I am a married mother and found that my son likes to wear women's clothes. What should I do?

Analysis: Boys who love to wear women's clothes may be transvestites.

What is transvestite?

The feature of cross-dressing is to get sexual satisfaction by wearing clothes of the opposite sex. Transvestites generally begin to take an interest in the opposite sex clothing between the ages of 5 ~ 14. In adolescence, some people will have sexual fantasies related to heterosexual clothing. At first, he didn't appear in public. He often wears clothes of the opposite sex in his room and appreciates himself in front of the mirror. Later, he gradually appeared in public.

At most, they have a set of clothes of the opposite sex, some are even more exquisite and gorgeous than women, and there are also various women's decorations and cosmetics. At first, I occasionally wore two pieces of women's clothes, and then gradually increased the number of clothes of the opposite sex until I used all women's clothes and used women's cosmetics and accessories. This kind of people think that the opposite sex dress is suitable for their inner personality, and wearing the opposite sex dress makes them have obvious sexual excitement.

How did transvestite come into being?

Physiological factors

Patients try to play the role of the opposite sex because of their own congenital physical defects or acquired dysfunction. Or accidentally stimulated by the visual or tactile sense of the opposite sex clothing, and choose to wear the opposite sex clothing, so as to obtain physiological pleasure.

The influence of family environment

When I was young, my gender was influenced by the environment. For example, my parents want a girl, but they have a boy, or vice versa. In order to fill the psychological defects, children are dressed as the opposite sex, giving more attention and caress. For another example, some parents (especially elderly grandparents), influenced by feudal superstitions, always like to ask fortune tellers to tell their fortune. In order to ensure the safe growth of children, they dress up their children as heterosexual images and take heterosexual names.

Improper guidance on sexual orientation education

Some parents always think that girls are obedient and hygienic, so when educating their children in daily life, they always treat boys as girls and often take the girls in their neighbors as examples for education. Or on the contrary, girls are educated as boys, which makes children lack normal social interaction in childhood and adolescence and develop heterosexual temperament. Being stimulated or hurt in life, because of sexual assault or marriage failure, I really hate the opposite sex and become a transvestite.

Suggestion: What should parents do if children have transvestites?

First, look for problems from yourself.

When this happens to children, parents should not put pressure on them. First, look for problems from yourself. We should face up to this situation and actively try to deal with the problems of ourselves and our children.

The second is in-depth communication.

This is a crucial step. Stop asking "exploratory" questions and find a leisurely time to actively communicate with your child. Children deny moral pressure, so communication should avoid simple moral criticism, but eliminate psychological pressure and let children express their thoughts. Communication is to help children have a correct understanding of their own problems and hazards, so that he can understand, inspire children's tenacious self-help beliefs, and prepare to do their best to control and correct them.

When necessary, we can skillfully use the "aversion" therapy.

Children dress up in the opposite sex, giving disgusting stimulation. This treatment process can be controlled by the children themselves or coordinated by the family. The key is to give enough nausea and stimulation in time.

The most important thing is to help children rebuild their character.

This is a fundamental problem. Many psychological disorders have personality reasons. Therefore, it is necessary to help children design a plan to rebuild their personality, such as going out more, improving interpersonal communication, actively participating in group activities, and doing more sports activities ... and often giving encouragement to strengthen their confidence in rebuilding their personality.

Tips: Don't be too hasty, everything should be based on the child's acceptance, and don't cause the child's rebellious psychology.

Postscript: Don't make a fuss about wearing women's clothes.

When children appear transvestite, parents must not ignore their psychological counseling. However, if the child is just curious about wearing women's clothes, don't make a fuss, just regard it as a dress, and there is no other hint, the child's interest will be dull.