There are many things in front of the widow's door.

There are many things in front of the widow's door. The first part should be that there is little smoke on the widower's roof This means that men without women seldom smoke and cook, but the latter sentence has become a colloquial phrase. In ancient times, women had to be sober and had no freedom, so once they lost their husbands, they looked miserable. No one dares to approach a widowed woman. There are many things in front of her door. Ancient women said they didn't liberate and didn't respect fate. In today's society, men and women are equal, and there is no longer right or wrong. Women are very happy and have a certain position in the family and society. This is the family lock of women in different times. Today is different from the past. The era of inequality between men and women has long since become history, and it will never return!

What happened to the widow? There is another saying that has a similar meaning to this proverb, wind and rain do not enter the widow's door? Widows get into trouble easily. So what is the correct way to open a widow? Since when are there widows? This statement? Is there a source of allusions? I really don't know. I'm shocked.

Widow? The origin of this word is also related to the widow in the Book of Songs? It is not clear when the word was first used, but it was clearly recorded in the Book of Songs for the first time.

It was the Western Zhou Dynasty, the harvest season. When an elderly farmer's uncle inspected the fields harvested by several farmers, he criticized: How do you work? Bundles of ears of grain were lost over there, and ears of grain were lost all over the floor here. Isn't it a good deal for those lonely old women? Guys, you can't work like this!

It happened that a cultural worker who went to the countryside to collect wind passed by the field and quickly recorded the old farmer's words. After returning, he did some processing and polishing, which became a sentence in a poem: there is a legacy and a stagnation, which is the benefit of a widow. ?

Later, when Confucius compiled The Book of Songs, he named this poem Datian? , classified as Xiaoya? In the middle.

There are many kinds of widows, and they are also widows, and their treatment is very different. The ancient and modern meanings of many words in Chinese have changed greatly, but what about widows? However, its meaning is relatively fixed. Generally refers to a woman without a husband, and later refers to a woman whose husband died among the people.

Although there were men and women giving and receiving in ancient ethics, didn't they kiss each other? Say, there are widows in the world. And so on, but this does not prevent ancient scholars from studying widows. Moreover, ancient scholars were particularly keen on the study of widows, and the research results were quite rich. The greatest achievement is that widows are divided into seven types:

The first is that there are few people. I did appoint a relative, but my fiance died before I walked in the door. In the Yuan, Ming and Qing Dynasties, when the ethical code was particularly strict, such a widow, though still a prostitute of yellow flowers, had to bear the title of widow, and at least formally needed an ex-husband when she remarried? Parents' permission.

The second is widowed under the umbrella. Before giving birth to a child after marriage, the husband died and the wife became a widow under the umbrella. When a widow remarries under an umbrella, there will be some pressure. First of all, she can't dress up as a bride, and she has to sneak out at midnight. The man sent a woman, accompanied by several strong men, to meet him at the village entrance. When the widow comes under the umbrella, the strong man in the man's wedding procession will punch the sky, which means to beat away the ghost of her widowed ex-husband under the umbrella, lest he come to settle accounts with his new husband.

The third kind is a lonely lover. Yuanyang widow is the largest category of widows. Their husbands died after giving birth. Widows in Yuanyang pay more attention to remarriage. In addition to going out in the middle of the night like an umbrella widow, she has to wear a sickle, a hat and a short skirt to the wilderness of Xinlaofu Village to meet her new husband waiting there. They even have to live there for 36 days before they can officially enter their husband's house.

The fourth is the broken bridge. If the husband dies abnormally, the wife is a widow. The remarriage of a broken bridge is similar to the remarriage of an umbrella mandarin duck. It's also about going out in the middle of the night. It's stressful after going out.

The fifth is the lack of flowers. When I was forty or fifty years old, my husband died and I became a widow. The ancients got married early, and in their forties and fifties, most of them had children and grandchildren. Therefore, widows can not remarry and enjoy the happiness of their children and grandchildren at home. Widows want to remarry, and when they get to the new husband's house, they will fight with jealousy. In fact, she will burn a plow and pour a spoonful of vinegar, and the widow will cross the plow with white fog. This is an altar of jealousy. .

