The child has a particularly bad temper. What should I do?

There is a child in our family who has a particularly bad temper. From eating and sleeping to working and studying, he has a strong rebellious mentality. Because he always looks impatient, our family has always been strict with him.

For example, it is definitely not allowed to eat and sleep at ordinary times, but if he doesn't want to eat or is distracted by other things at dinner time, he will lose his temper. As a mother, I am also very angry. He is particularly inattentive when eating. He often watches TV or plays with toys while eating. I have to remind him to concentrate on eating at all times. If there is really no way, I will say, "Why are you so disobedient? Love watching TV so much? "

At first he would lose his temper, cheat and cry. Later, I gradually found that he lost his temper less and less, probably because I often communicated with him.

1, control your emotions

Everyone has emotions, but not everyone knows how to control their emotions, especially children.

Some parents may think that their children are still young and will understand when they grow up. This is actually a very wrong idea. When you don't understand children, the first thing to do is to control your emotions.

When a child loses his temper, don't yell at him in a hurry, and don't try to reason with him.

Calm down first and say to him calmly, "honey, mom is very angry to see you now." But mom knows you're sad, but it's over, and mom won't interfere with you anymore. If you don't want to eat or play with toys now, just put it aside, ok? "

Wait until the child calms down and say to him, "Baby, shall we play after dinner?"

2. Listen to your child's thoughts.

Parents should listen to their children's ideas when educating them, because although children are young, they also have their own ideas. For example, if you teach him not to play mobile phones, he may argue with you: "I like playing mobile phones, but my mother won't let me play mobile phones."

At this time, parents should not interrupt him immediately, but listen to his thoughts first, and then explain the problem to him. For example: "Then why don't you want your mother to play with your mobile phone?" "Is it because you watch TV for a long time or play with your mobile phone?"

Parents should listen to their children's thoughts when educating them, and then communicate with them, so as to convince them.

If parents always command or deny when educating their children, then children will have resistance to their parents.

3. Understand children's psychological needs

Parents should pay more attention to the child's inner world, know more about why he lost his temper, and let him feel the care and love of his parents, so that he will be more willing to communicate with his parents. For example, if a child is playing with a toy, parents can ask him, "Do you like this toy very much? Mom liked to play when she was a child. Would you like to share it with her? " The child may answer "I don't like it", and the mother can say "I don't like it either. Do you want me to share it with you? " In this way, children will feel that they are understood and are more willing to share their toys or other things with you.

If parents ignore their children's psychological needs for a long time, it will lead to their children becoming more and more rebellious. Parents must pay more attention to their children's inner world, find problems and solve them in time so that their children can grow up healthily.

4. Educational methods should vary from person to person.

Every child is different and needs to be taught in accordance with his aptitude. For example, some children are emotionally unstable and may get angry easily under the influence of their mothers. If we all teach in the same way, it will definitely hurt children. Therefore, when we educate our children, we must adopt correct methods according to their actual situation to make them grow up better.