People with deep routines have personality characteristics, and women who are always set by bad men.

Someone asked, why are you always beaten by bad people?

Although every woman who longs to be loved wants to meet a good man, then fall in love, get married and have children, and live happily for a lifetime.

However, the reality is cruel. Many women are always hurt emotionally. They will always meet bad men, be disappointed by the routine, and be hurt to doubt their own lives, but they forget the pain and will soon get involved in their feelings again, and the result is to repeat the same mistakes.

Xia Jun said that she borrowed 30,000 yuan from a friend to her boyfriend who had been in love for more than a year. She thought he would pay back the money as soon as possible as before, but this time she always made excuses to shirk it. After repeated reminders, my boyfriend actually disappeared.

She doesn't care if her boyfriend still loves her. She just wants to find him as soon as possible and get the borrowed money back, otherwise she can't explain it to her friends. In addition, she lent her boyfriend 20 thousand before, and she lost 50 thousand in this relationship.

With the help of friends, she found her boyfriend and learned that he gambled all his money. Now he has no money to pay her back, which makes her want to cry.

She had two boyfriends before, and they both broke up. A rich man, after being together, found himself married; An honest-looking man is having an affair with several women at the same time;

Now this boyfriend is getting along well. Later, he kept asking her for money, and he also paid back some of it, then borrowed it and paid it back, lending her 20 thousand yuan one after another.

My boyfriend said he would start a business with a friend and ask her to lend him money to turn around. When he has money, he will buy a big house and get married. She was very excited at the news of her marriage and didn't ask for details. She borrowed money directly from her friends and looked forward to a happy life in the future. She fell into the pit and was scolded badly by her boyfriend.

Seriously, if her boyfriend starts to borrow money and doesn't pay it back, she can't borrow money from her friends. It was because he couldn't resist his sweet words of getting married after he got rich, and he caught her wanting to get married, which made her cheated miserably.

Then, why do some women always get used to bad men, because they all have these three characteristics:

The first characteristic: when you fall in love with a man, you become too sensible and easy to be used.

Xia Jun was suspicious when her boyfriend borrowed money frequently. She wants to ask him where all the money has gone, why one month's salary is not enough, and so on. She wants to know all these things, but when it comes to her mouth, she is afraid that her boyfriend will say that she is material.

After all, talking about money hurts feelings. She is anxious to get married. She was afraid that talking about money would disgust him and was too embarrassed to ask him. She wants to wait for him to take the initiative.

I heard that he was going to start a business, and she didn't ask about the detailed plan. She is afraid of holding her boyfriend back and wants to be his wife and marry him when he is rich.

In fact, she is confused, because she loves someone too much and becomes timid. She is afraid to say something that she shouldn't say to make the other person unhappy, and she is also afraid that talking about money will hurt the other person's feelings.

However, this sensible psychology is easy to be used by bad men. He knows that you are sensible and expressive, and will do your best for him even if your ability is limited.

At this time, he made unreasonable demands. If you don't know how to refuse, you will be beaten by him.

The second feature: there is no bottom line for giving, and I don't know how to keep it.

When some women get along with men, they are afraid that too many demands will cause men's disgust, and that men will not love them, and they will become afraid to face up to their own needs. At the same time, they will not dare to refuse men's unreasonable demands, and gradually become bottomless and unprincipled.

This kind of psychology will make women humble. Subconsciously, they think they are not worthy of men's efforts. Only through your own efforts can you get a man's love. If they want more, they will try their best to pay and don't know how to keep them.

Xia Jun's boyfriend began to lend her money when he was playing with her, creating an illusion that he would pay back the money as before, but this time he disappeared, indicating that he had been planning for a long time.

Xia Jun didn't have any money herself, but she borrowed 30,000 yuan from a friend to her boyfriend, which shows that she has done her best in this relationship.

Many women don't know how to distinguish legitimate needs when they get along with men. In front of men, they are humble to the dust and maintain their feelings in a flattering way. Bottomless efforts can easily fall into men's routines.

The third feature: women are simple and lazy.

Why do some men like simple women? Because simple women are easy to control and achieve their goals.

In feelings, some women are really simple. Men believe everything they say without thinking. They are too lazy to use their brains and care about gains and losses. They like to live in a woven "world of lies" and only enjoy what they want, but they can't see whether everything the other party does is hurting themselves and harming their own interests.

As soon as Xia Jun heard that her boyfriend had made a fortune and got married, she began to dream of married life. She couldn't see her boyfriend's business plan, and she didn't know what he really wanted to do. She was completely in the dark. She also felt that he was working hard for the future of two people, and finally found himself cheated.

Her money is gone, and the money she borrowed from her friend also hit Shui Piao. Her boyfriend's behavior seriously damaged her interests, completely ignored her feelings and broke her heart.

She expected him to give her happiness, didn't bother to ask what he had done, just wanted to enjoy the "results", but expected others to be far less reliable than herself, and finally paid a corresponding price for it.

A woman who is always beaten by a bad man may sometimes find reasons on herself, because once or twice it can be said that she is unlucky, but more times, she will be sure that she has a certain "problem".

These "problems" may be your personality defects, or you don't know how to get along with men, or you don't know how to distinguish legitimate needs.

After finding your own "problem", you should know how to avoid it in your feelings, and don't let yourself be beaten by bad people without knowing it.

In love, when you want to love someone too much, women should learn to master a degree and set a bottom line for themselves. Within the bottom line, you can pay for the person you love, even if you can't get the same pay from the other person, you won't be too sad.

Once the other party exceeds his own bottom line, and then rely on this intimate relationship, we must also learn to stop loss in time.

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