The sixth is to abandon widowhood. The husband has not returned for many years and his whereabouts are unknown. He can't tell whether he is alive or dead. If the wife who stays at home doesn't want to wait and asks for remarriage, she is called a widow. As long as you meet some requirements of your in-laws and pay the full price, your in-laws will generally agree to remarry.

The seventh type is divorced widows. A woman who is divorced by her in-laws or her husband is divorced. The rules of divorce and remarriage are equivalent to the combination of widowed mandarin ducks and widowed widows. You have to go out in the middle of the night, live in the wild for a while before you can enter your new husband's house, and you have to fight jealousy before you enter.

These rules only appeared in the late Yuan Dynasty and Southern Song Dynasty, when the ethical code was particularly strict, but they were not paid much attention to in the Northern Song Dynasty and before.

The first widow in China's history was not only famous. She was once received by Qin Shihuang and treated as a VIP. Although there are many injustices against widows in strict modern times, there are actually many widows who have made great achievements in ancient times.

For example, at the time of Qin Shihuang, there was a name called Qing in Ba County (now Chongqing). This widow, because of her outstanding deeds, was recorded in the historical records, so she became the first widow to go down in history.

Qing is a billionaire. When Qin Shihuang built the Great Wall in Wan Li, she donated a huge sum of money to help. When Qin Shihuang built the mausoleum, she donated no less than 100000 Jin of mercury.

Qin Shihuang was greatly moved. In the late Qing dynasty, he took her to live in Xianyang, met her in the palace, and made her a virgin? , but also to build a platform for women to celebrate in Baxian to praise her. In the next 2000 years, few women won the honor of mourning for the emperor.

So, what are the main deeds of the Qing Dynasty?

It turns out that her husband's family has been doing cinnabar business for generations. After her husband died, she took on the responsibility of managing the family business. Because of her economic mind, keen business sense and special attention to technological innovation, her family business soon became the leader of cinnabar and water bank, and also became the only raw material supplier of Qin Shihuang Dan medicine refinery.

Relying on the monopoly of the industry, Qing quickly earned a lot of money, with family property of 1000000000, which is equivalent to the current 20000000 to 3000000000 yuan, and she is the richest woman properly.

After getting rich, Qing doesn't want to buy a sports car or yacht, or enjoy himself in other ways, but plans to make contributions to the country. At that time, the court was repairing the Great Wall, and the budget was very tight. She said, I will donate 5000000! Qin Shihuang needs a lot of mercury to repair the mausoleum. She said, I donate 100000 Jin of mercury!

A woman, still a widow, can earn so much money, not counting, she has devoted so much effort to the affairs of the court! Qin Shihuang was naturally greatly moved. The Qin empire needed a model, and Qing was the best model. Who else is qualified to be a model? So Qin Shihuang praised the Qing Dynasty.

Sima Qian was also deeply moved by the deeds of the Qing Dynasty, so she was recorded in Historical Records and Biography of Huo Zhi.

Before and after the Northern Song Dynasty, she was not a widow. On the contrary, widows are particularly popular, and many kings like them. So some famous queens were widows before they entered the palace, although later generations said that widows had a lot to do? However, this was not the case in the Northern Song Dynasty and before. If a man secretly loves a woman, it doesn't matter whether she is a widow or not. Some court officials and even emperors especially like widows, and Cao Cao is a famous widow. Han Jingdi, Song Taizu, Song Zhenzong, etc. , are not too rich.

It is precisely because of the emperor's good taste that many widows in history have become empresses and even queens. The famous widows of the Empress are the Empress Wang of Emperor Han Jingdi, the Empress Liu He and the Empress Cao.

Wang Yi, the queen of Emperor Jing of Han Dynasty, is the mother of Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty. Her life is quite legendary. She got married early and gave birth to a daughter Jin Su with her husband Wangsun Jin. A family of three lives a simple peasant life.

If they are ordinary people, they will definitely not do anything when they get married and have children. But it happened that Wang Hao's mother Zanger felt that her daughter was so plain that she was really sorry for her beautiful appearance, so she invited a fortune teller to tell her daughter's fortune. Is the fortune teller trying to earn more money, or can he really predict the future? He said that Zanger's two daughters, Wang Yi and Wang Erxuan, were either rich or expensive.

