Three kinds of people can't go to the grave

Three kinds of people can't go to the grave

Three kinds of people can't go to the grave. In life, I believe many friends know that graves are evil, so they generally don't go. In rural areas, the annual Qingming Tomb Sweeping is about to begin, and we will visit the graves when we are in Tomb-Sweeping Day. I sorted out the following three kinds of people who can't go to the grave.

Three kinds of people can't go to the grave 1 the first kind of people: people in poor health.

That is, people who are weak. Another situation is pregnant women. I want to explain this problem from two aspects: idealism and materialism, according to the saying handed down by our rural elderly. Ideologically speaking, when a person is in poor health;

Usually, yang is weak. When sweeping graves, it is inevitable to walk in cemeteries with heavy yin and Shan Ye, and it is easy to get dirty "yin" and hurt your already weak yang. In the eyes of the rural elderly, this is called "evil".

However, from the materialistic point of view, people with poor health have poor immunity, hanging graves on mountains is easy to get involved, and walking on mountain roads after climbing and sweating is easy to catch a cold due to mountain wind, which is not conducive to physical conditioning. Therefore, it is best for such people not to go out when they are sweeping graves. Especially pregnant women, walking in rural mountainous areas has great security risks. If they catch a cold or fall, it's no joke.

The second kind of people: people who are "unclean" or have trauma.

What do you mean your body is not clean? For example, when a woman menstruates, don't go out to the grave at this time. Mentally, it is "rude" to have a wound on your body, and it is also "rude" for a woman to menstruate. Imagine: Who wants to "lose their tools" or "be rude" when they worship their ancestors?

From the materialistic point of view, a wounded person or a menstruating woman is walking in the countryside of Shan Ye, but it is the time when the vegetation is flourishing, and it is easy to get infected with the grass "poison" on the mountain.

Therefore, our ancestors warned future generations that such people should not go to the river on Qingming Festival. As for the reason, let them "experience"! People who listen to advice are naturally fine. If you don't believe in "evil", let them "challenge the law"!

The third kind of person is a son-in-law and should not go to the grave.

In this regard, I want to make it clear that this rule was made by the ancients, but it is not necessarily completely scientific, because this rule was originally the product of ancient feudal thought. In ancient times, people preferred sons to daughters, thinking that if a son-in-law came to visit the grave, others would think that there was no son in that family. Otherwise, how can only the son-in-law go to the grave? But in today's society, men and women are equal, and it is impossible to have such an idea of discriminating against women.

Besides, now that all male laborers have gone out to work, many "sons" may not be able to go back to their hometowns to go to their graves during the Qingming period. The task of sweeping graves in Qingming often falls on the "daughter" who takes care of her children at home. Can ancient regulations still work?

Therefore, the provisions of the ancients can not be copied and accepted, but should "take its essence and discard its dross." Only in this way can society develop. However, in view of the fact that there are still some feudal remnants in some parts of our country.

Three kinds of people can't go to the grave.

According to folklore, if a pregnant woman goes to visit the grave, the child in her belly is afraid of Yin Qi in Tomb-Sweeping Day, which is very bad for the child. Of course, this is a superstitious statement. In fact, such folk customs are a kind of' protection' for women and children.

We know that folk ancestral graves are mostly in remote places and even take some mountain roads. The journey is long and bumpy. Pregnant women will naturally be particularly tired when they go to the grave. In severe cases, it may even lead to miscarriage. So our ancestors emphasized that pregnant women could not go to the grave.

The true filial piety is in our hearts. If the woman in our family is pregnant, we might as well not go to the grave and wait until next year to worship our ancestors. Giving birth to a healthy child is also the wish of ancestors and the greatest filial piety.

Second, old and weak.

Some old people are old, some are in poor health and even have some diseases. The folk conclusion is that it is unlucky for these frail old people to go to the grave. First, these old people are in poor health and have a long way to go to the grave.

Besides, it always rains in some places around Tomb-Sweeping Day. There is a saying in the ancient poem, "It rains in succession during the Qingming Festival". When the old man goes to the grave, he will be very tired at first and his health will be prone to problems. Therefore, there is a folk saying that the elderly can't go to the grave. According to superstition, old people are weaker than yang and vulnerable to external evils, which will affect their life span. )

In order to solve this problem, it is said that the elderly can burn some paper money for their ancestors at intersections, and if their children are around, they can give them to their children.

Third, children can't go to the grave.

If there are children at home, it's best not to let them meet with the grave to worship their ancestors. The reason is that children are naive, sensitive to some things and very easily frightened. If the child is frightened, it may cause headaches, fever and other symptoms, which is naturally what we don't want to see.

And the child's resistance is poor, so Tomb-Sweeping Day pays attention to the word "early" when he goes to the grave. If you go to the grave early, it will be warm and cold before and after in Tomb-Sweeping Day, and the children can't stand this kind of weather, so they may get sick. Therefore, people say that children can't go to the grave.

The safety of the whole family is the greatest wish of our ancestors, so even if the children don't go to the grave, our ancestors won't blame them. Do you think so?

Fourth, summary.

Many places have different pay attention to Tomb-Sweeping Day's going to the grave. It is said that in addition to the above three kinds of people who can't go to the grave, Tomb-Sweeping Day should worship early, pay attention to the offerings, and can't wear too shiny clothes, let alone bare his body; There are also some places that pay attention to the fact that son-in-law can't go to the grave, and there is even a saying that "son-in-law doesn't go to the grave and goes to the grave to humiliate his ancestors." Of course, there will inevitably be superstitious elements in these statements.

Three kinds of people can't go to the grave.

Most of the peers mentioned here refer to the old peers, which means that many old people of the same age have passed away. Then, the living peers don't need to go to the grave to worship. First, there was a strict hierarchy in ancient times, which determined the inheritance of respecting the elderly in the family. There is also an old man of the same age, who is not convenient to go to the grave to worship his ancestors in person, and is afraid of too many accidents.

Second, the son-in-law does not go to the grave.

In traditional thinking, "men are superior to women" has become a far-reaching concept. A daughter's marriage is like splashing water, so she takes her husband's surname after marrying her daughter. Moreover, according to traditional customs, only the names of family men will appear on the tombstones of ancestors;

It can also be seen that a woman's name can't be put on a tombstone. Moreover, the son-in-law's family should also pay homage to the ancestors. If it is the same day, it is impossible for the son-in-law to visit the grave to worship the ancestors.

In addition, sweeping graves and offering sacrifices to ancestors themselves show that family men are passed down from generation to generation, mainly from immediate family members. If the son-in-law comes to worship the ancestors, the villagers will think that there is no male sacrifice to sweep the ancestors, which means "broken pulse", so the son-in-law cannot go to the grave. As the old saying goes, "

Third, babies, pregnant women and other weak people can't go to the grave.

Grave-sweeping in Tomb-Sweeping Day requires people to personally pay homage to their ancestors, and graves are generally far away from living areas, some need to be at the foot of the mountain, and some need to climb mountains. In addition, the road in spring is difficult to walk, so it is very hard to sweep graves and worship ancestors.

Babies, pregnant women and the infirm can't go to the scene at all. In the traditional concept, babies, pregnant women and so on. You can't go to places with heavy yin, and the cemetery is one of them.