the man works in the woman's house. Give birth to a female surname, and inherit the family property after the death of the foster parents-in-law; Some people take their wives back to their hometown or separate them halfway. This is called "divorce". Those whose husbands have died, their children are young, it is inconvenient to remarry, but their livelihood is difficult, so they invite their husbands to their own homes, which is also called "marrying" and "adopting a husband". The reason for "writing a book" is that it involves the inheritance of the woman's family, and only the parents of both sides and the woman's uncle or brother can take effect. "Recruit a husband and adopt a son" and "write a book" in the ancestral hall. After writing, all the ink and stones were discarded, which means it won't happen again.

Sing a musical dialogue in duet.

The love and marriage of She nationality are less influenced by feudal ethics and are relatively free. Young men and women often fall in love by singing, and then the man asks the media to talk about marriage. With the consent of the woman's parents, the woman went to the man to "see others", and then they got engaged and married. At weddings, this song is always performed. Before a woman gets married, she should sing a "wedding song" to bid farewell to her parents, brothers and sisters. On the day before the wedding, the "Chilang" and "Hanglang" (entourage) of the man's wedding together with the matchmaker sent the wedding banquet to the woman's house. After lunch, please have a "stop-at-home wine". That night, the man will return to the dining table of the woman's house and call it "a big wine", also called "roast wing lang". That is, Chilang holds a bucket plate in his hand, lights candles on it, puts a bag of noodles, a knife of pork and a pair of leggings, and sings "Song of Borrowing an Iron Pot" in front of the stove. In the song, he asked for the use of cooking utensils in a subtle way, and answered everything as many as forty kinds. Only when the woman's family is satisfied can she help him with the whole wine. During the dinner, the woman raised a glass to propose a toast, and the aunt changed to "Toast Song" and paid off the female singer with the duet of "Chilang" and "Hanglang", and stayed up all night. The next day, the woman should get to her husband's house before dawn,' Don't look back. When she arrived at her husband's house, she entered the room wrapped in a red cloth, which means "carrying on the family line".

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The custom of "being a cousin" is also popular among She girls. Before marriage, her uncle, aunt, aunt and other relatives invited her mother and daughter as guests, and the young men in the village sang with her. First, the man played the role of "wasp head", and a set of pleasantries was sung to the satisfaction of the host. Yancha was taken out to entertain the singer, and then the girl was persuaded to sing the song with peace of mind. If the girl can sing and there is no good opponent in the village, we will invite young people from other villages to sing for two or three nights in a row. Girls who can't sing will be laughed at Unique marriage types of She nationality;

Be two in-laws. Both sides are only children, and they want their son-in-law to plant two plots for the elderly.

Service marriage. The poor work in his wife's house for two or three years to offset the employment payment, and then take his wife home at the expiration.

Marriage. The children of both sides are well matched. In the She nationality, "eldest brother is the father and eldest sister-in-law is the mother", so after the death of eldest brother, eldest sister-in-law and uncle can't get married.