Zanger is stubborn. He will never let it go. Since my daughter Wang Yi is rich and expensive, how can she continue to grow crops with Wangsun Jin? So, regardless of her son-in-law Wangsun Jin's attitude, she forcibly took Wang Hao away. Then Zanger sent his two daughters to Chang 'an and tried to send them to the palace of Qi in Liu Yuxin.

Although the two sisters Wang Hao entered the palace as a maid-in-waiting, they quickly attracted Liu Qi's attention because of their beauty. They naturally got Liu Qi's favor and were named beauties.

From then on, the life of the Grace Wai Wong sisters seemed to be dead. Wang Hao gave birth to a son and three daughters to Emperor Gaozu Liu Qi, and his son was later Emperor Gaozu Liu Che. Wang Erxuan gave birth to four sons to Liu Qisheng. It's just that Wang Erxuan died at a young age and didn't see the scenery after her sister became queen.

According to the classification of widows, Wang Hao is divorced. Of course, Wangsun Jin didn't divorce her, nor did he divorce her. So, seriously speaking, she and Wangsun Jin should be considered divorced.

Song Zhenzong Zhao Heng empress Liu E's experience is even more legendary.

Although Liu E later claimed to be a well-known family, her grandfather was a general in the late Jin Dynasty and the late Han Dynasty, and her father was a local official in the period, in fact, she lived a hard life since she was a child, married at the age of 13, and had to busk in the streets all the year round to survive.

Liu E is a native of Sichuan, and her husband is also from Sichuan. His name is Gong Mei, and he is a craftsman who plays silver ornaments. At that time, the status of craftsmen was lower than that of farmers, which shows that Liu E's family status was quite low when he was young. If her family had a higher social status, in the Northern Song Dynasty, which emphasized the concept of family status, she would have married at least a farmer with a few acres of barren land and never married a poor craftsman with a lower status, right?

Therefore, Liu E's so-called noble family is probably fabricated by her to raise her expectations. Because in the Northern Song Dynasty, which attached great importance to family background, if everyone knew that she was born in poverty, how would she feel as a queen!

After marriage, Liu E went out with her husband to make a living. /kloc-when he was 0/5 years old, he arrived in Tokyo (now Kaifeng), the capital of the Northern Song Dynasty. Gong Mei continued to open a silversmith shop, while Liu E continued to perform in the street.

Liu E plays a good rattle, and her voice is tactfully moving. She soon became famous in Beijing and made a large number of fans. Song Taizong's son, Zhao Yuankan (later Zhao Hengren of Song Zhenzong), also heard about this busker. He was very curious, so he took several attendants and went to the street to watch Liu E's performance in casual clothes.

It doesn't matter at first glance. Zhao Yuankan was immediately fascinated by the talented and charming Liu E, and he planned to bring her into the government.

Liu E and Gong Mei were originally afraid of poverty, and they were naturally overjoyed to hear the news of falling from the sky. They were afraid that Zhao Yuankan knew that Liu E was married and didn't want to accept her as a concubine. After some peace, they lied that they were cousins, which made Liu E enter Zhao Yuankan's house smoothly.

Liu E and Zhao Yuankan will soon be alone. And because they were born in the same year, they think they are absolutely a match made in heaven.

Zhao Yuankan fell in love with a poor woman. When his wet nurse refused at first, she gently advised him to break up with Liu E. How could Zhao Yuankan listen? Nanny had no choice, so she sued Song Taizong directly. Song Taizong was furious and ordered Liu E to be expelled from Beijing immediately.

Where is Zhao Yuankan willing to let Liu E leave Beijing? However, the emperor's orders could not be violated. It seemed that there was no way to leave Liu E in the palace, so he quietly sent her to the palace to command Zhang's home to hide. Although Zhao Yuankan and Liu E can't be together aboveboard, their feelings are getting stronger and stronger.

Liu E stayed at Zhang Jian's house in Zhang 35438+05. /kloc-during the 0/5 years, she was not idle, but read widely, completed all the courses from middle school to doctoral students, became knowledgeable and had the ability to learn from the world. At the age of 30, she was taken into the palace by Zhao Yuankan, who had ascended the throne and changed her name to Zhao Heng. She was handsome and talented, and soon gained his special favor.

