Summarized 100 women's derailed marriages. What is the reason why women change their minds?

Judging from the big data of marriage, the proportion of extramarital affairs in China is increasing for both men and women.

Let's look at eight reasons why women cheat.

1. My husband doesn't care and ignores himself.

For a woman, the hardest thing is that her husband regards himself as air. He regards himself as nothing, can't see his new hairstyle, can't recognize his newly bought clothes, and can't find his emotional ups and downs. He always puts his work, leadership and friends above his wife. Even his own anger, he felt unreasonable.

In this kind of marriage, women often wonder what the meaning of their marriage is and what it means to their husbands.

Especially if the husband often praises and appreciates other women, but he is lukewarm to himself, it is a great blow to women's self-esteem.

2. Couples spend too little time together.

Just a couple. Distance does not produce beauty, but alienation. It is always a matter of time before the two places separate, or one side is too busy, and both sides lack time and opportunities to communicate together and enhance their feelings.

3. Husband and wife lack common language.

The best relationship between husband and wife is that they are good friends. He can understand every hint and joke you tell, which is a wonderful and rare thing.

The famous actor Wang once said that he thinks the best relationship is that two people always have something to say together, and when they have nothing to say, they won't feel embarrassed.

If you are always casting pearls before swine, you can imagine how difficult it is! It happened that women are such people who like to talk.

It was not her husband who gave her support and understanding when she needed it most, but another man who appeared at the right time.

"The girl in my dream is a hero", in fact, this is not only the wish of Xia Zixian's daughter, but also the wish of most women. When you need it most, there is a person who lends a helping hand at the right time. In the eyes of women, it is a heroic existence, and it is hard not to be tempted.

5. The husband and wife live too little, and the husband can't meet his wife's needs;

There are more and more asexual marriages or cold marriages. For men, being too tired, too troublesome, aesthetic fatigue and the inconvenience of children/the elderly can all be reasons for refusing sex life.

However, a woman is a perceptual animal, and she is used to confirming her position and importance in men's minds through men's feelings about her body. Therefore, a woman who can't get her husband's love will have a low sense of self-worth and a sense of crisis, which makes her feel particularly lonely.

Needless to say, there is another group that needs special attention, that is, women who have entered the late middle age. She devoted half her life to her family and endured half her life's dedication and loneliness. Then, seeing that menopause was coming, she began to feel panic, fearing that she would be more worthless when she was old. Therefore, if the right person appears at this time, she is likely to take risks.

6, the husband derailed first, tit for tat.

There are indeed many women who cheat in order to get back at their husbands, especially those who lie and refuse to change their minds. But women can't live without this marriage because of family, children and many other reasons. In order to achieve a balance in their own hearts, in order to make the family return to peace as soon as possible, they will choose to cheat as revenge and comfort their injured hearts.

7. I just want to know if I am still attractive to other men.

This type of woman actually doesn't have much idea about who she really is and what she should do. The meaning of her life must be confirmed by communication with the opposite sex.

For example,

No matter how successful your career is, if no man likes you, you will fail. Even if your marriage is happy, you are not attractive as long as your husband is a man. Generally speaking, these women grew up in families with bad parents. It is likely that their father cheated on them, and they have a serious tendency to domestic violence.

Oppressed by patriarchy, she wants to resist patriarchy, so she hopes to achieve the purpose of resistance by conquering men. However, it is this behavior that makes her lose herself even more.

8. Another man is really more attractive.

Some people and women have a better life and a happy marriage, but they are also derailed. This is because another man is more attractive to her.

Many women pay more attention to hard conditions when they get married, such as house, car, monthly income, man's family background and so on. Because this is the basis of ensuring women's married life.

But after married life, there is no problem with basic living security, and you will start to consider higher-level needs, such as whether two people's outlook on life and hobbies are consistent or not, and whether they have a common language.

When a woman finds that this man can't satisfy me in other aspects except one or several aspects, the scores of these aspects will be greatly reduced in her mind, while the scores of other aspects will be greatly improved.

At this time, if a man scores high in what a woman cares about, then her chances of cheating will become very great.