Therefore, after the death of Queen Guo, he intended to make Liu E his successor. It happened that Liu E's stomach didn't live up to expectations and she never got pregnant. Then the ministers unanimously opposed it. Later, after Liu E's handmaid Li took the place of Liu E to have a baby, she finally silenced all the ministers, and Liu E ascended the throne smoothly.

When she became queen, Liu E showed her outstanding ability in handling state affairs and became Zhao Heng's right-hand man.

After Song Renzong ascended the throne, Liu E listened to politics for 10 years, which showed her extraordinary ability to govern the country. It laid a solid foundation for the unprecedented prosperity of economy and culture in Renzong period. Therefore, later generations have a high opinion of Liu E, and the history books have commented on her as follows: There are talents of Lu Wu, but there is no evil of Lu Wu? . Lv Wu refers to Lv Hou in Han Dynasty and Wu Zetian in Tang Dynasty.

Comparing the experiences of Liu E and Wang Yi before and after entering the palace, we can find that compared with Liu E, Wang Yi's experience is smooth sailing. However, they also have something in common, that is, they are both widows and divorced, but Liu E is a harmonious and different person. She has always been very kind to her ex-husband Gong Mei and let him enjoy all the splendor. Where is Wang Yi? If it weren't for her son, Liu Che, who became emperor, she found a half-sister named Jin Su, who was living among the people and took her into the palace, I'm afraid Wang Miao couldn't recognize her own daughter, let alone her abandoned ex-husband Wangsun Jin.

As for the empress Cao Shi, she is actually the granddaughter of Cao Bin, a famous star in the early Northern Song Dynasty. Before she entered the palace, she was married once, which was known to courtiers. But even so, the ministers unanimously suggested that Emperor Injong let her be his heir. It can be seen that the social atmosphere at that time was very tolerant Of course, as a famous virtuous queen in the Song Dynasty, Cao Shi also proved with his own life that the ministers' suggestions were indeed right.

Since when are there widows? This statement? Is there a source of allusions? What is the first half of this sentence? Are there many things in front of widows? Literally, it is easy to get into trouble at the widow's door, reminding men not to easily board the widow's door.

So when did this sentence come into being? Is there a clear source of allusions?

Because in the Northern Song Dynasty and before, Neo-Confucianism was not carried forward by Zhu, nor did it become the dominant school of Confucianism, and the ethical code was not so strict. Widows remarry is not uncommon among the people, and it is not uncommon for dignitaries and even the royal family to marry widows. From the above description, we can see one thing.

So, there are many things at the widow's door? This proverb can't have existed in or before the Northern Song Dynasty.

Because Zhu Yu 1 182, a scholar of Dali in the mid-Southern Song Dynasty, published the Notes on the Four Books, and after the publication of the Notes on the Four Books, he has been painstakingly revising the Notes on the Four Books. The revised Notes on the Four Books have long been regarded as the norms of people's thoughts and behaviors in the Yuan, Ming and Qing Dynasties, and have also become the standard textbooks for imperial examinations. So, are there many things in front of the widow's door? This factor should never be ignored when it first appears.

What happened to the widow? Another proverb with similar meaning, wind and rain don't enter the widow's door? There is a clear source. Lyrics contained in Wang Shifu's zaju "Lv Mengzheng Snowstorm Broken Kiln" in Yuan Dynasty:? Don't worry, don't enter the widow's door? , is a storm, not into the widow's door? The earliest written record. Therefore, this proverb should have appeared in the Yuan Dynasty, not earlier than the late Southern Song Dynasty.

As for the right and wrong at the widow's door? I didn't find a clear source of allusions, but I guess it was with the storm and didn't enter the widow's door? This proverb appears at the same time. Combined with the previous analysis, are there many things in front of the widow's door? The earliest time cannot be earlier than 1 182.

As for the right and wrong at the widow's door? What was the last sentence? Everyone must know this, that is, there is less smoke on the roof of a widower's house? .

A widower is a man who instructs his wife not to remarry after her death. As for the bachelor, he is not among the widowers. Is there less smoke on the widower's roof? No one in the widower's family cooks for him, which also reflects the lack of warmth in the widower's life.

But it is not particularly difficult for a widowed man to remarry as long as his family's economic situation is not particularly bad. Therefore, there are not many widowed men. This led to less smoke on the widower's roof? This proverb lacks a broad social foundation, so it is gradually seldom mentioned.